why does other people says " learn to love yourself" before you love someone??

True, when you love yourself, you can feel the greatness and beauty of yourself. And love is beautiful thing in the world that before you give others, give it to yourself and feel the power of it.

If you can't love yourself, you can't expect to be able to show love to anyone else. You can't expect anyone to be able to love you when you don't have that feeling inside of you for yourself.

Yeah, the first person is right. You should love yourself first before you can love anybody. It's like the saying "Fill yourself up with love until you become the magnet". First of all, if you're always angry, irritated, or annoyed, you don't have love, you hate yourself, you get jealous all the time, you are insecure, that means you don't have love for yourself. Change that and everything will be the opposite. If you are happy about things, happy about yourself, you emit love to everybody, they will love you back. And you all will be happy and loving. Saying it is easier than actually doing it.

if you like yourself you will have more confidence. you will care for yourself and be the best person you are. you are unique. this confidence will be shown to others around you and they will want to get to know you. if we are negative and down, we will bring others down. they won't want to be around us.

Mainly because we a person tend to forget ourselves once we really love someone. Had my experience on this and this is my greatest failure. I didn`t realize how I totally forgot who I am not until I broke up with my ex. I only think of him failing to see I left myself to break to peices. Now I`m completely out of this, that`s when I realize how stupid I`ve become pretending to be somebody I`m not just to please my ex. I`m learning to love myself more, be myself more and enjoying myself more now. I will be firm and stand up for myself now and never let myself be hurt by unworthy love because no one can best take care of myself but me.

yes i agree cuz u cannot give what you do not have. if you dont love yourself then you will find it hard to care and accept others. you need to be emotionally stable in able to make a relationship long lasting.

The first person said it really well. You need to respect yourself and love yourself, because otherwise I feel like any relationship is doomed to fail - or at least to encounter some trouble. And what kind of person wants to be in love with someone who is all "woe is me", anyway?!

In my opinion it means that how can someone truly love someone if they are so negative and does not themselves. As this portrays the person not to have high self esteem. I mean they do not have to go around emminating and bragging they love themselves, but truly loving ourselves makes us very positive and emminating ability to love others as well. Sometimes I wonder when people do not love themselves they have a tendency to settle for the wrong people which in turn it becomes some form of need instead of truly loving them.

Several reasons actually. One, nobody wants to be with someone who is always feeling bad for themselves or someone who needs constant emotional support because of their low self esteem. Two, if you don't love yourself enough to protect your own heart, then you will be hurt time and time again. As a matter of a fact, a person who does not protect their heart, will be in almost constant pain. Three, it is a way to get people off of your case. I am friends with countless people who simply want to complain about their messed up relationships all of the time. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is listen and fire away cliche statements like, "It just isn't meant to be." or "You're just not ready for a relationship." or "You need to learn to love yourself before you love someone else." Loving someone else is very different from loving yourself.

yupz,,, well done love it should not have but the love just got to understand each other to live happily.

You said it right, if you don't love yourself the way you should then you expect little love from anyone else...you don't think your someone worth loving then nobody would really see your worth...