Do you keep an open mind about other people's ideas and opinions?
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
December 2, 2010 5:56am CST
I am surprise that some people take matters too personal and willing to forgo friendship because of their close-mindedness and unwilling to bow down to others views. In a place like mylot, we have people of different races, backgrounds and ages. You might have noticed that people have their own opinions. Maybe these don't always make sense or seem right to you, but that's the way the world works. Since no one is perfect so do expect imperfect responses or reactions from others.
Say when two or more people agree 100 percent, at least some of them aren't really thinking. We might not be able to please everyone but it is interesting to note how people from all corners of the globe interact with one another, how little things make or break a friendship. This is haunting me and still couldn't find why I no longer see notifications coming from a dear friend. I have been deleted and no longer expect me to be a friend. How sad but this is mylot, no one is indispensable. 
Have you suddenly realize that you have been deleted from your friend's list and how did you react to that?
Have you suddenly realize that you have been deleted from your friend's list and how did you react to that?11 people like this
45 responses
@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 10
Hey!
Here is really a good place for us to learn to deal with different types of people.
No matter how bad he or she is, we still have to deal with him or her.
There is unnecessary for me to confront to him or her.
Just accept him or her to be your friend and never be serious to whatever might be irritating you.
I deleted one or two people in mylot too.
ha! ha! ha!
I deleted them just because our interest in our discussions were different.
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@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
5 Oct 11
Everyone has his or her own philosophy, strategy and management skill.
It is very hard to persuade someone to adopt your idea or to do in according to the way you manage unless he or she is your staff or your servant.
No matter how, respectful to each other is the must.
@funkeyguhl (1743)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
To answer your question about getting deleted... I think it only happened to me when a friend and I did not see eye to eye and she had to choose between me or her partner.
I feel bad about it but there was nothing I can do.
You are right about us being in a website where there are other nationalities in one site. I guess with regards to your friend, maybe you can send a polite email and ask if you did something wrong so that you will know if you have done something or not. If he / she does not respond then I guess he / she is not willing to make amends and therefore does not deserve your time.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 10
Oh yah...I am not short of friends down here. It is just that only yesterday I had a good interaction with my friend and out of the blue I find myself detached. Some people can be so fickle minded and don't see or appreciate the bond of friendship propelling. But we are all molded to think different which makes everyone of us unique in in one way or another.
@funkeyguhl (1743)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
I guess we just need to accept the fact that it does happen... I feel bad that you have lost your friend but then again, you might a few more... Friends who would accept you inspite and despite of. Have a great day ahead ;)
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
2 Dec 10
I dont look to see if I been deleted from the list I just wait for the post of friends that are her and I for them.
I have added 2 new friends this morning I hope that we get along I do think I gt along wel with all my friends and some of us have agreed to disagree lolololol
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
3 Dec 10
I get alot of request too.
BUt the one thing I have noticed is that a very regular posting person hasnt been her for awhile and makes me wonder if they got banned for thy dont tell ya thins person got banned but when onepost regular and then nothing for like a month from them mke you wonder if they are real sick or not her any more!
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@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
4 Dec 10
I like to have an open mind on most subjects sometimes I agree to disagree but then no all discussions are the same I guess sometime depend on the day I'm having you know the mood you are when sitting at the PC answering posts?. I do not think I have been deleted as a friend in any social net work but then if I was deleted I wouldn't worry too much if some one don't like me as a friend...then is their lost! not mine.
@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
12 Dec 10
Still keep a smile,,,,Many will come and a few will be chosen,,In my case I will still respect all, doesn't matter how others feel
@craigy123456789 (1759)
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3 Dec 10
This is a site where we choose if we want to respond to discussions, at the end of the day our response is based on what we think and we do all think differently. We can see things differently and if we don't agree withwhat someone says that is just part of life, but we should respect the fact that we each have an opinion, there is no right or wrong and although we may disagree with what someone says they still have there opinion and we should always respect that. Life would be boring if we always just agreed with each other. We cannot please everyone and we shouldn't tell people what they want to hear and go against what we really would say. It is always best to be truthful, even if nobody agrees with what someone puts they still have their opinion, yes here in mylot we are all different in many ways and hopefully we get some good discussions, just hope the discussions and opinions don't turn into arguements as that is not needed.
