What is the meaning of possessive in love?...Are you?

Hiya sanjay, Not really that possessive I suppose I could be like most People. I have just never had the occasion for it to come about and feel like that in a serious way. However it could turn out that I do turn a bit possessive for some reason but as for now no I let them come and go in my life. If they are here it´s because they want to be nothing more nothing less.

I used to be a possessive person in my younger years. I am possessive of my friends and my husband most specially. I would get jealous when my friend goes with other friends without me. Usually , when that happens, i sulk. . i don't go with that friend anymore , avoiding her like a plague. It creates a monster in me and i don't feel good about it either. Same thing with my husband. I get jealous in any way that i am not included. However, as i grew older, i mellowed. I realized such a behavior will always put my disposition down. It's a negative feeling . Hence, little by little, i changed it and triumphantly i am not that possessive anymore!

Possessiveness is a synonymous term of selfishness. When you are possessive on friends and love, it only means that you are selfish. Hence, you want your friends to be your own, same is through with love. It means, you do not want others to take it from you.

I would say that in my younger days I lacked confidence in my relationship, and allowed the "animal" part to come through. If you watch animals, you will notice that they are nearly all possessive. Two males of a species will fight if one of them encroaches on the females he has chosen. Nature then decides who is going to lead the herd/pack by who is the stronger and wins the battle. Humans are no different, but have intelligence and therefore can transcend the animal part as most of us eventually do. A relationship gets stronger if there is trust, and weaker if there is mistrust. The couple may stay together, but without each having their independence, happiness is difficult to achieve. _Derek

In life, we tend to be possessive over many things. We might not notice it because we see it as something natural. Some says it's a form of cherish and treasure, but over the limits of it. Take love for instance, over possessive means spending too much time with their loved ones, keeping a close tab on their life, leaving them with no privacy at all. Possessive with friends is not that serious, but still it creates discomfort when trying hard to protect a friend at the expense of them being able to know a new friend.

I think those person who claim to be possessive, indicates they have some guts to be possessive,but i say differently, every person is possessive, loving social here, because, they are commenting here, and discussing which indicate they are possessive.

Well when it comes to my children I am possessive to an extent. I don't like the idea of someone stepping in and trying to take my place as their mom which I did deal with in the past. Those are MY babies. Any way that's about as far as it goes. I don't try to control or not let them have a life. I'm just a little protective.

Well there is very much a difference between possessive and passionate! Someone who is possessive tends to suffocate their friend/lover. Lots of times a possessive person won't let their friend interact with other people because they are afraid I guess. Being passionate about loving someone is great unless you consume their lives so much into yours that they no longer have any existence!

I take it to mean you are possessive in love when you object of your affections to yourself alone. Being possessive means not sharing that person with anyone else regardless of the situation. I don't want to be possessive with another. I have seen what it can do to some people and i don't want want that for myself.

Hi sanjay, yes i am possessive about my husband and my child. Because i feel they should have a good life and a quality life. So i always insist them to do like this or like that or guide them in a proper way, just as a wife and mother i made them to control but i feel it is my duty too. Even in my friend case i will do like that, i am possessive because i love that friend so much, i want she should be in good tract. Controlling and dominating in other words possessiveness of others i don't feel it is a bad thing but it should not be over possessiveness which will give more problems like misunderstanding, loosing patience, mental and health problems may also arise some times. So most of the people will have possessiveness. Have a good day/night.