Stubbor Boy- Potty Training

Canada
December 1, 2010 2:36am CST
Ok so here is the deal, my son is going on 20 months, and we would like to kick start potty training. However some of the hurdles we are faced with is that my son does not say any words, and also can't stay still for longer than 30seconds. I've been trying to get him to sit on the potty throughout the day, but he will never stay on it longer than 30seconds, and prefers to drop the lid down then sit on it. Of course trying to make him sit on it wouldn't be too good of an idea because he will have negative feelings associated with it. So between that and him not being able to tell me he needs to go, and not knowing if he understand, i don't know where to start. Today i let him run around naked till he peed. Unfortunately he started on the floor, i then sat him on the potty where he finished, and tried to make a big deal about it so that he would know its a good thing, but it didn't even seem to phase him. Any advice or suggestions. My first time potty training so i could use and and all help. Thanks
4 responses
gwapalagiko
@gwapalagiko (25)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
potty training could be so much frustrating for parents, but it is wise to remember that the little one may also be stressed about it. he might not be able to say how he feels yet, but there will come a time when he will initiate potty training. maybe you could relax a bit on this matter and try to talk to your little one when he is in a good mood and just try to introduce the potty and what it is for and so on. make his potty experience stress free and he will look forward to using it frequently. you can praise him if he shows even the tiniest bit of effort in going to the potty and tell him that he did a good job and maybe next time he can go to the potty again. if you appear to be hot headed or frantic when he tries to pee he might think that peeing is bad and so this will inflict a negative feeling to your child. so try to stretch your patience and give the little one more praises. good luck!
gymboaddiction
@gymboaddiction (2)
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8 Dec 10
From my experience, and i have 2 boys i had to potty train first, then lastly my daughter, boys are harder to potty train, not exactly sure why, but they are. I had to wait until they were ready, i couldn't make them sit on the potty or let them run around naked. They will give you certain signs that they themselves are ready to do it on their own. We all would like our children potty trained by a certain age, but it just don't happen that way. Both my boys were totally done at 3.5, and my daughter was 2. Another trick that may work that i've tried is putting underwear on them, pull-ups if you use them are worthless, they feel like a diaper to them. Sometimes if they go potty enough in their underwear they tend to hate the feeling of being wet, and they will run to the potty as they start to go, leading eventually to a stronger bladder and being able to hold it long enough to go potty in the toilet. Hope this helps a little!
dorannmwin
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
2 Dec 10
First off, from my own experience I can assure you that potty training a boy is a lot more difficult than potty training a girl and my son that turned four in October was only fully potty trained in July. That said, you actually have to watch for cues from your son that will show you that he is ready for potty training. In the instance that you've described, none of those cues are there. Some of the cues that you can look for are waking up from a nap dry. Expressing an interest to use the potty. And, a decent attention span.
watersprite
@watersprite (168)
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6 Dec 10
The desire to be potty trained seems to happen later with boys than girls, and I'd agree that it takes longer for them to get the idea. Have you tried using the potty in front of the TV he might sit still a little bit longer. We sent ours every 30 minutes until he stopped complaining about going. The other thing I'd mention is that our boy is shy, and when he first got the idea he'd happily take himself, but point blank refused to tell us he was going, so we had to introduce him to toilets in every new location and keep a real close eye on him. Boys tend to hop from one foot to the other when they are putting it off. Good luck !