Move in with my partner From today
By zhpshql
@zhpshql (693)
China
December 3, 2010 6:33am CST
From today,I'm moving in with my partner...I haven't done that before,so I don't have the experience things...You know ,living together is so different from those dating days...So any suggestions for me? I'd like to know some...Oh,I'm 23 years old
and I'm male...and I always thought that living together means you are very near to the marriage...But I dont' to get married yet...
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4 responses
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
3 Dec 10
I am living in with my bf for a year now. They say, when you are living with your bf/gf, the next level will be marriage. To some, cohabitation is not a proper way to test whether you move forward to marriage or not, while to others, it is the best way. I believe personally that you will truly know a person when you are living in one roof. Based on my experience, I have to agree on that.
Marriage is a very serious relationship which cannot be take it easy. It requires patience, understanding, trust, acceptance and responsibility. Marriage is not a mere scrap of paper or a mere bf-gf relationship that when you fall out of love, you just simply break up.
Living in for me before marriage is one way of testing each other whether you are prepared to move on to marriage or not.
Suggestions? Just be yourself. No pretentions. That is a test to both of you if you can take each other and accept each other. Love is not just pure happiness where you have to love the person just because he has this and that. One must accept as well as their weaknesses and flaws.
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@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
3 Dec 10
I don't necessarily think that this is the case. I know couples who live with each other and are unmarried. And as far as I'm concerned, I don't think that marriage is in their plans. Living with your partner does not mean that you're close to marriage.
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@cyrus123 (6363)
• United States
4 Dec 10
My response might not be very popular but I don't care. I know a lot of people live together out of wedlock these days but I'm against it, myself. The reason why is because it's against the bible. It could lead to fornication. I have a neice who lived with her husband before they were married and she got preganat during that time. They got married as soon as she found out she was pregnant. I'm sure they love their daughter with all their hearts but living together before marriage could tempt any couple to do things they shouldn't like having s*x, which should be saved for after marriage.