Is our fault if our guy is cheating on us?

I don't think so. It is not our fault at all if the guys can't be faithful. We all have our differences but that does not mean we have contributed to the guy's fall. Cheating is one's own prerogative and it does not take into account that we don't have time for him, etc.

I will not say anything to him. I will just kick him in his balls and groin. Then smile oh so sweetly to him.. " Is that so honey?, ok then, I am setting you free now... BYE!!"

For the guy to blame his girlfriend for his cheating is childish, ridiculous and just wrong. Yes, two people are in a relationship, but it is his conscious decision to cheat. If he's unhappy in his relationship, he should speak up or get out. If my boyfriend cheated on me and then blamed me for his indiscretion, I wouldn't have it. I would tell him off for even thinking of blaming me for his actions and tell him he should be man enough to take responsibility for his actions.

Personally Mackenzie I would not stick around to hear such petty explanation. There is absolutely no excuse for either one to cheat. A man I would respect would be one that would be honest enough to say, that something is not quite in the relationship and he wants out. I would not be happy but perhaps then we could talk. After he has cheated he made the decision for both of us, as he could have given me excuses before and we then could perhaps have fixed things. See these are excuses men use and or women or just call them cheaters; use to justify why they did wrong.

No, I don't think so. If my boy friend tells me he cheats because I don't have time for him,I will introspect my self first. If I think it's true I am too ignorance for him, I will say sorry because it is my fault toward our relationship but it doesn't mean it becomes a license for him to cheat. He should talk to me about my fault instead of cheating. I argue that being ignorance toward our lovers and cheating is two different mistakes and we can never put them into cause-and-effect case.

It takes two to tango, sometimes men are just little boys who wants attention but in cases where its obvious that you have time for each other and he cheats then the problem is not with you but with him!

Hi Mackenzie, No it isn't our fault. That is just the cheaters way of passing the blame in an attempt to ease up their own guilt. The relationship may have it's problems and that may be partly our fault. Still, how he reacts to problems within the relationship is 100% on him.

it is my fault, i will not doubt it. and it is not my fault too if i loose my respect because he is cheating on me. and it is my fault too if i would rather to choose he leaves me.

hello mac, a cheat is a cheat. no matter how much you justify their action, every one will say thats them. cant be changed. if you find your boyfriend cheating, dump him. he doesnt respect you for one and second, he doesnt believe in commitment. its not a good start, end it there and find a better one. cheer up. have a nice day. ann

You should never blame yourself or let someone else blame you for having your guy cheat on you. When a guy cheats, he is making that decision for himself. nobody is forcing him to be unfaithful to you. That is a choice he made that he will have to live with. It is not your fault. Don't let anybody make you believe that it is.

People who use a lame excuse as "it's your fault that I'm cheating on you" are only lying to themselves trying to pass the blame onto the other. Cheating on someone is always solely the cheater's fault. If you're not happy with a relationship you're supposed to talk things with your mate and end it if it's neccessary, but not to lie to your partner and do things in his or her back. Cheating is a form of telling a lie, so once they get used to lying in that way they can lie too saying it's the other person's fault, but it's not. If it ever happened to me I would react breaking up with that person.

It is true that problems in a relationship can lead one partner or the other (or both!) to cheat. However, if you are feeling neglected, or feeling that you are not getting enough intimacy, you should be mature enough to tell your partner that you need more. If your partner does not respect your needs you must find a compromise or end the relationship. It is wrong to go out and betray your partner while still expecting her or him to stay in a relationship with you.

hello mackenzie! I miss you... We'll it depends on the situation, you can't point fingers to each other because in every circumstances there's always a reason why it happens that way. First is analyze the problem and as a couple, you have to sit together and talk about that matter. Blaming has nothing to do with the progress of the conversation. Just relax, sit and calm down mack....I guess you two now are fine....how is he?

As a mature person, you should not blame other people with your own mistake. If you don't like something that's running in the relationship, then tell your partner. If I caught my boyfriend cheating on me, I will tell him how I feel. I will point out to him the value of communication in a relationship and that whatever his reasons, it will never be an excuse to cheat.If I can't sense any remorse that means he can do that again.If that's the case then, I'm always willing to give him a graceful exit.