Knowing If he/she is the right person to keep

I'm not yet married but I can relate with this topic. I have a story that I know. This girl get married because the husband want her so much. Their relationship is not really good to each other. The guy cheated on this girl many times. They have a 2 pretty daughters who I can say a buttered daughters. But still God is so good why this things are happening. Everything has a good reason and purpose. Just go with the flow. Life must go on. Getting married is not a joke. But I can say that my boyfriend is a blessing for me. He is so good since I met him in college. So if your having a doubt in your mind in getting married better to think more. Or else you will suffer for many years. Good day!

My 2 cents. Obviously infidelity, abuse & lack of love & respect can destroy a marriage but I do think a lot of people go into marriage thinking as long as you really "love" each other it should be easy. I don't believe that at all. Marriage is work. It's very rewarding but it is work. What most folks call love i'd say is infatuation and that feeling isn't a 24 hour a day thing that you will feel for the rest of your life no matter how wonderful the relationship. Love is an action...it's a decision. You are choosing to love this other person which means even when you don't feel like you love them (due to time, an argument, whatever...) you still do love them because you made that choice. re: finding the right person. Having the same or at least very similiar values is really important in my opinion. If your world view doesn't line up with each other when you're 16 years old it might not seem like that big of deal. Once you are making decisions for your family that stuff is huge. There is obviously no way to know for certain whether or not someone will cheat but having the same values and being in a marriage where you both understand that love isn't simply a feeling but an action that needs to be repeated over and over increases the odds of having a successful marriage. If a man puts his wife before himself and a woman puts her husband before herself it's almost impossible to not have a happy marriage (assuming the values already line up with each other.)

First of all, I don't believe marriage should change anything at all. I think in order to get married you should already have your relationship figured out and it should be happy, healthy and stable. After that, there is no certainty. No one has the ability to tell the future. People change, things change, life is unpredictable.

Let me share with you the love story of my sister. She's been in love with this guy even during their adolescent years. And she keep praying to God that he will give that guy to her as her husband. Then God finally granted her wish, she eventually married the guy of her dreams. As of now she is working abroad and she send money regularly to her husband her in our country. She's been receiving some gossip that her husband is seeing other girl and when she confronted him on the telephone he finally admitted it and the worst thing the other woman is pregnant. Marriage with the one you love can never be an assurance that they will remain loyal to you. That is a sad part. Love is not enough fr a relationship to survive.

i didnt marry yet^^ but when i marry i will want to be sure that that boy is the right one for me and for that i guess i will need to date him for few years before marry^^ i guess thats more secure than just marry with someone and then happens like happened with your friends that those guys were not like they thought. but your friend shouldnt continue married with him just bcs of her child. she can try to find a job if she doesnt work and then ask the divorce and raise the child and he has to help too but each one has a different life. that way she wont be unhappy being with a guy that cheats on her.

Hello my friend nereidiane! I could say I'm lucky because I've never been through the bad things you have said. I have this friend of mine who told me, before getting into marriage ask yourself 100 times if you really want to marry the person,if you answered just one NO then don't get married. I did it and my answer is consistently YES! So I married my hubby and fortunately, I have no regrets! I guess we should be ready for what consequences might happen to our married life since we accepted it in our lives forever. Be tough to all the problems that you will encounter and ask help to our Lord!