how often do u discuss your failures with your parents?

Bangladesh
December 4, 2010 12:05pm CST
most often than not i take the cowards way out or that is how i choose to think of my actions when i encounter a disastrous situation tht results as a result of my previous action. sometimes i find myself avoiding to tell my parents of my failure in exams even though i know tht they would understand tht i have tried but still my minds seems to hung up with 'what if's. i tell myself that im trying not to hurt their feelings and trying to hide facts as long as i can make them right again. but am i telling myself the truth??
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@jer2911 (57)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
parents may be different from each one but we can't deny the fact that they're still parents. if you're confident with your relationship with your parents then I don't find anything wrong in opening up to them. you may have some hesitations and doubts but remember that if there should be someone who could best understand you, it's them. I hope and pray that you could have a good talk with them and bring out what's inside your heart.
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
well said jer, i couldn't agree more. honesty and truthfulness makes it easy when it comes to your relationship with your parents because that's where they come in if ever you'll be needing their guidance, support, understanding and most especially the love they can give.
@rhizjen (140)
• Philippines
4 Dec 10
Back when my parents are still around, I'm very open to my mother. I'm always telling her what's happening with me because I do believe she's the best listener and adviser and she'll never me put me at risk or in a complicated situation. What I believe was right but I what I don't expect is that the time will come that I have to stand for myself and took myself from being attach from her because I should let her go. She loves to listen to my story and we're very close, making so hard for me to forget her and move on with my life. I can suggest that you should not be afraid to be open with your parents, I know they would be glad to hear from you whatever it is that you wanna say. They will accept you despite of your shortcomings and they will guide you to the right path. Your failures will hurt them, but somehow they would be happy if you will tell that you've learned from your mistake and you're willing to succeed im what you're doing. Hope that I could help. Just a piece of advice, next time there's something that confuses or brings you down, never hesitate to open up with your mother, she will cheer you up. Good Luck on you mate!
• Bangladesh
5 Dec 10
thanx i'll try to remmeber ur advice;)
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
5 Dec 10
I don't know if you have done the right thing or not. But it won't hurt to tell your parents the truth right now. Because at least you are not afraid to admit that you have failed their expectation. I would definitely take a brave actions, and take a correction act to make it right. Even though you fail again, you know that you already done your best.
@PDBME2 (1014)
• United States
4 Dec 10
Life will be a life full of ups and downs. I think parents get disappointed but in reality they have to look at all the good things you have accomplished. One time the pastor read this letter a student wrote to her parents. She said that she decided to drop out of school because she was in love with a bum, got pregnant, and was going to start a minimum wage job living with his parents,etc... At the end she wrote that this was not the truth, in reality she failed a test. She asked them which news did they consider worse? It was funny made you realize things are not so bad when you have bad news to give.
• Bangladesh
5 Dec 10
lol! yeah i heard tht story too..anyways thanx for ur advice
@Lance26 (956)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
Our parents deserve to know what they need to know. Telling them your failures is the first step of making them right regardless if they would understand you or not. But do always bear in mind, our parents are very forgiving, once they sense the sincerity in you expect them to be on your side and give their both hands to solve your problems together.
• United States
5 Dec 10
I actually usually ask my parents for advice. I don't want to make a mistake, but I always find them telling me that they know I will make the right decision and if I don't I will learn from my mistake/s.
• India
5 Dec 10
I generally share only the success with my parents. If I share failures, they will be hurted. So I dont want to share my failures to my parents at all. I like them seeing happy all the time instead of showing my failures which may cause pain for them. But by sharing our failures, they may guide us in future.
• Singapore
5 Dec 10
I've never discussed my failures or anything that's bothering me, with my parents. I don't know, but since young, I've been quiet and have kept to myself, which explains why I don't discuss day to day matters with them.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
5 Dec 10
I don't like to discuss my failures with my parents. this will bring me down even further than I might already be. I would probably keep my failures to myself and try to overcome them.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
For me sometimes when my parent's don't like me my attitude.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
Failure is one enemy of ourself, some people never accept any failure, some are fear to face such failure. Me also is not open to discuss any failure to my parents because I fear that they never understand me and never accept such result.. I always do care to avoid any failure (huge)... so for you do necessary care and try to avoid it... see you around
• China
5 Dec 10
never , i dont want they worry about me ex , my little sister she can understand me very well as she know me a lot ..
• Singapore
5 Dec 10
Well being a student myself i believe that it is only natural to not want to show your parents that you haven't done something well and usually when you remember a moment from before when they have become angry with you and don't want to make them angry again so yes i believe you have the ground to keep it away from them but also i believe it is better to tell the truth or the outcome could become worse