How to tell if he has feelings for you?
By smiley83
@smiley83 (1534)
Malaysia
December 3, 2010 4:58am CST
hey friends....
Well, I'm wondering on what are the symptoms of love? how can we assure ourselves that the person is in love with us or at least have feelings that could most probably develop into a relationship?
I'm very much confused as this guy whom I met few weeks ago seemed to have those kinda of feelings for me as for example, we had lots of eye-contacts for more than minute and it happened without any plans that we found ourselves looking at each other that we even didn't realize the people surrounding us on the dinner table! besides, when he is talking to others, he would turn back to me to assure that i'm paying attention to him, and if he does something funny he would again look at me to capture my attention and we even teased each other on the road and we had so much fun, and while talking, we would look through the eyes which was a bit difficult for me to focus my eyes on him all the time like he did lol and he used to study how i treated his parents with every single details, and so many more...
HOWEVER, things seemed to start having another direction when he left as his vacation is already off..even though, he told me that he is missing me and wants to come back again to have his next vacation with us, yet, he doesn't reply to my messages!!!! he doesn't comment on any of my Facebook posts or status!!!
He doesn't seem to be caring about me :(
I'm wondering why he is acting like that with me? have you ever faced such a thing and what do you usually do to overcome the pain?
please help me out :((
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8 responses
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
3 Dec 10
Hi smiley: Thanks for sharing with us this experience. It's weird why has he changed. Maybe he is hurt because nothing has happened between you and him, I don't know. Some boys like me for example we can't express our feelings so easily so this sad situations happend. If you feel interested you better take the iniciative and try to talk with him to know more about this situation.
ALVARO
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Dec 10
hi folks another thought maybe he had some loose ends back where he camd from and his vacation he might have been seeing an old girl friend trying to break it off. If that was so you may seem to be pushing too fast so slow down a bit.let him make the next move.Probably something happened while he was gone and he has to take care of that bef ore he can really completly come on to you again.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 10
hey Alvaro...
yeah it is weird...I don't know what is going onto his mind after he went back :(
I did email him but he didn't reply :( he acted like nothing happened :( i don't know why he is acting so weird wth me? things were really sweet during his stays but got absolutely an opposite direction when he went back :( he only said that he is missing me and planning to come again for his next vacation..but nothing else!! I wonder is that enough to tell or should be more!!
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@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
4 Dec 10
If he already told you that he miss you then why are you worried, that means he has feelings for you. At the same time I think he want to come back next time but I think he don't like the long distance relationship. When he comes next time he will be more fun to you. So I have the same advise for you, slow down the things but remain in contact.
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@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
3 Dec 10
I think you have feelings for each other. You spent your time together and you had fun with each other, so that is all you want to have in a relationship. Don't rush for the things to happen very fast. Take your time and let him take his time. Remain in contact but don't try hard. Have a nice day.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
4 Dec 10
awh thanks so much...well, I think I was wrong as it seems i wanted things to happen so fast :-S but it seems i have to slow down as u said...sometimes, i wonder if i slow things down, would he think about me or he would never!!
but at anyway, yeah I should not try hard...
thanks ;)
@annavi23 (6522)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
hahah dal,i think that's too hard to do! specially to women like us,it's hard to say those words directly just as that. may i ask are you a girl?cause it sounds like easy for you to confess your feelings just as that.
some guys do take advantage of women who confesses their love.when in fact,those guys didn't really have feelings for them. i think and do believe that guys should still have to make a move. or if women do really like those guys,they just have to show their concern but not too obvious,of course! right,smiley dear?
@dal123 (19)
• India
4 Dec 10
hey baby be straight and say I LOve U that's al dude ..............yeaaaaaaaaaa
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
4 Dec 10
smiley83,
To answer your question, I would like to throw back a question for you: How good are you at learning about love and your cosmic lessons?
You can't hope to know what you want merely by the power of thoughts. You need to climb into the skin of a relationship, walk around it and before you truly know what you are looking for.
You must go through your baptism of fire to learn about the 'correct equation' needed for you to have a decent, fulfilling relationship. There's only so much you can learn from others and nobody, other than yourself, can give you the best strategy in your game of love.
