Life has been so cruel

The bad things in life, they are just bound to happen. We just have to figure out a way to deal with them. Life is not all sunshine and roses after all. We are going to have some bad things go wrong and some things that are tough to deal with in life. We are not going to have all fun and games, no matter how much we want to. And often times, it is our own fault, so we have to deal with that as well.

Mohommed, it can't be denied that there are times that we have no control over the bad things that happen to us. Even if we would (for example) make the choice to stay at home instead of going for a drive so that we wouldn't be killed by a drunk driver, who is to say that there might not be somebody so drunk that he/she would crash into your house and kill you right there in your easy chair? Of course, we also sometimes have no control over the good things that happen to us--unless one chooses not to accept the million dollars from a philanthropist who comes knocking at his/her door. Having said that, I agree that we DO tend to point the finger of blame at the wrong source at times. One example is blaming aliens for taking our jobs when they're only working at the jobs that most of us have shown no interest in taking. Another is blaming--and suing--a railroad company because you were hit by a train while standing on the track. On the other hand, we will often take full credit for something positive, even when others have made it possible.

Would one enjoy life if it was all good and happy? Yes, all of us like to blame others for whatever bad has happened to us but do we do the same if something good happens to us? I believe whatever has to happen happens for a reason and that i am the sole person responsible for it.

I agree, but it is not always in our hand. Let me give you an example. It is not in our hand if a war happens, and if we lose our home or a person we love at this war.