how do you end a relationship and stay friends at the same time?

Ending a relationship with a partner is never an easy thing to do. if you can stay on good terms without any bitterness in the relationship, there is a good chance that you can still remain friends.

I am sorry but I can't stay friends with an ex-boyfriend, lol! Honestly, I was the one who broke up with all my BFs, thus, it would be difficult for me to befriend them at this situation, as much as I want to however the other party still has a grudge on me for breaking their hearts, and when I think about it now, I feel real bad, and if given a chance, I will apologize to all of them. I just did say sorry to one of them last month! Cheers!

i think if the love was passionate it's impossible to be friends with an ex. i mean it's going to be a very calculated show if you know what i mean. but in the end time changes things. so, i guess an interlude of hating what happened and even the ex is sometimes necessary if only to really get over the love that had been a great waste. just my opinion.

I've been in a situation similar to this. In both relationships I've ever had. I've felt that desperation, though, too. When someone you love is breaking up with you I think people tend to reach for whatever they can to keep them around. You start to panic and you don't really think of the long run, all you're thinking of is now and "What can I do to keep them here??". What I would suggest she do is call his bluff on it. I really don't think he has any intention of hurting himself. But, I also don't think she should divorce him just because they aren't getting along. They're married and they love each other. They should do everything in their power to push through it for as long as they can. One time when me and my most recent ex-boyfriend were in a fight, he was being unreasonable so I just told him I was leaving and going home and started walking away. He started flipping out, telling me to not walk away, and when I didn't leave he said "Do you want me to stab myself?!", I continued walking, he pulled out a knife and STABBED himself several times in his arm. We had to go to the hospital to get him stitches. Needless to say, he felt really stupid afterward and never did anything like that, again. My advice to her would be to just tell him what's up. Tell him that she's not going to stick around because he's threatening her and if he doesn't straighten his act up, especially with the possessiveness (that's a really big sign of mental abuse), then she will really start considering a divorce. I wish them luck and hope everything works out in the end.

I think is hard to stay friends after break up. If it is happen its just very rare right?Because, you can't avoid feeling awkward to your ex.

Hi, I just wanted to say I'm sorry your sister is going through this. My husband use to be like that when we started arguing and I wanted to leave him. He would go off and say stuff like he was going to end it all. For a while, it was what made me stay in the relationship. The fear that if I left he would hurt himself. Now, I am going to tell you what I ended up doing and it worked and made our relationship better, but it may not work for your sister. It really all depends on if she is this fed up or not. Me and my husband have been married for 10 years now and in the beginning for the first 5 years it was terrible. Fights all the time, every day it seems liked. I'm talking knock down drag out fights and not on his part. I'm not nor have ever been a fighter. I hate arguing and I don't like confrontation. He turned me into a fighter. Which is possibly a good thing now. Because now nobody walks all over me. Anyways, after a while I got really tired of fighting and feeling helpless and alone. I got really tired of only staying around just so he would be safe. And one day I had had enough and I snapped. I told him that if he wanted to kill himself then go for it and I got my kids (we have kids) and packed my stuff and left. I went to my mothers house and stayed there for a night. He called me the next day and apologized and I told him an apology is not working this time. He had to change, really change or it was over and if me leaving him made him feel like ending it then by all means end it. You are not going to keep me by making me scared. You will not keep me by making me hurt! You will not keep me by making me worry! You will keep me by treating me with the respect and love and honesty I NEED!!! You will NOT use the sad excuse of ending it all to KEEP ME! Because from now on, that is all it is. A SAD EXCUSE! It is the easy way out and if you want to choose the easy way out then you go right on ahead and take that road, because after you've taken your road, I'll take my road down the right path. Yes, I love you. Yes I care about you and your life. Yes, I want to stay married to you, but only if and when you see that your actions are no good and it is hurting our marriage. I will no longer be the victim in this form of abuse and I will no longer play your games. You want to end it all, the you go on and do it. Until you change I will be at my mothers. Call me when you've thought about YOUR LIFE!.. I hung up on him and called me later on that day and we talked and ever since that day he has been working hard to keep me and in the last 5 years since I told him to go on and kill himself, he has NEVER brought that up again to me. He won't say that to me anymore. Because now he knows, yes I love him with my whole heart, but I'm not playing these games. If you have to threaten your life to keep a woman, then maybe your life isn't worth keeping. And your sister needs to realize that her life isn't worth HIM.. Now with that said, if they can work through it and become better people for it then that is great. Because me and my husband worked through it and we are better people. We learned from our mistakes and we try not to make them anymore. It is all a learning process. But if she thinks for one minute that there is no hope, then she needs to pack her stuff and get out and not worry about what he will do to himself. That is his problem. If he feels like he can not live without her, then that is something he needs to face alone! She needs to do what she needs to do for her and herself only!! I hope this gives you some sort of help. If not then just take this with you and give it to your sister. Her life and her happiness is all that really matters. If she isn't happy then she needs to make a change for her. Not for him. It has nothing to do with him. THIS IS HER LIFE!!!!