how to get my focus back on track?

Hello, The information you've given here is a bit fragmented in nature. So it is really difficult to draw out some concrete conclusion from all these. One thing I know for certain that you fall under the category of introvert. The behavior you are showing right now is a typical anxiety syndrome. May be something unexpected and shocking happened recently. It's too personal that you can't share the details with just anybody. You also have a feeling of neglect or humiliation that is too uncomfortable to be discussed with your roommates. You're been criticizing yourself lately and the thought of what the result might be scares the hell out of you. Your stress is getting multiplied. You know you're stressed, and you keep thinking about it, thereby causing more stress to yourself. It's not the present that is causing you stress. If you consider carefully you will find that it's either the fear of future or the mourning of the past that is troubling you the most. The first thing you should do now is to start living in the present without even thinking about your past or future. Read this http://www.bukisa.com/articles/412944_how-to-live-in-the-present-and-be-happy and try to follow every word minutely. Once you know what it is, continue being in your present. Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift. So try to stay afoot in your present. Once you achieve that, you let me know and I will tell you what to do next. Thanks. God bless you.

Hi dear, It is of course the lack of vision. You will try hard, concentrate, focus and will do all whatever you can do – but still you are not satisfied with the result from all. You should have a vision and determination which comes only from your own mind. There may be so many obstacles. But your own determination cannot change by anything. You said, you tried all the means like watching TV, talking to family, movies, photos, etc. That means, you are not clear of what to do and how to do. This is because your absence of vision. How you can expand it? You should foresee the seriousness of the future. If the if you are going to appear the exam, don’t see anything else. Conclude whatever you can do for it. Just reading and preparation won’t help. Unless you are not visualize what you want how someone else can help you. Whatever you need to do, should come from within you. I mean, from myLot, you may get a 100 solutions and suggestion. Will it any way going to help you, unless you are not taken any initiative. All the suggestion would be positive and one way or other it will help you also. But if you are not ready to accept it, how will it help you. So, you should have a pre determined mind set up to how to approach it, and what all are the means to it. How you can achieve it, how others can help in it. What is your ultimate intention. Which all are the means to adopt to get it. So, these simple questions and the answers will help you to form a general outlook of the matter. Also, above all, your strong determination should support it. A good wringing condition TV is there in the bed room. It is 3D, it 100” flat screen, it is made by Sony brand, it is of stereo 10000 watt output sound, it has surround sound system, it works continues for 3 days, etc etc, and you got a good audience to see the program. It is going to start now. Everything is ready. But, there is NO POWER SUPPLY. How you will enjoy the program. Now this is happened with you. You have everything, but what is the essential thing, which you are lacking. So, dear, come back to your genuine level. Come back as just the girl of SmileY, and sit peacefully and go ahead. You can do it, do it, do it. I am quite sure. Now you see only what you want to be. Just concentrate on the vision for which you are going to try. You don’t see anything else. Just spot out what you want to see in the darkness. You can clearly see the object and nothing around. If you can do so, you will WIN. All other things will go fade and your vision and ambition will remain. Believe in yourself and concentrate – insert your own aroma and salt for your taste and go ahead dear, the SUCCESS is of yours. Best of luck, please have smile and I want to see the smile on your face forever. Go ahead, I am just behind you wearing this hat on my head. Cheers, Thank-s

Start simple! I think you should set yourself some tiny goals, and try to reach them one by one, which may then cumulate to achieve your bigger dream. Don't aim too much for a start, but ensure that you start somewhere...you know, courting those small, seemingly insignificant successes goes a long way in preparing your confidence for the tougher challenges. Try to get that winning momentum back in your mindset - you'll be cruising along! Best wishes for all your endeavors.

smiley83, First of all, I don't think there's anything wrong with whatever you are doing to try and get back to terms with whatever you are dealing with. However, I anticipate that your frustrations that you are not getting any headway is probably due to your acceptance that the overcoming takes time. Liken to taking up a flight of stairs, I am sure none of us alive short of Steve Austin's characterization of the 6 million dollar man - could not reach the top with a single bound. As such, neither can you with whatever you are trying to overcome. I am sorry with whatever you are going through but rushing through things isn't the greatest idea for your current predicament. If I may add some finesse to whatever you are doing - I'd say that you focus on quality than quantity. Say when you go to the movies - make sure you get the best seat, popcorn or loads of favorite snacks. Take the time to smell the flowers, take a longer route to see more and most of all experience more. Even you will need all the stretching exercises before engaging in very strenuous and extreme sports. Oh! I almost forgot, you even need to warm up before working out in the small confines of a gym - so I say again, please take your time here. At least at the end of the day, this is what it means things (like these) take time. So, take care and remember it is weekend - have a really good one.

Trying to suggest to someone to keep working does not always do the trick, but it's worth the effort. If you get tired of study and the like try doing something that you have not for a while. the novelty might serve to distract you.

I have little advice for and i hope it will work. Firstly try to focus on something you like doing best maybe your hobby like listening to music, playing games or going to beach, then you set your priority right. With this you will get to catch fun thereby erasing the bad mood out of you, you will just see that things will started working for you the way you want.

The best way to fight your frustrations is to do the things that make you happy and take your mind off your problem. Try going on a vacation with friends or family. You could also try exercising. I went through the same thing a couple of months ago and whenever I felt down I always got up and went for a jog. After jogging a couple of rounds I usually felt good after.

Ho Smiley83!. I know its not easy to ease the feeling if we are failure and its not easy to forget about. I think you just need to accept thats you are making mistake and you are ready to fixed it. You can talk with your teacher about maybe they wiling to help. I now at this stage you are feeling no one can help or understand because you are focusing every thing on sadness. Please find someone who you can share your problem and give positive feedback to you. If you can not find any one who you can trust you can always pray to GOD and tell what in your heart. Maybe if no man can solve your problem maybe GOD can. Be strong my friend, if God allow problem to come, He will give way out and He think we are strong enough to hold it. So don't underestimated yourself.

Hello smiley83! Honestly, I dont know about your previous post but i want to tell you that focusing on something is not that hard. On my opinion you are the one who is limiting yourself to focused on one thing. If you have the faith and confidence to focus on one thing, I know that you can do it:) So my advice is you need FAITH and CONFIDENCE:) Dont think about things that will just make you depressed:) Live life to the fullest:) Try hard to focus:) Hardworking is worh it:) PROMISE!:)