Will you fight for your man or hand him over to the other woman???

Hi, In this case, his opinion also is important. When you are in such a situation, he also feel the same and then you will be right. As he is already fault of cheat, we cannot 100% trust his performance. However, he agrees with you and a combined decision can nullify the other girl, whatever she is. So, keep always your stand is ok, then you can make him to your line. Thank-s

Nice topic, actually this happens to me before but what I did was the opposite, my husband was lured by her singer, a very indecent women. I always saw her flirting with my husband, she wore very sexy dresses & even asking my husband to untie her dress which is obviously flirtation & I hate it so much because no matter what I do my husband was totally allured by her. So what I did was this, I set him free & they we're together. Living happily, like newly couples. So what, I was so hurt about it but I only suffered for a month because I luckily someone tried to make me happy. I worked so hard to forget it, & then I found my way to happiness. I gain more friends, someone's courting me, I have a nice job,so it turned out that I moved on & finally I felt freedom. I was happy even though at some point I cried when I remember him. Things starting to fall down between them, my husband & his mistress. The girl has a lot of boyfriends, & my husband are just one of them. She's surely a dirty b***h, my husband saw what's the real nature of the girl, how hoar she was. He discovered how cheap that girl was & my husband world falls down. Total opposite of my life.. For a month he suffered, calling me a thousand of times asking me back, crying like a baby feeling so sorry for me. He learned his lessons so badly, I laughed knowing what happen to him. It was "karma".. But then I accepted him back for our sons' sake & honestly I still love him. Now our relationship was stronger & you know what I love about it was, I now held him in my hands. I was like the queen in my house now, I don't cooked for him, he serves me rather me serving him. Things turned out in my favor, & he's very afraid now to make me mad.

I wish there were another woman, but enough about my situation... If I were with somebody, and there was another woman, and I still wanted to be with the guy, I would make it really clear that he has to make a choice. If he continued to see her, I would consider his choice to be made, and split up.

well I admire you for that... :) In my case I still dont know what to do... well if other woman will try to seduce him and he got seduced I dont know if I could still bring back the trust specially If I found it to other person... I always tell him "if you really love me theres no reason to look for other if you are contented because if you did It means your not happy while I am giving my 100% to make you happy" my other line is "I really cant imagine my self going to jail" and he will ask why? and I will tell him "so please try not to cheat on me"lol it is a joke but theres some part of it that is real..lol But honestly I think theres more chance that I might cheat on him than he will cheat on me (although OF Course I will never will) thats how I feel how much he loves me..but still we'll never know...

Hello there! I don't think I can hand in my man that easily, though. Maybe if the man we are referring to is the one who really wants to leave me, then by all means, we can go our separate ways. There is no use figthing over something that is not worth fighting for anymore, the the cause is lost if the man is the one who wants to quit.

Well mistake is a mistake but well lets hope that will not ruin the things after anyway . Cuz well you know you forgive him but from there on you will have one on your mind . But well if its just a marriage and we are not talking about love , seducing back is great idea :PPPP But i don't think someone in love will show any interest in someone else beside the one they love . If he is interested in someone else i think thats no love anymore .

Well on one hand if you have to fight to keep your man then he probably isnt worth fighting for. My man wouldnt have to fight for my attention because my eyes would only be for him. If someone wants to steal my man then hopefully he is strong enough to resist the temptation if not then he doesnt deserve me and shes welcome to have him.

Hi Marapplestiffy, I'm thinking that I would not be as understanding as you are on something like this. Maybe if it was a one time thing done in a moment of emotional stress or something....possibly but even that would be difficult. It takes two to cheat and if a woman can so easily make him forget his vows then I'd have to wonder when it would happen again. I don't think I'd be real quick to be convinced that it was entirely the woman's fault. Guys tend to say things like that once they are caught. If he loved me then there would be no need to fight to get him back if I wanted him. I wouldn't fight.

I'm sorry but the one I am with now is not exactly a keeper. I have to say that if another woman seduced him...why not let him go? On the other hand, had I been in love with him and cherished every waking moment, yes i would fight for him. This one is a difficult one for everyone in one way or another. I think that if you had to waste all this time getting your family to accept him and he's off somewhere else with with someone else, then by all means, let him go. Sorry but you are hurting yourself worse if you try and keep him knowing someone else had or might have had him. I shiver at the thought. Best of luck to you.

This ould have to depend on my relationship and feelings for the man in my life. If i thought there was even the slightest chance to keep love alive i would defintely fight for my man. Handing him over to the other woman who just be giving up. I don't want to fail without giving it everything i've got first.

