Can anyone give me.....

A few weeks ago I cancelled Christmas. I just did not have the money and my daughter was giving me some flak about it. Meanwhile, my Dad decided he would like to Have Christmas with me...long story. So, I'm going to do what I can to have a good Christmas for us. There will be just simple traditional fare with no trimmings or treats, a simple gift, decorations, a tree. I will cook a roast dinner on the day with dessert but Dad has offered to pay for that. I discovered a couple of months ago that the brother I admired and felt a strong kinship with has harboured false ideas against me for over 40 years...long story lol. This makes him a jerk and a moron in my eyes now. I'm civil to him but no longer respect or admire him. I've become stronger I think since I decided not to let my family have that power over me. Life is easier and let's face it, there will always be something to mar the perfection of our lives. There just has to be balance you know...good vs. bad. If your sibs are like that towards you then they are not worth the pain that you inflict on yourself as a result. I would have loved to have a relationship with my Mum but she's gone now. I need my family but they have some really weird ideas about me and tolerate me at best. I've come this far without their love and support, nothing's going to change any time soon unless I eliminate my need for closeness. I've done that. I'm now cut off from family and totally alone but I have always been that way when it all boils down. Do as fjaril says and spend more time here with friends who love you and care about you. You have my email, feel free to have a cry on my shoulder anytime .

Hi this is one of the ways where you can find people who could respond to you on the matter. And you can even talk out things here... Talk to a lot of lotters here.. Some of the people here are good advisers. And my friend, you can also pray, if you know the BIBLE? God said that you can come to Him. He said in Matthew 11:28 "Come to me all of you who are weary and carrying heavy loads and I will give you rest." God can make and help you get through the tough times of life. Know Jesus through the word of God, and it's best if you have a community there to join, and help you grow in faith with Christ. If you are not comfortable talking things out here my friend. Just pm me here or at ym @ chuyins123@yahoo.com God bless you! Have a happy life! :D

I don't know any website for depression but I know you are not alone, many people are having difficult time lately due to the economy downturn true that some people make it, but the rest are not so fortunate I am working hard to pay my own debts, so that I can help pay hubby's debts so maybe family and love-wise I am fine but I have a good share of stress in money anyway happy holidays I hope you will enjoy holidays no matter what

Well, as you might expect, I'm having a few problems this year, but at least my sibs AREN'T the problem, tho my brother has been in the past. Kat, hun, forget about the bio-family if they are jerks, and work on making your family of choice, your friends, the center of your world. Biology gave you no choice, but you can chose to find a better family and one who loves you for the wonderful person you are. This is how I chose to live way back because I knew that while my family (with the possible except of that brother) loved me, my love of science fiction left me with little interests shared with my family (tho I got mom hooked on MacGyver). So I found friends who shared my love of the genre and that's who I have as my support system. Not as big as some people's families, but even if I don't see them every year, they are still my friends.

I am sorry to hear that you have depression. I having a hard time when I don't eat medicines. I can't cope with my friends and colleagues and bosses. Which mean I already recover at some time but get sick again when this incident of bad relationships in high school occur to me again whenever I want to start anew at work. I want you to talk to your doctor about the meds that makes changes to you and asked him to suggest a new meds that acts well with your body. How long you have been depression?

Depression is tough especially at this time of year when there are so many emotions and stress going on! I suffer from depression which has me on medication. The meds have kept things on an even keel for me fortunately. We have a site here called Beyond Blue which helps with the blues as the title says; it’s an Australian site so I don’t know how helpful it would be for you but you may find some literature that may assist you. I hope you feel better soon Katlady, do you have anyone you can talk to? Have you spoken to your doctor? It sounds like you need a friendly ear...

Sweetheart I wish I could help you and if I was closer I probably could What has happened not so long back you where so happy, what is going on Sweetie Stay strong and focus, the Meds can take time to set in But please remember I love you miss you and I am sending you a big warm Hugs

Hi, I think the more important thing is to recognise that you are depressed which I feel it is good enough a cure. Knowing thyself is always the best cure. Support sites, friends and medication can only provide morale support and temporary relief. More important thing is to face it. Is it the holidays blue? I occupy myself with work, outings and very soon the month is over. Sending hugs to all your friends is one good way to kill depression. Have LOVE will heal. LOL.

Wow! I love your profile page. Very creative and festive. Anyhow Carryl just send me a friend request and I'll send you the name of a site that I'm also a member of and that offers great support. Hope to hear from you soon. Kindest regards, Dave

well kat!! my advice to you is just pray and go to place where you can breathe. i have experienced depression just recently and i just pray and meditate to God. i believe no one else best understand you than God right? its effective and i was ok. now i can get over to every depression i might have!!God bless=))