What comes first, love? or lust?

vijayanths if lust comes first,a lot of times if there is somelove next, it all flies out of the window as real love starts as friendship then love develps and the lust. look at how many go to who#es forlust and that is purely physical, no love involved there and so many boyfriend girlfriend situations are just lust mistaken for love and once they scratch their itches its goodly have a nice day and off for the next person. real love comes first after friendship, lust isjust a side issue until love comes, if not first it doesn't last. Lust is fleeting, real love is not.

I personally think the same, lust is always the first to come, i dont think you can fall in love if lust isnt there :)

Friendship comes Before Both! And then love or lust.It All depends . I have had it Both ways. With my ex , lust followed friendship and uit didn't last. With y guy Friendship came first , then Deep friendship and The love and then Lust. Let me tell you This is Far better!

I agree with you, friend. Because most male or female look at physical figure other than the inner part of the person which is love...

Hi anna how are you? I think love will come first, feeling of lust without love is can't image is it? Of course in the couple it is there but they have love on each other. Its is a part of marriage life to make couple together and to have a strong relation too. How come without love lust will be there ! Have a good time anna.

If love or lust are my only choices then I will opt to saying it is lust. However I feel the need to say that attraction is first, then lust then love As without the attraction there will not be either of the two the follow.

Hi vijayanths, For me love must come first. Blessings.

I think you can have either one separately or both together.

love i guess. for what i had experienced before, i am falling in love at the first sight. never know to whom the love it fall. i just happen that way

Sometimes it's neither lust or love that comes first. I found myself in a friendship with someone that I neither felt lust or love for. We had a very good friendship and only as the friendship grew, I found myself falling in love and developing a physical attraction after that. xoxo Cyne

Usually I think so also! Because what first attracts you to someone, but their appearance and whatever chemistry you might feel between yourself and that other person.. But not always. I feel like people LEARN to feel that chemistry after they meet, sometimes.

In my personal experience its need friendship to have love last. In my country its a little old fashion you will not jump to bed with someone you are not marry. We usually meet someone, make friend and after know each others, thats feeling come we just follow its in old fashion way. I think relationship start from lust usually not last longer. But relationship start from friendship will because its meaning your falling in love after you know thats person inside and admire it.

i feel they both are different and should not be compared.. you dont think about anything alse when u are deeply in love.. Lust is not your priority, What matters to u is a smile on face of person you love... Mayb i am an idiot but thats the way i think

Well you have to like the one you fall in love with so i think lust is there :P So its natural the lust to come first maybe ;)

I think it depends on the individuals. You could become friends with someone, get to know them over a long period till you are the best of friends and then one day, something happens...there is a spark between you and you both realise it's been there for some time...not all the time, but a little while. With a casual affair, it's the chemistry between two people that creates the lust and once the fire is put out there is not much left to build on. If you build a friendship first, that's a solid foundation. So my answer is...it can happen either way. One usually leads to a long term commitment, the other to an insignificant in the long run, romance.

Hi Vijayanths, I have to agree with you. At the beginning it is lust. I think if more people recognized this and took a little more time to get to know the person before carrying the relationship to the next level that they would realize that when the lust ends the relationship should end. But because they think it is love, they continue a relationship in hopes of making it something that it never was and never will be. Love takes a long time to develop.

Hi vijay! I think you are right! When people first meet they usually are attracted to each other physically so that would be lust! The might have a chemical attraction which would make the feeling more intense which might lead to love. But, sadly many people mistake lust for love and then someone ends up getting hurt. You should try to figure out things before you end up getting hurt from "lust"!

hello dear anna LOVE comes first...not unless your heart is in your pants Cheerss..peace dear anna

Seasons Greetings from my country Vijay. I'm a little late here. I agree with the other myLotter or two that it all depends. Basically, I think love comes first. You see someone you like and bam, you're done. Under those circumstances, hitting a love crazed person with lust only finishes him off - he never had a chance. Yet, lust can come first in many cases.

lust is the first thing that comes. This happens with people of all ages. But over time, lust changes to love and i have seen many such stories