@craigy123456789 (1759)
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5 Dec 10
i feel that some people like to argue, whereas with others they are just showing the way they feel, we should acknowledge that we do think differently, no wrongs or rights, sometimes it is good to disagree and have a healthy debate, but it does not need to get out of hand, opinions always will vary.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
4 Dec 10
I try my hardest to keep an open mind when others give opinions that differ from my own. That's the art in learning new things however, it doesn't mean I have to agree but we all can learn to agree to disagree and leave the matter at that. I see no reason to end a friendship unless one turns ugly towards the other. Now when an opinion hurts another being, whether it's human, animal or what ever, then I'll have a lot more than just saying something but that's different. It's defending another being from being hurt. Now I don't know of anyone who's deleted me from their friends list because I don't check on that. I've got such wonderful friends that ARE on my list, including you, that I don't feel any need to check. Sorry though that it happened to you.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 10
One day if I don't see you around here for a period of time I need to check whether you have deleted me from your list. Just kidding! You and a number of friends here are all at my fingertips and not seeing anyone of you for a stretch of time will keep me wondering. I will check the profiles.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
3 Dec 10
To tell the truth I don't even notice much, I get new friends all the time here and some will stay with interests that create discussions I like to respond to, others will change their direction to subjects I have no interest in. Some leave mylot, others do tasks, there is just no reason for me to worry about old friends that don't show up any more. This is just a virtual world and to take it to seriously isn't something I am interested in. I enjoy the contact and the discussions I respond to and I read each response I get and rate them.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
3 Dec 10
You know zandi, I have no idea whether anyone has deleted me or not because I never check! There are friends whom I haven’t heard from in a long time but I don’t know if they are just inactive or if they no longer consider me their friend! Your discussion has made me curious and I may just take a look at my friend’s list when I get a minute. It is sad that this person deleted you but it is sadder for them than for you because it is a shame that an individual should be so small minded as to lose a friend because of differing opinions. This is a discussion group there are bounds to be plenty of disagreements, what does this person expect? Don't take it too much to heart zandi...
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 10
Hi Paula, I didn't even know that this person has deleted me not until I saw her discussion in circulation but did not get notification in my email. I only found out when I checked her profile. It is okay for me as I have many other supportive friends. But what surprises me is I don't know why she took the drastic step to suddenly delete me.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
3 Dec 10
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji,
Well, I do agree with all your feelings and perception. But why at all one should be humilated if another memebetr has deleted one's friendship. Here the member has deleteed may not be in position to accomodate and entertain equally. only I feel that gentle member should have informed oR in other words such members should be curageous of their act.
May God bless You and have a great time.
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@RawBill1 (8531)
• Gold Coast, Australia
4 Dec 10
Hi Zandi, that is sad that you have been deleted from a friends list.
I have not had this happen to me that I am aware of, but it may have happened without me knowing. Some people just cannot understand that we are all different, with different opinions as well as different cultural upbringings. This makes for interesting discussions and an opportunity to learn, which is why we all keep coming here I think.
If someone cannot come to terms with another person having a different opinion, then they should not be posting on a discussion forum site like MyLot. At least you still have lots of understanding friends. 
I have not had this happen to me that I am aware of, but it may have happened without me knowing. Some people just cannot understand that we are all different, with different opinions as well as different cultural upbringings. This makes for interesting discussions and an opportunity to learn, which is why we all keep coming here I think.
If someone cannot come to terms with another person having a different opinion, then they should not be posting on a discussion forum site like MyLot. At least you still have lots of understanding friends. @zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 10
I cannot agree with you more. I am still blessed with many friends here but the weird thing is the deletion comes so suddenly. I might have gone beyond the normal politeness that people expect but we can't always expect a person to fit in to our ideal. It is abnormal for everyone to agree on everything. This is not what a discussion should be like. There need to be some kind of healthy debates.
