Relationship.........Bad or Good?

he might have been feeling bored with you and maybe he felt it was no longer appropriate to the circumstances that you coached. and it could have happened by your attitude towards him then he did not like it.

There are some things in life just not worth preserving. This man has been cheating on you. You know it but let it go. There is not much doubt that because he does this and he is aware that you know it that he is insecure about you. And he should be. He certainly has not given you any reason to be faithful. You say you stay because of your children. Well most women who put up with even worst than what you are say the same thing. But could there be more to it than that? What if one day you have had enough. You go to a lawyer and start divorce proceedings. How do you feel about that? Does that scare you more than just hanging in there? My guess it does. You see I have been there and even though I had left my wife because she was with someone else and later met another woman that I got serious about I could not bring myself to just go do it. We had been married 37 years and there was not chance of reconciliation but the thought of going through the process really bothered me. It took the woman who became my second wife pushing me to go do it. Now I freely admit I did not have the children issue. Our children were grown and out of the house but even if they had not I still would not have put up with what she did. So please be sure you really look at what bothers you the most. My current wife has a daughter that just could no longer live with her husband. She fell out of love with him because he is a workaholic and gave her very little time, so she left him. It like to kill him as he didn't see it coming but they are divorced now and share custody. He has them one week and she had them the next. They got past all that because she finally told herself she needed more than he could give and after several years could no longer do it. Look out for yourself and the rest will fall in place. Not easy but it will be the best for you and your children in the long run. If part of the problem is you fear you will not find someone else. I am now with my third wife. The second one passed away. We married only two years ago and I was 67 then. It is never too late to begin again and find the happiness you deserve. If you work it right your children will not give up their dad.

Hi Nastarcia.. I cannot say that I understand what you are going through because you are the only person who can answer that but we can give you our advise / opinion based on what you have written. I believe you are a good person because you have given this man a number of 'second / third / fourth' chances so that he can get his act together... but if he still does the same thing - is it even worth giving him another chance? The kids are not losing a dad... they just need to be apart for a while. Maybe when he is on his own, he will get his head straight and be a good father and partner. Just my two cents...

It is very alarming, but i would like you to not to be worry, and keep patient, if he accuses, ask him to give proof, or you knock court's door. But i recommend you to solve this matter in a way, that your children must be safe and their life must not be in darkness.Also try to get some evidence against him,and if he forced you or blamed you much,you have to take some legal action with the help of your relatives, like your father or brother etc.. I would not recommend you to run out of house, it is legal issue, Lawyer can give better assessment.

Are you so much in love with him that for 6 years you you were able to take in the accusations he throws at you? When you come to think of it...your relationship with him will really affect your kids...the wrong way. As well as not having that peace that is supposed to be present in a family, they will end up being insecure and there is a possibility they could pick up the negative of their dad...the wrong way. They will always think he is doing the right thing and think it is okay to accuse someone close to them in the future...falsely or not. He will be setting a bad example for the kids.It's not good for you,too,to bear this heartache from this man.Maybe he just wants "out"and can't tell you directly to your face that he wants to sever your relationship. A man who truly loves a woman will not do such a thing,you know.

Perhaps he is quite insecure. Perhaps he's afraid that you are too independent to meet his need for his "ideal" woman. You'd better think over what have gone through in these marrital years. If you cannot go on with him, why not try to let your children learn that even he may not be your husband anymore, he is still their father? Learning from ups and downs of relationships is also an improtant lesson for children to growing up.

A bad father is NOT better than no father. You need to leave the relationship. He is cruel, conceited, deeply insecure and overly controlling. Though you probably don't think so, your children are not blind to his treatment of you. They are far more perceptive than most parents want to believe and what you are currently teaching them is that it is okay for a man to treat a woman like garbage and that women should accept that men will treat them badly. Do not let them learn such horrible habits. He has no right to treat you that way and you do not deserve to put up with it.

It's time for you to really look at your relationship and here it is heading. everyone deserves some happiness. if the relationship is starting to make you feel less important, it may be time to move on.

its a complicated situation friend,but for me if,i think you and your partner should have a open conversation for once tell him you feel,that you are not happy with what he was doing.try to fix your relationship,then if still nothing happens i thing both of of try to have a space.you and your husband can still be friends for the sake of your children,if your not happy anymore with your partner thats the time you should decide what to do..

I've tried that,even we've been together has also another woman.Maybe, there is still love exist there but it's not being focus on you,because he had cheated on you.If he continue doing it secretly, well he just not love you enough because he is not being contented.Especially you have siblings already.And he should not be influence and will just listen to other's gossip.He must just believe on you, for you never cheated on him.

if your man had cheated on you once, he will for sure do it again, especially with the situation of your relationship. Living with a cheater is no good, especially that you have trusted him with your life and the life of your kids. it just means that he doesn't care for you anymore because he doesn't respect you as a person, or worse, maybe he doesn't love you anymore but he is also trying be around just for the sake of your kids. forgive me if this hurts, but truth really hurts though, putting a blame on you or accusing you about something when in fact he is the one who was doing the same thing before is a defense mechanism. leave him if you can before he gets everything from you, love yourself more, im sure your kids will understand. they wouldn't also want you to suffer and be stuck in a relationship with their dad that is constantly hurting you, just because of them. You can always arrange for them to see their dad. you need space, you need to be taken cared of, you deserve to be loved...

very bad situation if i were in your shoos i would never trust a man whom does stuff like that like the saying "ones a cheater always a cheater" im not going to tell you what to do but i would not want be anywhere near a person like that just make a deal with a judge or something that he has the kids on weekends or something like that I'm not going to say anything more exept for Good Luck keep me updated mabey :P?

:(You've been together for 6 years, and he's still treating you that way? I bet you really love him. If it's another woman who has the same situation like yours, she would have had left the man already. *sigh* In my opinion, you should try to convince your partner to discuss things regarding your relationship. I believe it would open the door to reconciliation for both of you if you let each other know how you feel about your situation. The truth will set you free. I think, if he doesn't love you, he should have left you a long time ago. Six years is definitely a long time, you know.Good luck!