In a relationship, should you have to share everything with your partner?

hello vijay! I believe that partners in a relationship, should be open to one another. They should have open communication so that problems and petty discords could be avoided or settled easily. However, i don't believe that you share everything with your partner from the top of your hair down to your toes and all in between, 24/7. What i meant by this is that although there should be no secrets between you,which would adversely affect your relationship, there are just some things that you have to keep yourself, without lying to your partner. events, plans, undertaking and other deals which would affect you both should be shared between the two of you. Attempts of others to seduce you, con you or the likes should be shared too least they would know about it from others and would think that you brought it on you that's why you keep it a secret. But when it comes to your thoughts, it's not necessary that every thought that cross your mind should be shared with. Sometimes, it could cause misundertanding because you're still thinking about it and when your partner is against it, it would elicit response from them which you might not understand or like, as you are still just thinking about it. I believe in sharing most with my partner but we should know when to withhold something for ours to keep. After all, we are different individuals and we can't expect everyone, even our partners to always understand us all the time.

Well, before I got with my guy, I would have said your past is the past. If there is something you don't want him/her to know , then don't tell them. But in my case, I was close friends Way before we fell in love. So I told him a little about my past. as we got closer , I told him more and more.Now he knows everything.so, my answer is both can work. It all depends on how close you and your partner are.

As corny as this sounds I do have to admit that there is nothing I can hide from my partner. He is such a wonderful man who can bare and tolerate all my crazy situations and well for that I have to thank him for being so loving and caring. As anytime I contemplate whether to let him know something or not my brain tells me that I have for the first time this really wonderful man and if I hide something my emotions take over and I find that I can bare to live with myself so I let him know and he is the first to perk me up and remind me that he loves me no matter what.

Dishonesty is what ruined my marriage. There were things that my husband didn't know about me, and there were things I didn't know about him, and when those things came to the surface, it created a lot of problems. Communication really is key.

I don't hide anything from my boyfriend. We've been together for almost four years - we had our ups and downs and it's better if we don't hide anything! We are honest & faithful together and that is what I love about our relationship.

There is an importance on having an open communication between your partners to build a relationship strong against problems. Just make sure to always provide one another a chance to explain him/herself before making a conclusion. There should always be a presence of open-mind between two parties in order to come up with a decision. This way, a relationship will stand strong against any hearsay, or problems.

It depends on how the couple are committed to each other and the relationship. I think if one partner has something to hide or has secrets then they are not committed. If they are in a committed relationship they have chosen to share their lives so it's my belief their lives should be an open book to each other. Where there is trust, love, loyalty and fidelity there should also be openness, honesty and truth.

Hi vijayanths, maybe I am a little different from others as I prefer not to share my private life with anyone even to my partner. I prefer to keep everything that concern my past or present affairs private and confidential. Never will I share them with anyone and not even writing it down here as it means I have broken my own promise of being discreet. I will bring everything to my grave.

hi vijayanths I never hid anything f rom him as we were totally 'honest with each other. that way we also raised our son to be totally honest and not to hide anything or be deceitful. we did not have a "relationship" we had a marriage. relationships are chanchy and ship is a good ending as one or the other is free to go at any time and they usually do break up.

Hi vijayanths! I am not really sure about this! I share most everything with my partner, but he definitely prefers not to share everything with me and it really upsets and annoys me. He thinks that he should be able to keep some things "secret" or "private". Well, somethings maybe, but then I start thinking that he is cheating on me and I don't totally trust him and I have good reason to. When we met he was seeing someone and then started seeing me and we were sort of friends at the time, but not for long. It's complicated, but he ended up moving in with me, dumping her (for many reasons) and we have now been together 3 years in January! She still calls him, has no idea he is living with me and I still don't trust him. I know he isn't interested in her, but once a cheat always a cheat! I always tell him that I'm him!

nope..we need some privacy still. i tell my partner when it comes to my privacy zone. i explain it to him and he understand it

When you are in a relationship with someone you should be willing to share anything with that person. keeping a secret from them could do more harm to a relationship than keeping quiet about it. You should not be afraid or embarrassed to share something with your partner. You need to express the bad along with the good.

I think as husbands and wives, everything should be shared because they are already considered as one. But for boyfriend-girlfriend relationships, each has the right to choose what things he/she would lime to share with his/her partner.

I love transparency in a relationship. I want everything to be clear, I use to tell my girlfriend that she could feel free to talk to me on matters that would concern our relationship. While we have transparency, and sometimes we even talk about our family, our daily activities, we still have some respect on privacy. I am a person, who doesn't want to spill a plan that I am going to take, I would share it after it's accomplished, and my girlfriend, respected my privacy on that. She wouldn't insist and ask me about everything I do in my life. Because I do respect and give her some privacy too. I believe there is a good intention and advantage of transparency in the relationship. Much more do i assent to the opinion, that communication is an important ingredient to a relationship, but while those are all true, I could not discount the fact that we are human, and it's human nature to have certain privacy. So I value that and give some privacy to my partner, and I expect her to do the same. The only thing that we shouldn't hide to our partner are those matters involving the relationship and those things that we think should be shared to our partner (it's discretionary). And if on some point, we were not able to disclose something that could be of importance to our partner we can explain, and I guess, it's not hard to understand if you have good reasons why you haven't disclosed such. Those are my opinion on the matter vijayanths... t'was nice answering your post! God bless you! Have a happy life! :D

I don’t have any secrets from my partner and I would like to think that he is an open book with me! We share pretty much anything that is on our minds. The only information my husband is not interested in is anything that has happened in past relationships but I would fess up if he asked!

As I remember this is a recycle discussion but change content same title. Well, not everything should share to our partner as far as my opinion is concern. But those things is a matter of securing the family...

i wil share everything.for me it brings relief when i have done anything wrong

I think it depends on the thing that you would tell your partner about. Anything he doesn't know would not harm him but when he finds out it's the end of it. But I do believe it depends on how open the communication is. You don't have to tell everything to your partner coz if your partner knows you well he would know it by himself. Acceptance would be very helpful there. It depends on the attitude of the individual. There is no exact rule about love and relationship but partners must be aware of each others tendencies and approaches towards things. Know the person you live with and let that person know you as well.

Hi there vijayanths! i'd say that i'm the type of partner who wanted to share everything to my love one, even the smallest and most nonsense things in the world. It is sometimes true that some things may lead to misunderstandings and may weaken the relationship, but still, if communication and openness is amidst you, then there's nothing to worry about.

Hi there vijayanths! I'd say that I'm the type of partner who wanted to share everything to my love one, even the smallest and most nonsense things in the world. It is sometimes true that some things can lead to misunderstandings and may weaken the relationship, but still, if communication and openness is amidst your relationship, there's nothing to worry about.