who will u chose, the person you love or the person who loves you..??
By mutya17
@mutya17 (17)
Philippines
December 5, 2010 9:33am CST
before i always choose the person though my mom always telling me to choose the person whou loves me.. maybe its the reason why in my age now 24y/o i only passed 3 bf in my whole life.. before i was telling to myself that dont want me to be happy coz she doesnt like those guys that i like.. and maybe she dont want me tobe happy and shes always thingking her happiness and not mine.. but you what guys as a good daughter i follow all the things she told me to do.. im not happy that time. but you know what now im happy coz i just realize that shes right and now im in the right way just like she wanted.. i love the person who loves me so much and who will do everything for me.. and now im happy also my mom.. you can control to love somebody but you cannot control your partner to love you the way you wanted..pk!!
in that experience ive learned that always follow your mom she knows best for you.. and always think what will happen in the future and not just the present.. ok..
9 responses
@whistles (17)
• Germany
7 Dec 10
i try to choose the person that i love , but when i try to love her all my heart, thats not an easy way . when i try , there was problem , in other way she didnt understand about me . i love her so much but i dont like to havemany problem . maybe choose the person who loves you is better
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
It's a tough decision because I will never be happy if the one I love does not love me back. It will be a sad feelings knowing that she might already be falling in love with somebody else. But if I love that person truly I must do everything so that she will love me back, of course I'll do it in an honest way not forcibly.
If I choose the person who loves me and I don't love her that way it is also a futile effort because how could I be happy with someone that my heart is not seeking for. But if there is some small feelings alive then I might consider the one who loves me.
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
5 Dec 10
I do not believe in having to choose between someone you love or someone who loves you. I think the only relationship worth spending any time on, much less the rest of your life, is the one that has BOTH. I would never be with someone I didn't love just because they loved me.
I do not believe that you can control who you love. It's a spontaneous thing, you can't force yourself to love someone you do not and you can't force yourself not to love someone.
And finally I do not believe that you have to do everything your parent your parents tell you. Parents are not always right, they are just people like anyone else, they are not infallible. It's YOUR life you have to live it the way YOU want.
@junie05 (23)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
I think the follow-up question would be ,to whom will you be happy? Of course we will truly be happy if we're with the one we love. But isn't it true that its more hurting if the one you love leaves you? If you choose the person that loves you more than you love him, wouldn't you feel happy too because you're sure that he will do everything for you and would not worry that he will leave you? Love is a two-way feeling. If you love a person who doesn't love you at all, why take the risk? If you choose the person who loves you more, chances are you'll still look for someone you love and that would be unfair to him, unless you've learned to love him too. Love is always a risk. Before you go into a relationship, ask yourself ; do we both share the same feelings? If not, be ready to accept what the consequences are.
@xinshunhe (132)
• China
6 Dec 10
As a married, i do believe not only the marriage but alomost all the things comes out in our life is controled by destiny. as in love,we will meet she or he in life sooner or later... just be happy and relax(let it go..)
@vivek2006 (1418)
• India
5 Dec 10
Its better if someone loves you and you love that person too, thats the perfect combination. Moms sure are right coz she would always look for your best interest so listen to her advice and make your decisions.
My girlfriend too asked me the same question and i replied same like your reply as i have been told me by some senior friends that you marry the person who loves you and not just the person you love. But my girlfriend gave an interesting reply and i agree with her point, what she told me was that if i choose someone who loves me and if i dont love her then at some point later in life i'll start using that person so its better to find love and not just someone who loves you because if there is love from both sides then there is nothing like it. I know because we both love each other madly.
@Jotomy (6322)
• India
5 Dec 10
Hi mutya, i think love it happens, we can't make others to forcibly love us, and for marriage life if you want to get marry it is always good to have love both sides then only we can move with them. Otherwise it is like one way traffic, you feel bore in life, either of the partner is not interested on other or vise verse then it may become a problem, how many days or how many things you will sacrifice for the sake of his love or him to you. In this relationship there should be not only love but also adjustment, compromise, some times sacrifice etc., but all these will happen only when both will have love towards each other.
Have a good time. 
