my marriage did not bring happiness.

They say marriage is a bicycle made for two. A feeling of security and happiness comes from mutual efforts. You have to work hard to make it work and don't expect a marriage will run smoothly as there are times it feels cold. Add more love spices to it. Marriage is a blessing but many people turn their marriage lives into a curse. I am in an unhappy marriage from day one of my marriage but it is slightly improving now as we never stop learning and correcting each other flows. Mutual understanding is the secret of a happy family life.

oh please don't give up. marriage is not always happy. sometimes the bitterness can bring happiness. there is always a hope for u to get happy. Just try to make your family happy, then the happiness will spread to you too

Honestly, nobody can make you happy, that is something you have to decide to be. Yes, things outside you can affect your moods, but you can't expect another person to provide you with what you can't provide yourself internally.

If you aren't happy then you need to do something about it. You have to be happy with who you are before you can ever expect to be happy in your marriage. I would seek some counseling or find a book which might help you to sort out your inner feelings and help you get to the person you are meant to be. Then you can have a marriage.

hai mrs indah.. it`s sad hear your story.. but as your friend, i always pray for your kindness.. remember the song of dmasiv with their lyrics is "Jangan menyerah"... our life is gift, the best gift from God.. and thats why we dont easily give up when meet problems...

If I see other people's experiences, like marriage can be happy if you started correctly. Which must know each other as it is, have good character, and makes God as the head of the family. For marriages that meet many of the problems, nobody can fight so that the marriage was finally brought happiness. That requires cooperation between both parties, patience and firmness of faith. But I see there is also a marriage which, if maintained the risk is very large, ie, violent marriage constant, thus threatening the safety of life or psychological health. Ideally, the perpetrators of violence in jail and given psychological counseling to change behavior, but in practice, especially in Indonesia, it is difficult to implement, so that the separation is hard to avoid. Conditions which threaten safety in the home can cause psychological and physical trauma to the child, more than divorce. Infidelity / adultery also damage the marriage, and opens the door to divorce, but if there is repentance and a willingness to forgive, marriage can still be saved if desired.

Hi Indahfth, Not sure just what you did but I can see from other responses that you made some sort of mistake and feel now that you must be miserable. We are human and we all make mistakes. We make mistakes and learn from them. We all deserve to be happy. I hope that whatever is blocking your happiness gets resolved soon. I can't imagine a mistake so horrible that it can't be forgiven in time. If your husband can't forgive you then maybe divorce is the better option??? You deserve to have happiness in your life.

I'm sorry indahfth, I am seeing more and more women in this same position, most of them have poor relationships due to overly controlling husbands. This may not be the case with you, if you feel like you are getting too comfortable in the marriage, there is still hope. I don't know how relationships work in your country, but here in America, if a couple gets that "to comfortable" feeling, then they do things together like they did when they were dating. They go out on a date, go play in a park, or just out for a simple dinner and a movie. What did you and your husband do for fun before you got married? doing something you did before you got married, yet no longer do can put some spark back in..

I am sorry to hear that. What is the reason? Maybe that is only a phase and it will pass and something will change yet.

I am very sorry to hear that you are feeling so sad! Is there any way you can talk to your husband about the things that are troubling you? If not you may have to decide not to rely on him for your happiness and do things that make you happy. Do you have a passion for anything? I love animals and writing and I find both those things so fulfilling at times that I manage to forget my troubles for a while anyway! Long term you may have to make some hard decisions if things do not improve in your marriage and life become unbearable although I don’t know what is acceptable in your country. Do you have a female friend or relative you could confide in?

dont regret like that my sista.. you must wake up.. wake up.. remember your son..

are you sure? how about your husband feeling about your marrige? do you always make your private as your discussion idea indah?

Definitely, marriage can not really bring happiness to every person's lives. It just that many people think it can. Maybe you just got it wrong when you had decided to get married. Still, the happiness of your marriage depend on the person you had chosen to be with for a lifetime.

Don't be sad, my friend, think in a positive way, everything can be solved with good communication between you and your husband. Marriage is a long lasting event that the quality of it cannot be judged and determined within just a few weeks or months. Be patient, the problems in life that we encountered should be the motivators for us to move forward, not for us to be depressed or unhappy. Each one of us will grow stronger with the problems we faced. Be stronger and face the life problem bravely, everything will be fine finally, happy always. God bless.

None is happy in this world.... everyone has some unhappy session in his/her life. In this situation our life start and end. Though in some common matter everyone want to stay within happiness and mostly in family life everyone want to be happy. Your time was good in past but now some bad so you will have to wait and see for better life again. All the days do not pass within unhappiness - sun rises behind clouds and happiness may go away and again come. As a human you have to tackle the situation with patients and with your wise feelings and activities.

hello dear friend, did you ask yourself what you want in life? did you ask what will make you happy? why do you say you are sad now and why you pinpointed married life? maybe you are bored of the same thing over and over again. maybe you need something new to do and excitement. maybe you feel you need to be by yourself at times. what do you think will make you happy? is it riches? or a less dominant husband? ann

Hi Indah!. I feel your situation must hurt your heart really much and I really hope your husband will see the beauty within you and leave thats other woman forever. If the situation were like thats please don't hope he will made you happy. Find something than made you busy like hobby that can made you money money in the future and enjoy your child with your son.

Why..what's wrong? Don't you love your husband? Were you forced into the marriage? maybe you can still work things out- talk to your partner and tell him how you feel..

Oh My God According for me, Choose of life is your self

Well Dear! so sorry, but the thing is that its ur own fault, U should try to overcome ur every sad emotions,or i suggest watch a funny movie, or n if u wana cry thn watch a sad movie, it will help in releasing tention, som time crying is batter, or u should b happy that still thier is somone to help you, U know who it is? Its God! Just belive in him, n u will b blessed with countless happines.