What to say to a friend?
By bopboop66
@bopboop66 (27)
United States
December 6, 2010 3:25pm CST
My friend asked me about another one of my friends. She wanted to know if he is loyal, but I obviously know, he isnt. What should a person say? Should I bad mouth my other friend, because he will eventually find out or should I lie to the friend and have her figure it out for herself.
1 response
@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
6 Dec 10
You should tell the truth as you know it from your own experience. Give facts and not gossip. Make sure that the friend who is asking the question knows that it is your opinion based on what you know of the person first hand.
@bludshot00 (101)
• United States
6 Dec 10
i agree with him^^ i believe it wouldnt be gossip or talking crap if its the truth and itll be better cause im sure your friend wouldnt care that much and im sure you wouldnt want your other friend getting hurt by him
@Pioneer2b (8)
• United States
11 Dec 10
I agree with both of these!^^ I wouldn't advise devulging everything you know though, but I would tell them the truth in regards to the "question" that was asked about the person in question. I had a similar instance happen with me. The person hadn't displayed anything negative towards me, but they had to other people and I had found this out through their own admittance and then by first hand observation. Once I had seen that, I had stopped all interaction with the individual. Later when I was asked about this person, I only answered the question with the truth I knew. I had told them that: "Not towards me but I did see them act in a way that I thought was not right." I didn't say alot, but if you chose your words correctly you can "answer the question" without giving a story. Usually that is all people are looking for, a direct answer.
