Need Advice From My Pet Friends, Especially Cat Owners

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It would seem strange that here I am asking for advice about pets, since I've been surrounded by cats/pets ever since I was five...actually even younger since when even as a baby my parents had dogs, so you would think I wouldn't need advice but I do. As many of my friends know here at MyLot, back on April 19th, my beloved black kitty Pyewacket passed on to Rainbow Bridge, and yes while it's been months now I'm still devastated since he died in my arms. After he died I watched my other cat Kissy like a hawk, not so much due to perhaps unexpected health problems, but I was more concerned about her feeling perhaps grief also for losing her furry companion. Now the two weren't exactly chummy, in fact, Pyewacket was the attention grabber, he wanted my attention ALL to himself. If I talked to Kissy, no matter where he was, he'd literally come running over and push Kissy aside---also every once in awhile he'd actually bully her a bit, so number one, Kissy never got the attention she should have gotten, and since Pyewacket kind of kept her in her place, Kissy was a timid cat. Still--I've been watching Kissy for any signs of "grief" and really don't see any. I mention the "grief" part since many many years ago, say around the 1970s I had about four or five cats. One cat was Mickey, who wasn't exactly chummy with his furbaby companions. That all changed when we got another cat, Tommy. Well these two bonded like brothers, and in all the years of having cats, I never saw a bond as tight as these two cats. Now zoom up many years. One night very late around 3:30 A.M. Tommy died suddenly. Almost immediately, I began to notice a behavior change in Mickey...he was lethargic, morose and within a month's time he too died, and I can't help thinking from grief due to his furry companion dying as Mickey had no health problems. So when Pyewacket died, I watched Kissy like a hawk to see if there were any signs of depression or grief as well---All I can say, no, I haven't. In fact if anything, Kissy seems to be basking in the glory of being number one kitty and is now the attention grabber herself. In fact, so much so, that she has a habit of jumping up on my computer desk as if to say "Okay 'mom' enough time in front of that dang computer...pay attention to me." So of course, I have to stop everything...first of all I can't see a blasted thing anyway since she gets in front of the monitor and will sometimes sit on the keyboard. The thing is....eventually I want to adopt another cat, and hopefully another black cat like Pyewacket. I've had black cats all my life and unlike most people who think black cats are bad luck, I on the other hand would think it bad luck NOT to have a black cat. I sort of have a cat already picked out as well whom I can adopt from a foster. His name is Nicky and he's a two year old black cat. But......... I've held off since his behavior is described as "timid" just as Kissy was (she's not so timid now). I'm still having to have more repair work done in my apt. and the idea of having noisy repairmen tramping about might spook the "newcomer" no end, so one of the reasons I've been holding off. I have these "visions" that while the repairmen are traipsing in and out of my apt, Nicky might make a bee-line and run out the door. The second reason for holding off....Kissy. She's gotten so used to being numero uno I'm wondering how she'll react. It's been a LONG time since I've had to go through the process of introducing a new furbaby--yes, I know I can expect some hissing and growling until both cats get used to each other and will have to give it patient time. But I'm also wondering how it might affect Kissy. Since she's number one now, will she be the "pushy" one to a newcomer, the way Pyewacket was pushy to her? Will she feel hurt that I dared to get another cat? Will she sink back into the timid state or become more aggressive. So folks any advice how to handle this. I'm DYING to get another cat--I realize it will be an adjustment period for all of us, me, Kissy and "Nicky" (or whomever I adopt) but wonder how to handle it None pet people might think I'm daft for even meaning the possible "psychological" issues, but I know my pet friends will understand what I mean For those of you who have pets...did you notice any negative changes in behavior of the "older" pets you had when you introduced a furry newcomer? Helllppp