What's the ideal age to get married?
By tck_01
@tck_01 (96)
December 5, 2010 12:09pm CST
I got married when I was 26... A lot of people told me I was too young to get married. But then I had already been living with my wife for 2 years, and had been with my wife since I was 21. The reason I got married is because I love my wife, but also because I feel safe when she's around and feel like I don't have to be lonely anymore... What do you think is the best age to get married? Before 30? Or as late as possible?
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18 responses
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
9 Dec 10
I got married when I was 21 which i now regret it was too early for me that I made some decisions that affect me very much today. I think, the most reasonable age to get married for men is 25 and for women is 22. Maturity will help people to make good decision and take life challenges better than immautrity.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
9 Dec 10
I got married at the age of 21 which was too young for me which i regret now. But at that time I tried out my strength of becoming man and without thinking I got married to a woman I only know for three days and that is why I have so much problem with her now. I think, the most reasonable age to get married for men is 25 and for girls is 22. There needs to be maturity in thinking, behaving and decision and independence for married life to go on well. Immaturity leads to poor decisions and actions that affect many marriages now.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
6 Dec 10
What do you mean you had been with your wife since you were 21 but then you were married at 26?
26 is an average age to got married. Usually people got married when they are already 27 or 28. 30 years of age could be some kinda old already and sometimes there are instances that it is hard to be pregnant for that age. As long as you are in the legal age you can get married like 18 but of course that is really too young and most people are not yet matured enough to get married on that age since they are still playing on that. I don't think 26 is too young. My brother got married when he was 24 years old and he is already a father at that time.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
To me the ideal age to get married is when you are ready for that level, when? At the time complete your course, you have own job and money to support, if you reach that level when you are 24 or above that is the ideal age of marriage... see you around
@chelseabelle (197)
• United States
6 Dec 10
I would say before thirty, but I wouldn't get married really young either.
@robin001 (16)
• India
6 Dec 10
There is no particular age as such to get married. in my opinion whenever you feel you really need someone whom you want to share everything and if you are able to find the one who could understand you better than other, is the right time to get married.
In your case you did the right thing.
@Elixiress (3878)
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6 Dec 10
I don't really believe in marriage, a say believe in the sense that I don't think it is necessary rather than in the respect that it doesn't really exist.
Therefore I don't believe that there is an ideal time to get married, I think marriage should depend on two things:
1) How long you have been with this person? I think getting married after knowing someone for 3 months is too soon however old you are, however if you have known someone, lived with them and know that you are compatible after 5 years for example then I think you are ready for marriage.
2) The benefits of getting married, if your partner is suddenly struck ill and the they want you to inherit everything of theirs because they love you then you should get married. Married couples have many more rights than couples living together. Another case would be if one of you wanted to get a job abroad, it is much easier to get a visa as a "wife" rather than as a "girlfriend".
@LifeGuru (922)
• Canada
6 Dec 10
My gosh, I was just thinking about what's the right age to be engaged since I hope I wasn't rushing into things too quickly. Hmmm.. Let's see... *reads what you've typed*
I think people should get married if they know they're ready. If they can maintain a sustainable income, without any huge amounts of debts, keep the love flare going for a long time, and you know you love them so so so so so so so so so so very very very very very very much that you never ever want to let them go and it's mutual on both parites.. Then by all means, get hitched. It doesn't matter how old you are to get married as long as you know the love is there and always going to be there through thick and thin no matter what. 30 feels too old for me if I want kids in the long run because some parents who's got kids who are 10 when they're 40.. And some who are in their 50s with kids already off to college and such.. I wanna try to be those parents who aren't ancient in that term.. Like sure I'm not ready for kids yet and stuff but --- my gosh I sound like I'm rushing into things.. But I'm not, it has always been kinda my ideal life's goal to find and marry someone when I'm in my 20s. Which I know that I would because my man and I has been talking about engagements, wedding stuff, and how our future looks five years from now right to the finer details before settling down to anything. I'm 19, he's 21... We're both in College, but still aiming for working on building the base of our careers for a better future since he and I both wanna give each other the best out of the best of life with the best that we can do. He's not going to bury me in debt nor shall I with him. We plan on getting married 2 years from now, though I've only known him for more than 12 months..
@iwinagain (545)
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6 Dec 10
There's really no ideal age. It really depends on whether you're ready or not to be in a committed relationship and handle everything that comes with it. A marriage works out if there's commitment, compromise, understanding, and love between two partners.
@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
6 Dec 10
I`m 33, and still single. I wanted to get married soon, but our relationship ended after he gave up our relationship due to some family problems ( so complicated to tell..anyway, he`s not good for me, that`s all). I still want to get married as soon as I find someone who really loves me and my family ( and i love him too) can understand each other, ready to make commitment etc. It depends on whether you`re ready or not. I don`t want to get married because of my age. Some of my friends decided to get married because they are afraid they couldn`t get a better man, despite the fact that they had problems with their BF bfore getting married. Then, after 3-4 years of marriage ( with kids) ,they gave up and decided to divorce. I don`t want to be like that. My brother-in-law`s sister got married when she was 37 in 2004 and her hubby is 7 years younger!!
@frenzylady (518)
• Philippines
6 Dec 10
Hi tck_01! In my opinion, when it comes to marriage, age does not matter. As long as both the parties are ready for a life-long relationship then it should be enough. Cheers!
@back2guw (128)
• India
6 Dec 10
i think the best age to get married will be when i would be believe that i am ready for it...Getting married is easy at any age but the most difficult part will be taking your married life to the next level if you are not stable enough to take the load..So its better to get married when you believe that you are ready for it..
@lady_di1210 (263)
• Philippines
5 Dec 10
I think the best age to get married is when you already have a stable job for financial stability, you're done with any family-related obligations, you don't have issues with your parents anymore, and when you're ready to settle down and enjoy living with the person you love the most, who also loves you, for the rest of your life.
There's no specific age to get married.. but for me, if all these things are met, then I'm be ready to get hitched as soon as possible. As of now, I'm not yet ready to get married because I haven't met all the things that I mentioned above.
To answer your question... I guess the ideal age for marriage is from 26-31.. that would be the time when you've accomplished everything in life with no regrets.. ^_^
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
5 Dec 10
I don't think there is an age good for getting married. it's up to your decision when you take this step. as long as the realtionship works out well and you get along just fine and love eaxh other I don't see why you souldn't get married if you wanna do it. anyway I don't think it's ok to marry at a really young age: when you are less than 15 years old. some parents force their children into doing that( at least in my contry it happens). it's bull*** and they don't realise they ruin their children's lifes.