Alienating others is an unhealthy practice in mylot

Hello zandi!I actually responding on discussion by the topic that interests me regardless if the poster is from my list of friends.Sometimes there are topics that I cant relate or out of my basic principle.And just like what your first respondent said, rather she post something that will cause her harm or to hurt others she better stay out from the discussion.Same with me as I found several topics here that really make me chill.lol.So I avoid to comment at all to avoid friction.

Hello Zandi. I think i am somewhere in the middle at the moment. Let me explain - at the moment, i have returned recently (in the middle of november) after a 9 month of almost inexistent activity here, due to a very demanding job - so as of 1 week ago since i restarted to catch up here, i felt it was a priority to answer my friends topics - i took them one by one, and as a second objective i answer discussions from any member that pops my interest if i see them in the main page. After i will finish with this through pass through the list of friends, which consists of less then 4 pages, i will also be more open to any mylot discussion / member out there. Bottom line, is that i tend to be open to the whole mylot community but i know my priorities as well.

I don't think it is alienating people to be friends with some people and not others. Personally, I wouldn't say that I have any friends on mylot because I don't really know anyone on here. I am not here to make friends, I am here to make money. Other people may like to have many friends, like you and will befriend everyone that they come in contact with. Other people will prefer to have a small group of people that they consider friends. Just because they aren't your "friend" doesn't mean that they are alienating you or anyone else that they don't consider a friend.

I cannot be friends whose conversation is offensive to me. I prefer to just ignore those people.

I have been responding mainly to my friends’ discussions as they appear in my in box, I am a tad behind and working hard to catch up. I am friends to everyone here and I’m open to meet more people. The reason I don’t often get to browse through MyLot and find posts by other than my friends is time. I can barely keep up with my notifications let alone find more! I don’t purposely alienate anybody, to me that is an immature and silly thing to do and I agree it is not the advisable thing to do!

I never restrict myself like this, whenever i find a nice topic, i will respond to that discussion whoever might be the discussion starter. I accept all friendship requests coming to me at the end of the week. I have a question for you, i got a request from a user last week , that user haven't made a single post till now, still i have queued that request..It's on hold..When i see a single response made by the user, i will accept at the next second. I like to be friends with everyone in this mylot. I like this very much. Everyday i get to know different kind of situations in this mylot. This is really great....

I have many freinds on my list all dont post so I cant respond to them. And I take on new ones all the time but not if they I see nothing we really have in common or tht we can lern from one another. I like that inmylot that we learn so much more aboutthe world around us

I try to get along and be friends with everyone myself.Wherever they are. On the internet or in real life. Although I seem to have a few people in real life more then I have online. I seem to get along with people I have met online better.I try to get along with everyone in mylot.

There's just no time. I'm always behind with just my notifications and the digest...I sure don't need someone telling me what my reasons for being here are or that my participation is unhealthy. I'm here primarily to earn. If I learn something that's a bonus. Most of my friends whom I consider to be my peers no longer frequent this site preferring Facebook. I miss them but I don't like Facebook. Of those that are left, I barely know them or I am not able to relate to them so no, I am not a friend to everyone here. With a population of over 221,000, I think it's a bit ridiculous to suggest friendship to all and the accusation of nepotism equally ridiculous as no-one here has any more power than anyone else. Sure, try and act in a friendly way towards others but stop being so judgemental.

hi zandi I cannot belive I missed this discussion for a whole year, but I did. I love this as thats the way I have felt here,I not only responds to those on my mylot friends list but to any discussion I am interested in as that way I met people from all over the wor ld and make friends too. I do cherish my different friendships ans some are not on my list but as I kept responding to them they do respond back also . I ha ve a huge friends list as it is and cannot respond even to all on my list, over a thousand friends.I really am a friend to everyone and I love being that way. I dislike cliques and have never tried to have one either.

Well, we can't avoid that practice here friend. It is really true that we are all here to socialize and make some extra cash but we should consider also that we different ideals in life... I'm a friend to everyone. Whoever want to me to be his/her I will accept and share things to them

There are all kinds of people in the world, zandi. I cannot be a friend of everyone and I don´t have time to answer everyone of the posts my mylot friends write. One does what one can do. I don´t stick to the same grourp of people. If that happened with anyone, that person would not be able to have even one friend. Not to answer a discusion is not just to ignore it. Many times I don´t answer because I don´t have anything new to say. I have put a notify off in people who manage to write 20 or 30 posts a day about nothing of interest. It´s a sort of spamming I don´t want in my mail. I go to mylot, posts started by my friends and check titles of interesting issues. But I couldn´t posibly be friends to everyone here. And I DO have my favorite people. Take care!

I am certainly open to anyone that is interested in conversation (nice-that is LOL)

I would fully agree with all that you say. We shouldn't just stick to our friends topics but also to look at others also. I think that the email we get from mylot digest to show many different topics is a good way of looking at what other people have to say about different things and it shows that we aren't just sticking to those people that are in our friends list by doing these. We should venture out and look at other people on here, afterall as you said, we are all here for the same reasons and so we should also try to make new friends but also that goes with not alienating the friends that we already have on here. I guess you also have to look at the fact that some people don't work and so could be on here all day and it would be easier for them to make more friends and answer and create many discussions, but harder for people like me to keep up with everything and everyone as i work full time and i am also a single parent so i do not get as much time on here as many others do but i do try to do my friends discussions and others aswel. I like reading what many others have to say and it is great to venture out to more people.

I have quite a few friends on my list, and when I cannot find a discussion from them to respond to, I go afield searching for new discussions. A number of my friends are not like me, and I am not like them, but we communicate here. I think I am a good Mylot citizen. Of course I get notifications from my friends, but I respond to others as well and I do not always respond to my friends, if the discussion is not something that is relevant to me. I do not think I have alienated anyone for a long time.

I do respond to other people's discussions when I see them and have something to contribute to. However, I'm not on my computer as much as some so it's not that often that I'll respond to any discussion but when I am, I do try to widen my horizons a bit. Like you, I'm a friend to everybody no matter where they're from or the color of their skin or even if they're not human. I give everybody a chance but once or twice they do me wrong, I'm finished with the friendship.

I try to be a friend to everyone online & in the real world. On mylot as in real life u can't be friends w/everyone.

Hi zandi~ I have a very "large group" of friends because I also include all of mylot as friends! I am making "new" friends all the time and I love it! I love meeting new people and sharing new things and learning more about different cultures! Mylot has become a part of my everyday life and I'm proud of that!

I consider everyone here a mylot friend. I do not answer all discussions offered me, but I never turn one down because of who wrote it. In fact I rarely look to see who wrote it. I turn down discussion because of lack of time or because I have already answered the same question over and over again. This doesn't help the newbies out since many of us start with the same questions until we are more confident and create discussions of interest. But I just don't have time to consider more than a handfull of discussion per day.

No matter what the case, it is not a wise choice to alienate others. You never know when that friendships you would have passed on will be the one you value the most.