Do you feel guilty when you hurt the feelings of others...?
By chayapathys
@chayapathys (2111)
India
December 5, 2010 4:51am CST
During the course of our conversation with others,some times,we utter some words which may hurt the feelings of others.Many times it is not intentional.Hower others get hurt whether intentional or unintentional on our part.It can also be easily noticed in their faces or reactions.Some retard and others do n ot.It is in their nature.But we can easily realize that we have committed a mistae by utteing such w0ords.But we cannot takekm back.Some try to justify.Many feel guilty.On my part I immeidately seek apology and say sorry.Even after the incident I brood over the matter and regret.What do you in such a situation...?
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18 responses
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
Most of us different character, attitude and ways how to talk with others. Talkative person most likely suffer such mistake but others who speak gentle might lesser to commit such mistake. However, if we hurt others in our way of talking iether its joke or not we should aware and act to apologize to the concern. If not you responsible for any bad result... see you around
@chayapathys (2111)
• India
10 Dec 10
As you rightly said many times it the most talkative people commit such mistakes mostly unintenstionally.But the damage is done.Even though we say sorry it is very difficult to reconcile later.Some generously give and forget.But many are not so.Therefore we should be very carreful while talking with others particularly strangers....
@brew2x (3094)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
I definitely feel guilty whenever I hurt somebody's feelings. That is the main reason why I think first before I speak especially when I'm mad. The problem with saying something is that you can't take it back, even if you say sorry the damage has been done.
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@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
5 Dec 10
I am a proffi in not hurting others feelings. On the other hand I encourage people and make them happy by m speach. it is also a matter of practice. There is a worse in the holy Bible. I am unable to write it correctly. But i can write the meaning.
there should be sin in long speach or theren shouldn't be no sin in long speach. this worse always echo in my mind. I am always a limited speaker.
But I am worried I hurt my little children's feeling. I must train myself not hurt them.
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@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
5 Dec 10
I am a proffi in not hurting others feelings. On the other hand I encourage people and make them happy by m speach. it is also a matter of practice. There is a worse in the holy Bible. I am unable to write it correctly. But i can write the meaning.
there should be sin in long speach or theren shouldn't be no sin in long speach. this worse always echo in my mind. I am always a limited speaker.
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@chelseabelle (197)
• United States
5 Dec 10
Yes! I usually find people to be irratating. I especially hate it when I'm doing something like watching a movie or talking to someone on the phone or I'm trying to do something on the computer. I mostly hate it because the person will try and talk to you when they can see you are busy. I almost always utter out why are you being so annoying when you know I'm doing something?! Can't this story that has no importance, signicance, or interest to me wait?! I try so hard to not act irratated so I don't hurt the other persons feelings. Or I am asked a bunch of the same questions a million and one times.
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
6 Dec 10
Dear friend,
I do avoid my best to hurt others with or without words. But still some do hurt me and also there were situation I had hurt others in mostly in unavoidable cases. Being guilty is something hurting myself, which is unable to take back.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
27 Mar 11
Hi. chayapathys. Yes, I have been in some situations as this. I will immediately apologize to this person. And I try to be very careful of what I say to another person too. That way, I won't have to say something that I will regret later down the line. Or I may also refrain from saying anything to them too.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
27 Mar 11
Hi. chayapathys. Yes, I have been in some situations as this. I will immediately apologize to this person. And I try to be very careful of what I say to another person too. That way, I won't have to say something that I will regret later down the line. Or I may also refrain from saying anything to them too.
@JudgeIronFist (2472)
• Singapore
5 Dec 10
Oh I will. Being human, who doesn't have feelings? Except for those who are cold-blooded, then they don't have feelings and anything they say, they think it's right.
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@picjim (3002)
• India
5 Dec 10
I don't feel as upset when it is unintentional s compared to intentional.If a comment is said absent mindfully without thinking of the harmful consequences i feel a person is not to be blamed.But if the same is said with an intention to hurt without any adverse comment of the opposite person triggering it off.In such a situation one has to feel guilty as such comments appear to be made without thinking how badly hurt the other person would be.
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@sender621 (14893)
• United States
5 Dec 10
I know that I don't like to have my feelings hurt by anyone. I try to treat people in the same way. i would feel badly if i hurt someone's feelings. If i was angry at them, i might feel it less. I don't want the burden of guilt on my shoulders so i try my best to consider others.
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@hanni711 (243)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
There were times I said something that I didn't realize could hurt somebody especially our loved ones. Eventually, I regret what I have uttered and the saddest part was I can no longer take back what I said.In short, the damage has been done. Even if I said sorry, I already hurt somebody's feelings. I just learned that we need to take control of every word that goes out of our mouth. Don't let our feelings rule over us until we said something we will regret in the end.
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@deriellevc73 (982)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
hello chayapathys!
it is true that in the course of our interaction with other people, we might say things that may hurt them intentionally or unintentionally. In cases like that, i am always swift to apologize if i didn't mean to hurt them. Although i always make sure that when i talk i won't offend other people by my words, actions and meaning.
Sometimes too, in the interest of justice and order of the whole organization, i will just let those people feel their hurts, especially if my words are unintentional. When you want to maintain order, expect it always that you can't please everyone and someone would always be hurt with what you'll say especially if they've done some mistakes.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
Of course I feel guilty but most of the time I don't really noticed if I have said anything that may hurt others. But if I noticed right away that I utter something offensive to someone I will ask forgiveness right away. But that is one problem I have because my friends don't really complain or maybe I have not said anything bad to them yet.
But on my part I just go silent if somebody told me something that hurt my feelings. I have no courage to tell them that are starting to hurt me. in that case i would usually give cold treatment to anybody including my friends and family members.
@starlight_starbright (810)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
Hello chayapathys,
Of course I do feel guilty about it. Even if that person have done something wrong to us, we don't have the right to hurt his/her feelings just to get even. Who would have wanted to hurt others? I don't think there is a heartless person who would do that intentionally. The most common is most people wash their hands and claim that their are not at fault and must not be held responsible of it. It is so annoying sometimes. But I believe that there is always a space for guilt in every persons heart. They are not just that brave to accept it.
@pancymavis (93)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
of course i do.. i really feel guilty when i hurt people especially if it is one of my family..
@junie05 (23)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
If you did hurt someone's feelings unintentionally and you feel guilty even after you apologized, why not try lightening up things with someone you hurt. You can send him a card, a flower , a chocolate with a note saying " I'm really sorry and feeling guilty.You're smile would mean so much to me. Can you smile for me to know I'm forgiven?" Sometimes a simple smile , a warm hug or a gentle kiss is enough for you to both feel better.