missing someone who was never yours?

Philippines
December 5, 2010 1:52am CST
i heard this song this morning saying, "can you tell me how one miss what she never had and how could you reminisce if there is no past?" ---i remember the guy i fall inlove with last summer,, i even thought he was the guy i'm waiting for, we texted each other every single moment, we say our hi's and hello's. things were going smooth between us, he even told me he loves me, i can say that we were almost there,, close to being together.. but we never came into a relationship.. no commitment,, nothing at all.. then, afterwards, we have no communication.. and i miss him.. have you ever miss someone who was never yours?
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@Freezole (246)
• Malaysia
5 Dec 10
missing is too general.we tend to miss anyone we know such as friend, family, lover and etc.
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
have you miss someone who was never yours? i mean, in your mind, you know that you would fit together but suddenly, when you wake up another day, she was then trying to ignore you..
@Freezole (246)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 10
My answer is absolutely NO. I'll never miss someone who doesn't belong to me..that was something useless to do.
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
so everytime you fall inlove, you enter nto a relationship?
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
5 Dec 10
I guess, in a way I have. I have definitely missed someone whom I never had a full blown relationship with, but we did have a relationship. And, at times it seemed like it was 100%. But, we never made a real go of it. Things just dragged on, because we wanted them to, for a very long time. A lot of times, when you haven't had a complete relationship with someone, you do miss them. But, even more, you miss the thought of what could have been. Because, you don't know what that might have been. It's easy to romanticize things and believe the you would have had a wonderful relationship if things would have turned out right. But, now that they are gone, you will never have a shot at that wonderful relationship with them. And, that's what you miss. You miss the hope of ever having a great relationship with that person.
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
yeah, so tragic.. its just you wanted to hold that person much more longer.. if you could touch that person for just another minute.. just look at him for another second.. it was like hell! you so much miss that person but you cannot do something about it,, i think that's how ironic life is.
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
6 Dec 10
Yeah, but it helps to realize that absence does make the heart grow fonder. And, in the absence of that person your memories tend to be better than the reality.
• Philippines
7 Dec 10
maybe its just, we got so many "what if's?",, or we tend to think that what if we enter a relationship? would we be happay?,, what if we were together, i could express my feelings for him,, but yeah.. we should stick with reality..
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
i used to be under this same frustrations before..., missing someone who was never mine.., it felt foolish yet i couldn't help it.., it hurts.., it broke my heart.., but eventually i got over it.., i'm sure you will too.., time heals all wounds..=)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
yeah. its very hard to miss someone who never was yours. We had the same case kaparaino. I think it was summer love for me. We texted, we called each other often, we hanged out and suddenly he became cold. At first I was so confused why he is being that to me and then I have heard rumors that he is seeing someone. I never confronted him with what I heard, I guess I have no right to do so because we don't have any formal commitment to each other.And then we just drifted apart. And then I learned from one of his close friends that I am only the number 2. How sad for me. But after all the months that had passed by, we became friends. And just 2 months ago, he told me the reason why he did that and I accepted it. I miss him, I still miss the times that we laughed, when we shared our thoughts. It's just that, we were not just meant to be with each other.
@jer2911 (57)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
I currently do. hehe. And I would be honest by saying that it's hard...really hard. But you know having simple hello's and hi's from time to time would ease your emotions. Maybe it's not really meant to be and by just accepting that, you can withstand the longing that you have in your heart.
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
i've done that simple hi's and hello's but the more hi's and hello's we exchange, there's a regret that i wasn't able to express my feelings for him, we are texting each other again, but im not hoping that this would be the start (again) of a new relationship, but just to overcome what im feeling towards him. :(
• Kenya
5 Dec 10
pretty much i think in most cases is the case many would just talk and talk but walk the talk their mostly afraid of making the other big step which is to start the relationship so they just go off completely but hold on just move on with your life the guy for you will come it once happened to me but hey i moved on so can you try it and it will definetly work
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
maybe they were just concern that they would eventually hurt their partner,, maybe they think that they wouldn't fit for each other,, i know some guys dont just enter into relationship unless they really love the girl,, or maybe they were afraid to fall hard for the girl and they think that if the girl leaves them, they'll be lost. :(
• India
5 Dec 10
Even I am into a relation which I know we cannot be together through out my life. The person may get married after some time and she will leave a life totally differently. But I really love that person. Cant even think of missing that person. I can be with that person for a long time in terms of good relation, I dont want to leave that person. I miss that person a lot.
@Jiabsa (511)
• India
5 Dec 10
I missed so many persons throughout my life. I had a childhood friend who was very close to me. We always played together and shared our feelings each other. But suddenly that guy's father got transfer and went to another place which was very far away from our place. That was a shock to me. But slowly..slowly I forgot about that guy and reached in the normal level. Besides this incident, there are many bitter experience exactly like this in my life.
@cssiduyz (1053)
• Indonesia
5 Dec 10
if I lost something that can not forget, I usually nostalgic for recreation with friends because it can make us calm. and sometimes when you miss people who do not have it very difficult to remove from the minds of our hearts. maybe it's all because we've missed each other to live together forever.
• United States
6 Dec 10
yes i have missed someone who was never mine it hurts really bad