@nangisha (3496)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 10
Hi Zandi!,
I think I am quite surprise to see how many different we see many thing here in mylot because we have different cultural background. Now I a already get used to it and don't feel to bother by differences opinion.
I think if I made a discussion I had to ready what ever response thats I get even the negative one. I never think about it to much but if its hurt me I will stay away from thats person discussion for a moment to calm down.
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
8 Dec 10
I realized that being in mylot has taught me the meaning of patience and tolerance. Sometimes it does hurt when others throw mud at us but because of the daily interaction here we have learned to pick the languages used, impolite words no longer become a sharpened weapon that can weaken my spirit. 
@carpediem17 (1315)
• Singapore
3 Dec 10
hi Zandi, i think it is very important to keep one's mind open to the view of others. Although there may be differences in opinions and maybe after some arguments, one is still able to see the other person's point of view or perspective.
Meeting of minds allow effective communication to take place but often times, it seldom occurs due to differences in background, culture and perspective of a matter. One just has to be mature and try to understand the other individual's intentions before drawing to a conclusion.
@rodanmaster (141)
• United States
5 Dec 10
I'd like to consider myself pretty open minded. I listen to others ideas and try not to get into too many arguments about stuff I disagree with. I think the main reason I'm more open minded is because my parents were very close minded and I didn't want to be like that. Sometimes if something really offends me though I'll still be close minded about it, but that's uncommon for me.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
3 Dec 10
I like this discussion.Though many a views of people close to us are irritating and sounds dumb over the years I have cultivated the habit of listening to others.As you rarely come across good and smart ideas it is very easy to be left alone without any friends if we scoff off at all the ideas and opinions.So to be in circulation I tend to lend a ear to other people's opinions.
And I remember reading somewhere that if you find all the others not up to the mark there should something terribly wrong with your yardstick.
And I remember reading somewhere that if you find all the others not up to the mark there should something terribly wrong with your yardstick.1 person likes this
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 10
There is nothing much you can do but to look at the bright side of things and refrain from seeing the dark side. I am not surprise by your MIA as you have assume the role of a 'silent observer." It is good that you have cultivated the habit of listening.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
2 Dec 10
Hello Zandi
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Well, The only time that i got deleted off from a persons was because I was accused of something i didn't dothat was a long time. probably he didn't come back and i personally don't him back here. one moment he's a friend and then suddenly deleted me from the list and insulted me.
what if things change dramatically that the person you got to know online is different from off line. probably deletes you from the list unsuspected. well, that's my view.
that is their choice. friends come and go, even online.
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Well, The only time that i got deleted off from a persons was because I was accused of something i didn't dothat was a long time. probably he didn't come back and i personally don't him back here. one moment he's a friend and then suddenly deleted me from the list and insulted me.
what if things change dramatically that the person you got to know online is different from off line. probably deletes you from the list unsuspected. well, that's my view.
that is their choice. friends come and go, even online.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
2 Dec 10
Dear zandi
It really sad, here we meet people from different parts of the globe, of different age groups, different religions, cultures, so our views, opinions has to differ, why should we fight over that?
Well i never bother if somebody deleted me or not, i have no time to check the friend list, second there are so many email notifications from mylot, i can't cope with all, today i deleted about 1800+ still pending to be responded..
Thank you so much for sharing, you need not take things seriously.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. . Cheers have a lucky day ahead.
God bless you. Welcome always.
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@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
well i haven't experience it yet but you are right all of us here came from different countries and we all have different cultures and traditions that made us think distinct from each other. but for me just point out you opinion bout something that being discussed and just respect the opinions of others!! for me that what im doing and everything is fine!!=))
@majody83 (46)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
all of us have its opinion and it must be respected,its so sad that there are people who have lack of understanding.all of us have its on views,he or shouldnt be angry with,bec.its her still choice if he would follow u.anyway there are still lots of friends out there,you have not done anything bad ok.cheer up:)
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