What separates good advices from bad ones?
By ellaangelus
@ellaangelus (283)
Tokelau
November 29, 2010 2:23pm CST
What i mean is that.. an advice can be good to someone, while be bad for another person. How do you know if the advice you're about to give will have a good or bad influence on that person?
I guess no one knows at that particular time, not even the person involved. We all take risks with the decisions we make. So what separates good advices from bad ones? And did you ever wished that you've said a better advice someone, but now its too late?
7 responses
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
30 Nov 10
Hi ellaangelus!
I would say that a good advice would match the time and opportunity for someone to act perfectly. And that would separate one advice from another. I can't remember much giving advice to anyone but I've been more of a listener to my friends.
@ellaangelus (283)
• Tokelau
30 Nov 10
i usually give advices, that's why i asked this. i tend to put myself many times in their position, and i tell them if i were them, i'd did that..
@tomitomi (5429)
• Singapore
30 Nov 10
Great! I remember once when a friend asked if she should stay or quit her job. It wasn't an advice that I gave. But rather an opportunity for us to talk as I let her see the advantages and disadvantages of her staying and quiting. She quit as she felt happier. And I was happy for her too.
@ellaangelus (283)
• Tokelau
30 Nov 10
now that you said it, i realise i always gave the pro's and con's for what i say, i just didn't notice :) makes me feel a little bit better. thank you
and i'm also glad for your friend ^^ i bet she's still happy
@ellaangelus (283)
• Tokelau
29 Nov 10
avoid giving any advice might be a bad choice too.. what if that person really didn't firgured out anything, you try to give him/her options, to choose what to do..
world is so hard to understand, human beings even harder ^^'
@DoctorDidi (7018)
• India
5 Dec 10
I think advice given by a good and honest person is always good for all persons because a good and honest person always gives an advice considering all the characteristics of the concerned person who seeks an advice. However,it is the duty of the person seeking advice to analyse the advice thoroughly to see whether it is suitable for him and then to decide whether to follow it or not.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
30 Nov 10
Hi there, to before I will give any advices to anyone I trying to know first the whole story and to whom is about, from that point you can give good advices to the concern. Because if you did not do that definitely you will give bias advices... see you around @joystick (1675)
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29 Nov 10
To be true to you, i would have to say to a person that in what ever problem that they have, the things that i would do if i was them.I think that there are people that will as what they should, as well as there are people that you can say what they should do yet they never do the right things that you are saying any way.
@jgv001121 (12)
• Philippines
1 Dec 10
in my opinion there will be no good nor bad advice.people seeking out advice from someone is just needing somebody to speak with. it is better to talk things with somebody than just you thinking about the problem. also helps to get another's prespective or opinion.
@RebeccaScarlett (2532)
• Canada
29 Nov 10
When you give advice, you should always know as much about the situation as possible, first. Ask a ton of questions if you have to. Then, when you give the advice, make sure the person knows you are basing this on your experience, or on something you've read, or if it's just something you heard worked for someone else. That way the person knows where you're coming from too, and can decide if they want to act on your advice or not. No one is perfect, and even the wisest people make mistakes sometimes, so it's important to just give your best advice, and refrain from giving advice if you don't know enough about the subject to do so.
