do you choose your friend`s?
By zenkey23
@zenkey23 (416)
Philippines
December 4, 2010 5:35am CST
honestly speaking, im a friendly and cheerful person. so whenever there is someone who want to be friend with me i just accept them and start talking to them the way i talk to my other friends.the sad part is that sometimes. the one you trust and the one you spent almost all of your time is also the one who will put you down:( example of this is one of my friend. we are friend for a long time and then suddenly our friendship have been broken because she told some of our friends that i am a LIER and an UNTRUStFUL friend:( so my question is do you choose you`re friends? do you accept all the friendship requests for you? and if you are me. would you forgive what my friend does?
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14 responses
@junie05 (23)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
We meet new friends along the way. We have the option to choose our bestfriend/s , someone who we can trust and rely on. But just like in any other relationships, it will be tested. And we should not let this affect the friendship we have for years. I think the best way to do is to talk about it. Proper communication will still be the best way to resolve a problem. After that you must learn to forgive and forget. After all, you would not be best friends for nothing.
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
Hi there Zenkey 23!
I am also a friendly person but I don't really give my trust. It takes time before I am able to trust someone but I can be friends with a person but I take care of things that I tell the person since I have bad experience with trusting too much or too early in a friendship. Once my trust is broken, I can forgive but I definitely won't forget. I will never treat a friend who betrayed me the same way again.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
Yes, I choose my friends. Most people think it's a bad thing but it's really not. Choosing your friends prevents you from making friends with the wrong people. When I say wrong people I mean those that are bad influences to you or those that only mean to deceive you some time soon. I choose those that, I can see, has a nice personality and that can be relied on in the future.
@zenkey23 (416)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
I also accept friend requests from social networking sites and earning sites.
And about on my friend, yeah i also thought that thing that i wont forgive my friend on what she do because her lie`s embarassed me and its really shameful:(
But happy to say, Me and my friends are okay now.
I just hope that our friendship will last longer this time:)
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
5 Dec 10
I think we chose friends and we don't know that we really chose.A person's mind have different parts one is called conscious mind and other is called sub conscious mind. I don't want to go in details but I want to say that our sub conscious mind make us doing the things which you will do before you know that you are doing it.
It is possible to control it but with a good practice. Every emotion and feelings are the part of the life and we can not live without them. Life goes on and we learn our lessons.
@Jacobus1919 (1683)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
Well, I generally don't choose friends. I do not really judge people generally. I tend to be more open minded and be friendly with them. But, only when I really and I mean 101% dislike that person I back off.
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
4 Dec 10
well that's a difficult question you have asked here. If it's one thing making friends it's another thing to select the good and the bad from them and we can't just say it in their face that they really suck until they really suck!
It would be quite difficult to maintain that kind of attitude as well as friends. I am not sure if i could handle that kind of friendship. My friends are very special to me and i care a lot about them too.
Cheers!
Cheers!
@infatuatedbby (94914)
• United States
4 Dec 10
Accept friendship request where? Like on myLot (I add whoever that wants to be my friend on myLot because it's not like I really talk to them, except communicate by posting back and forth on each other's discussions) but on like social networks, I only add people I know.. but if my friend did that to me & told someone I'm a liar & untrustful I'd confront the friend! Then, not forgive them & find a better friend. Sorry to hear that your friend did that to you.
@juniorstringbean08 (455)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
Yes, I choose friends having the same personality and interest as I do. Most of the time I choose influential people as friends because they pull me up. And they can make my life change as well.
@zenkey23 (416)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
yeah youre definitely right. my mistake is that i accept friends even if i really dont know their attitudexD
actually my friend and i have the same hobby thats why we always get along and talk about our likes and dislikes:) but unfortunately nowadays we cant do that anymore:(
@jer2911 (57)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
I think it's best if you choose your friends. Well you see choosing your friends doesn't mean that you prohibit yourself from accomodating other people easily. Yes it's good to mingle with others "casually" but I encourage that you choose those whom you should keep. Forgiveness is always an option in friendship. That's the whole point of building this relationship anyway. However, you need to be more careful next time and ask yourself if she's worth to keep.
@aleic27 (161)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
1. I think everyone somehow chooses their friends. Both of you just need to have a common interest.
2. I do accept any friend requests in social networks, but it is the opposite in real life.
3. It depends on the situation. If my friend promises to change his habits, then why not? If it's the opposite, then sorry for him...