If he wants to be back with you then you could accept him back, but if he's not? Why would you pick a rock up to hit your head? The best thing that you can do is show him that you are alright without him. Do not show him that you are devastated because he left, that will only boost his ego. Given the fact we ere given thats the only thing I can say so far. Consider your family, would you really be alright knowing that it is against his will to be with you?

I think I got a different opinion here friend, although I respect yours. In my case I won't forgive my husband even just for one mistake because he already knew me well and he knew that the moment he cheats with me even just once, I will let him go without a fight at all. If my husband is being seduced by a woman, he can always say no and avoid the temptation, if he couldn't then it simply means that he's not strong enough to be my man. So good luck to him! If he loves me that much, all he has to do is think of me while that woman is undressing right in front of him and go home immediately! But like I said, this applies only to me and I respect your own opinion!

hi, in my situation, being a gay, of course its my man decision's where he will go with, if where he would be happy, my man have the right to choose,

Well, actually I've experienced this kind of situation before and my choice is that I gave him some time to think it over because I don't want to fight for someone who cannot love me back because it will still be repeated if i force myself to be with the one I love. If he chose to love me rather than her other woman, why not fight for it if you know that he loves you more.. but the bottom line in this kind of situation if you love someone you have to set him/her free and when it comes back to you then you will sure feel more happy right?

If a man put me in a situation where I felt any need to fight over him then I would figure he was not the man for me. I have more self respect than that. No man is worth fighting over. Now if it is family you are fighting with about him that is a different story. I watched an episode of the Kordashians lastnight where Chloe was getting ready to get married. Her stepdad was hurt because she had told him. In all actuality the media got ahold of it before she had a chance to. He was hurt but did give a nice speech and welcomed him into the family at the engagement dinner. I think that sometimes it just takes families a while to get used to a newcomer who is taking their little girl away from them for good. Everything changes. It is traumatic. And if a man has cheated once he may very well do it again.

Well there is a mistake which he would have to be sorry for and ‘get’ the extent of the hurt he caused me and I may be inclined to forgive but if my partner had been having an affair I would not be so tolerant and, in my opinion it would not be a matter of deciding whether to hand him over to the other woman; it would depend on what he wants. I would not wish to ‘seduce’ him back but for him to resolve that I am the one he loves and wants to be with.

If my partner cheats on me? well... I think I would let the other woman have him after all he will cheat on her some time or other as well!

hehehe..that is a great thought. i would need you to seduce him back if my partner being seduce by another woman... but maybe i would hand him over so i can find another one too

Granted I'm a man, and what your saying to the average guys sounds like a pretty good deal. So as long as I convince you that I'm really in love with you, and I was only seduced by a lunatic woman, then... I can cheat and you'll ignore it? I can say that if the reverse were to happen, I would assume instantly that she is indicating that she does not love me, but instead loves 'him', whoever the other person is. I would not try in the slightest to fight for her, nor 'win her back', nor 'seduce her back'. I will show her to the door, fill my divorce papers, and wish her the best of luck in her new life with her new boyfriend or future husband. "Well a man that doesn't fight for his woman...." I will fight for a woman worth fighting for. A woman without the self-control or commitment to a life long relationship, is not on my 'worth fighting for' list. I would assume that the same would go for me. I'm 33 years old. I have had a number (a small number) of woman try and seduce me. I will not say I was never tempted, but I never gave them a chance. I made a flat, strict, hard line choice, that I will be saved for my wife, and only my wife. And no, I'm not married yet. But that's who I'm waiting for, and no one else. This is how I roll. Marriage either means something, or it doesn't. If it doesn't, then I want no part in it. I'll stay single.

I've been in this situation before. I almost gave up on him but he wanted to stay with me and still has chosen me over the other woman. The other woman was very happy when he learned that I found out my hubby is cheating on me and that I wanted to end our relationship. However, I was already pregnant that time and decided to give him another chance. That happened about 1 year and 6 months ago. Sometimes I'm still thinking what if he will do it again. Am I still going to forgive him? Well, my answer to that is no. I'm independent now and not as vulnerable as before. I'm financially stable being a Manager in our company. Just got promoted about 6 months ago. My family loves me and is very supportive. I know they will understand me if ever I choose to end my relationship the second time he commit the same mistake. He is also ware about that. The first time I'd say it can be forgiven but doing it the second time for me is definitely going to be the last day he would see me and my kids.