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Hi mydogshadow! You've touched the bottom of my heart. Your mother is blessed and lucky to have you. She may not be able to say or show it but I'm sure she's happy and thank you a lot. I believe you'll be equally rewarded for what you've done for her. I salute you!

Thank you for sharing, what you said is so very true! I am the primary care giver for my son who was injured in an automobile accident two years ago. Patience is indeed one of the many things I have begun to learn. We do indeed take so much of our lives for granted. I know I did before I lost my life that day. Now I live to care for him...it's very different now...

Hi mydogshadow~ I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through with your mother. My mother is going to be 81 in February. While she is still healthy at the moment I also worry about the "what if the time comes" (if I am still here because she seems healthier that me). I know that it is very difficult. I worked for Hospice and they are there to help you with all the processes so let them. I will pray for you to be able to deal with what you are going through. I am here if you ever need someone to talk to. All you have is send me a PM.

What advice do you need? You know, the only person who can help you is yourself no matter what kind of advice you may hear from different experts, after all it's your choice. Though it's a fact that when a person we dearly loved and reached the age to leaving earth, it is really hurtful. We can't be able forget them and it's really hard to accept that one day they'll be gone. But what can we do about it? We have to accept that fact that no one would stay forever on earth. While you have still your mother beside you, just feel to your mother how important she is to you and how much you love her. Just make your mothers' remaining days memorable so that one day she would leave happy and contented. That's very important after all, no one would ever wanted to leave earth with full of regrets, right? it's up to you if what things you would need to do to your mother as long as she would be happy. Whatever your mother says, listen to it. cheers :)