Our life calculates the introduction of karmic or benefice bonds based on the previous and currents. Most of the time, we can't actually prevent the manifestation of our cosmic lessons, but what we can do is to outsmart our cosmic lesson by having the wisdom to learn FASTER than the time it takes for our cosmic lesson to teach or catch up with us.
So, let me just say that you won't be able find a perfect mate; you can only seek for an imperfect mate to work out a perfect relationship. On your current situation, I would advocate that you should take a backseat and let him take the initiative while you remain open without placing any imaginary commitment when there isn't one yet, to begin with.
Slow and steady wins the race. Take your time and take care.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 10
yeah...you are right...It seems i don't know much about love unless i experience it myself...but yeah i should take a backseat and let things take its motives slowly..
thanks so much for the support..for the time being, I am not taking extra effort as I have to take care of my own issues and solve the related problems despite the fact of how much i miss him and wondering if he misses too :-S
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
3 Dec 10
Thank you so much for sharing the love story smiley.
Love is some thing related to emotion, one need not initiate love, it happens lol.
Have faith on god, you will get your dues certaily, may be little delayed.
Professor ‘Bhuwan’. . Cheers have a lucky day ahead.
God bless you. Welcome always.
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@faisale83 (198)
• India
3 Dec 10
it's very nice love story . If you feel something let him know your feeling
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 10
lol thanks for the complement...but, I did tell him in the message that I missed him and hope to meet him again...i did express my happiness when he said that he is planning to have his next vacation with us...but, on the other hand, he seems to be neglecting my message as he did respond to it and didn't comment on any of my FB posts which i'm doubting if he even checked my profile at the first place :( if he checked it, he should have commented to let me knw that he cares...
I don't know Faisale if he even cares at the first place or he was juz playing around :(
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Dec 10
smiley some people do not like to make or read a lot of
messages in facebook maybe he is one of then.also he is
a guy and guys do not always get as emotional and demonstrative
as us females. Really it is a guy thing. I am a long time
widow but my husband was like many men. I would complain
you never tell me you love me and he would hug me and
say"I believe in action not words.' and he was right as
he was always doing little things he knew I would like
so that was his way of saying I love you.I do think that he'like a lot of guys does not like the very publicness of Facebook.
@Memnon (2170)
•
7 Dec 10
I don't use Facebook, so I can't really comment on it's use: but if posts are fairly public that does go against the grain for some guys. I'm not a great one for picking up the phone, although my partner likes an evening call when I work nights.
There could be any number of reasons why he might not be replying on Facebook. See how things work out when he returns from vacation.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Dec 10
gu smiley 83 perhaps he just wanted to go slow and friendship was great for him, and then maybe you seemed to him to be coming on too strong. I am not at all saying you were.but he might have just come from some sort of break up and maybe he just wanted to take it slow this time.I do not think you have done anything wrong but he might be one who is afraid of committing to a girl friend too soon.Those messages might be to him too soon a come on.Men are so hard to fathom at times. I remember our quick engagement a how he was always talking about blondes being so pretty. So I bleached my caramel colored hair blonde.Itdid not really' look all that great on me, and I acted a lot more outgoing which was not me at all. He pulled me into an empty room at the hospital where we both worked and told me he hated my hair, and asked me why I had done that to my beautiful hair. Also he said would you stop with that overdone extraverting. thats not you, look I love you unconditionally just the way your are. I was so touched as nobody have ever loved me for just being me. So try just being you and not too many messagesm Let him make the next overture as then you will know he really does care.He might just be overwhelmed.Give him some time.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 10
awh that is so sweet that he wanted u to be as you are *_^
yeah,I already stopped contacting him..in fact, i didn't get into Facebook since a week..I'm not into any talks despite how badly missing him!!
yeah, I would wait till he himself starts...I'm not into chatting like he does..i'm more into emailing instead..it seems like a big contradiction between the two LOL but wondering how to communicate when we are not into the same motives!!
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
I often can tell if she has a think for me if she's always smiling at me. Another sure fire thing i do is throw in a lame joke, i have a number of 'em at the back of my mind, and if she laughs surprisingly hard that means something.
