Being a mother is the toughest job I've ever had!
By fourjems08
@fourjems08 (550)
Philippines
December 6, 2010 9:26pm CST
To conceive a child and nurture it for 9 months inside your belly is hard enough. But the toughest is being a mother to your kids when you brought them out to this world until they grow up. It is one thing that can never be learned in school. We may hear it from other's experiences, but once we are really into the process, it is very difficult to handle some situations on kids. From the very beginning I have been a working mom with my 3 kids. It was never that tough as I am mostly in the office during the day and when I'm home, few hours are spent with my kids as they go to bed early. But when I had my fourth child and I stopped working to be a full time mom, things had been completely different. I have become different. It's the toughest job I have ever imagined. Running the whole house and taking care of my 2 and 3 year old kids is very much harder for me. Most of the time I loose my temper easily on them. I have done things I never imagined that I can do on my kids. I have become an evil mom at times and I hate it. I love my kids very much. There is no question about it. But sometimes the pressure and stress that I'm going through with them is hard for me to cope up with. I've been praying to God to give me more strength and more patience with the kids but I still am into it. I told my husband (who's working far from us) about my problem but he doesn't understand me. I guess no one can unless he/she is in my shoe or have experience the same thing as I do. I salute all full time mom who have made their best efforts to take care of the kids. Who have shown great patience when times are rough and tough inside the house. You are great!
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@thedaddym (1731)
• United States
9 Jan 11
I don't give my wife enough patience and praise for how good of a mom she is to our kids. Two of our kids are teens now and the youngest will be 7 later this week. My wife handles the kids, the house, cooks every day, does all the laundry, takes care of the bills, and drives the kids to their different activities and stuff. It really is a full time job. On top of that she runs a small business out of our home. Anyone who stays home and takes care of the kids and family deserves more credit then they probably get. Just try to enjoy your young kids. They grow up fast. When they are getting on your nerves try and remember that they won't be this little for very long and try to enjoy their vibrancy, instead of begrudging them of it.
@fourjems08 (550)
• Philippines
10 Jan 11
Yes you're probably right about kids not being little for long. But I just can't help it if they get to my nerves. There age gap is too close (ages 9-5-3-2) that taking care of them while keeping the house intact is near to impossible (I forgot to mention they are very active and playful!). You clean the house for almost half a day and they just mess it for less than half a minute. Tough job!
@fourjems08 (550)
• Philippines
9 Dec 10
Yes it is. A woman cannot be complete if she cannot bear a child. And a home could not be called home if it can't be filled with children's laughter. A family wouldn't be called a family if there is no presence of a child. That makes the children the greatest gift to any couple.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
16 Dec 10
It is very difficult to be a stay at home mother with small children at home. You see, I was in the same situation four years ago only I just had two children. I was a working mother until the time that my son was born and then I made the decision to be a stay at home mother until my son started school. It is quite an adjustment because you get used to having adult interaction and when you stop working you really don't have that anymore. However, it is also the most rewarding thing that I've ever done.
@chocobuko (117)
• Philippines
8 Dec 10
It really is a tough job! I also have kids, my eldest is in grade school and she is 6 years old and my youngest is only 10 months old. I quit my job when I had my first child because I wanted to be the one to take care of my kid. It was really very challenging, she made my night into day and vise versa and to think that was only just the beginning. When she became a toddler, it even became tougher than when she was only a baby. My patience since then has always been being tested and most of the time I failed to keep on stretching that "patience". It has been six years now and I still fail to keep my patience, I think it has even gotten shorter and shorter. Dont get me wrong, I do love my kids very much and they love me as well. Its just that their immaturity really gets into my nerve. As a family we always pray for more patience for me in handling the kids especially their tantrums. Until now, I am still trying to control my temper and my daughter knows that, she even told me that she will also try not to make me angry anymore and when she does that I usually complement and thank her for that. Being a stay at home mother is one tough job and I also salute those mothers who chose to give up their careers and jobs for the sake of their kids.
@fourjems08 (550)
• Philippines
8 Dec 10
I share your sentiments. My kids do get to my nerves most of the time. Especially those months when I was still looking for a new nanny and I have the house and 3 kids (my 2nd son lives with my aunts since 11 months old) all to myself. I could hardly keep the house clean as my two little ones needs attention and they mess the whole house even more when I turn my back and do something else. I can hardly rest as I use the time they nap in the afternoon to do the laundry and I lost much weight since I can't eat my meal properly with them messing around and everything. Well, good luck to us mothers as we try to do our best for our kids! :)
@mingviva03 (127)
• Philippines
1 Jan 11
The best and most rewarding job is to be a mother. I am a working mother and the only breadwinner in the family. I am trying my best to give quality time for my four year old son. It's hard to divide my 24 hours for my work, to do my duty as a mother and wife, and also for myself. Even though its been a tiring day from work, when I got home I still have to do some chores for our home and be a teacher for my son...patience and more strength is really needed. But despite all the hardships that I encountered being a mother, at the end of the day, I feel better whenever my son gives me his kiss, hug, smile and whenever he says "mommy, i love you"
