Is it possible to love two persons at the same time and at the same intensity?
By ellebj
@ellebj (784)
Philippines
December 8, 2010 11:48pm CST
Hi MyLotters,
i want to know your opinion regarding this topic... can a man love two persons at the same time with the same degree?
i can't understand what will i do or what will i say when someone asks me some advice regarding that matter. Definitely for me, when you love, even if you say that you love the both of them, there is someone that is greater than the other.
he has a girlfriend now. he loves her. but before they get to know each other and fall in love, he feels something from a classmate in his grade school. just before they meet, he stalk her, they talk. he is infatuated with her, which later he realized that he love her.
on the other hand, he has a friend, he cares for her so much and fall in love with her unintentionally. after several months, of knowing her, he later realized that his cares for this girl (which is now his girlfriend) is due to love.
a few months had passed since they became officially lovers, he again had a date with this girl in the past and when he discovered in facebook, which is their bridge, that this girl had feelings for her. then, with that, he became excited and feels he really is falling in love with her. however, he also feels the same way with his girlfriend. He is happy whenever she around. he misses her when they are away. he cares for her too much.
now, he don't know which he would choose. the recent one or the girl from the past which he don't know her feelings for her.?
if you were him, what will you do?
what is the best solution to resolve this problem?
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8 responses
@vinluis1125 (12)
• Qatar
9 Dec 10
Your friend must be a loving person...lol! Personally I don't believe in loving two persons at the same time. In the first place if you already love someone and commits yourself to her/him you should not entertain any "like" feelings to others. It's just a matter of choice. If you chose not to hurt the person whom you are with then you shouldn't entertain your feelings to the other one. You should tell that to your friend ellebj.
@Ritmon (118)
•
9 Dec 10
I think true love can stay in those hearts which can feel someone's pain,feelings,expressions etc. at this matter i just want to say if someone has this type of attitude he /she can't get true love from any one....just avoisd this types of love..it's really harmful for a human life and career.am i right ?
@vinluis1125 (12)
• Qatar
9 Dec 10
You're absolutely right Ritmon! We're speaking of true love, perhaps ellebj's friend is not truly in-love to his current girl.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
9 Dec 10
I submit that one person can love two persons at the same time, but always not in the same degree or intensity. There will always be an unbalance weight where one is greater.
That kind of love is a wide spread and they call it love triangle. I have been into that and I had to choose only one of them because I do not want to be unfair to anyone of them I have to weigh my feelings.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
9 Dec 10
Hi dear,
It is really possible and not only two, as many as we can. For love, there is no limitation. The limitation or restriction is man made and it is to be done for a social well being. Otherwise, if everybody is start loving everyone, the scene will be so dangerous.
I am not joking, it is possible. Just imagine, you love someone and the same love can be applicable to any one. If it is any one, it can be for as many. I think you follow me. Also, think that nice and good looking 10 handsome boys telling that they like you, and all are giving you the request and asking you select any of the 7, and you will start writing 7 boys name in order of your preference. Also, finally the question is, select any 3, which you prefer to marry. Yes, you will write 3 best among boys and give the list. What it mean? You can love atleast any 3. So the love and the like is 3 person and if you are asked to go for 5, you will definitely write 65 names. Means, you can love 5 persons. So, love is unlimited and we can love as many people, if we are matured.
But socially, it is restricted. Only because of that, we just conclude with one and if we look at anyone more, it will be an issue also. So, if we can study in a class of 30 students, we can love all the 30 students. But it is not practical and permitted. So, think in such a way that all are possible, but have practical impossibilities. If someone marry 2 girls, it is possible, but practically it is so risky and there are consequences.
In your case, I tell you that go for the best one and the one he like the most. Because, we cannot get both in one single choice. Also, find out who can give more love among the two and tell the fact to the party and opt the other one just as a friend now itself. If you keep both in mind, there may be again issues in the later stage. Right away, discuss the matter and solve it out and tell both the girls the real fact and the more you delayed, the more will be the consequences.
Thank-s
@marcmm (1804)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 10
For me as a man, it is possible to love more than two person at one times. I've been there and done that. But of course the intensity of the love will be different for both girl.
There is a reason why a man love two person at a time. As a saying goes, there is nothing come with a package. There is always something missing. What we find in someone we might not find in others.
When you in love with a person, there is always something missing in our relationship. That missing ingredient is what we are looking for. We all know that nobody is perfect but it is a human nature to seek something that they find missing. By searching the missing ingredient we might find that we unintentionally love other person eventhough we do love our partner very much.
@vinluis1125 (12)
• Qatar
9 Dec 10
True love is accepting each other's differences and flaws, my friend. If there is something lacking with someone you love or she has a negative trait which you find difficult to handle, then you should talk to her about that. In this way you are showing you really care for the betterment of that person because you love her, not by looking on someone else the "lacking" trait with your current someone. What if every girl you like has a lacking trait,does it mean you will look for that lacking trait again on another girl? My friend, that is not a trait of a real man. Be firm with your decisions, make a choice!
@karishna (86)
• Philippines
9 Dec 10
Hi! I'm a bit of biased regarding the topic. In my opinion a man cannot lobe both women in same degree because in that two women there is the serious type and the fun type. In the serious type, it is like they can live with that woman who loves them dearly even though they will get old and etc. while for the fun type it is only a no work but play alone. So it is like they only wanted some fun for that one and they are not serious about it like it didn't occur to there thought on marrying them. but that is just my opinion.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
9 Dec 10
Anything in the name of love is possible. Being torn between two people in your heart could happen. i don't see how the same measure of intensity could be had for both people. There is just no equality in love.
@davidkwan95 (185)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 10
No, it is impossible to love two people in the same intensity. But loving people at the same time is possible.
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