should you tell your spouse that you had an abortion in the past?

i would tell him^^ bcs it was from my past. anyway i wouldnt abort on purpose i guess i couldnt. i dont judge who does but i guess i couldnt. i would tell bcs i rather be not loved for who i am than be loved for who i am not. that would be a lie to him so sure i would tell the truth. if he couldnt understand my reasons then was up to him^^

I would be very shock if she told me that, I would be angry momentarily but I'll listen and comfort her. It's not an easy issue it will be there to haunt her unless she will not resolve it. I will help her find a reliable person to help here reconcile the past and ask forgiveness to the unnamed child. I remember that the woman whom the case that made abortion legal in US is now campaigning for anti-abortion.

Hi Swissheart, In a relationship, honesty is very important. If the abortion happened within our relationship then by all means I would tell him. If it happened long before we met then I do think it is best to be 100% honest but I also don't know as it is important to reveal every little thing. What's wrong in this situation is the reason for not telling him. You should never fear rejection from telling your spouse anything.

Depends. If that abortion includes our supposed first child then i'll leave her for that.

I do not believe in abortion myself, however if it was something I did in my past it should not reflect my current relationship. However, as the relationship gets serious it is not a good idea to keep secrets. So being open may lead to understanding as that was something done prior to them getting together.