what would you do to the people who lose their words?
By larrychen
@larrychen (165)
December 9, 2010 8:41am CST
Hi, friends...
This Monday I felt so angry with a friend who lost his words. He promised to join a party together with me last week, but at the beginning of this week he said that he couldn't. Of course, he listed his reasons. But I knew clearly that all the reasons were just excuses, and the main reason should be that he didn't want to go any more. Frankly speaking, it didn't matter much whether he would go or not, because I still had some other guys to go together. However, I just couldn't help feeling angry and mad at him losing his own words in such sucking ways.
So, I told him directly that it wasn't a big deal whether you will join it but it was really a matter that you did have lost your words. It was you who made me not believe you so much any more.
Okay, I was just angry for that time and I wouldn't believe him that much in the future.
what would you do to the friends who just broke their promises so easily without any reasonable excuses, nor considering much about what you would feel?
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4 responses
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
9 Dec 10
Maybe he felt that if he told you he just didn't want to go, you would be much more angry with him, than you would if he made up some excuse.Sometimes people have a hard time simply saying no to someone and feel they need to make up an excuse as to why they don't want to do a certain thing. I don't think your friend was deliberately lying to you, i just believe he was trying to let you down easily
@larrychen (165)
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10 Dec 10
Well, thank u for your words here. As close friends, I know him quite well. Although I don't know why he didn't want to go after promising to, I know there would not be any excuses to prevent him going. He did make a mistake. But I have let the issue pass away, after all, we are still friends.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
9 Dec 10
Things like this happen. I wouldn't mind if this happened to me. Like you said, there are others who'll go to your party so don't even bother worrying about it.
@larrychen (165)
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10 Dec 10
yeah, i am not angry with him any longer now. and we appear to have forgotten that issue, just talking and playing as usual.
but, at that time when he broke his own words i was really disappointed at him.
After all we have a thing called mood.
Now it's okay. Friends still be friends. Maybe it would be better if my angry could teach him something about keeping the promise. He is not a bad guy, it's normal that every one would make some mistakes sometimes.
Thanks for your response.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
3 Mar 11
first, how did you know they were only excuses?
i look at the whole situation, without offense meant, as you just being disappointed from an expectation that your friend will be there.
when i was younger, i would always get angry easily with these situations even if a friend had advised me days before or had given me ample time to decide what to do next. today, i would always give reason to situations. we don't really know what had happened. who knows if the reasons are true? who knows if there are other deeper reasons?
