Are you clued up on Cyberbullying?
By Louc74
@Louc74 (620)
December 11, 2010 10:33am CST
I suppose I've been quite fortunate to only have experienced this a very few times since I became acquainted to the internet. Having researched it, I've found it's incredibly common - the internet attracts people who have quite serious personality disorders, and is an easy place for them to find twisted gratification in deliberately stirring up conflict.
Most of us are aware of trolls, who simply make ridiculous statements anywhere they think they will get a reaction. They're fairly easy to identify and deal with - just give them no attention whatsoever, and their simple little minds get bored pretty quickly.
A bit more difficult to deal with are cyber bullies. These internet users establish themselves on a chosen site, gain a little bit of power, and have a following of a group of people who will back them up. Think playground bully transferred to the anonymous world wide web.
They are a little bit cleverer than trolls; they will seem at first to be a helpful and trusted member of a forum, and wait until they have a bit of a following before showing their true colours.
What's really disturbing is that their behaviour is usually condoned by the forum or group. Even those who disagree with them, find it difficult to stand up to them, in case the bully targets them as well. Quite often when dealing with this kind of bully, you'll find yourself up against a little group of their followers as well.
We need to be aware of the tactics used by online bullies, so that we can identify when we come across them. Dealing with them is easy - ignore them. Don't engage. Identifying them - unless you happen to be their current target - takes just a little bit of research and knowledge.
If you want to know a little bit more, have a look at this site: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/532829/online_forum_etiquette_how_to_deal.html?cat=15
I found it really helpful, hopefully it will help if anyone reading this has any such problems.
2 responses
@Masihi (4413)
• Canada
12 Dec 10
I used to be a moderator in 2 large chat rooms, and I've come across a few drama queens -and one drama king - ugh! Being treated for mental illness myself and being around many people with them, I can usually spot them a mile away.
I have been a victim of cyberbullying by 2 people, actually, one I admit was my fault for being a sucker, but thank heavens there wasn't any money involved, and the other one well, she made everyone's life living nightmares. Needless to say, I've learned my lesson too well.
Last going off, I just became very strict with everyone, so newer people didn't really mess with me all that much. I eventually left due to one of the bullies, but I don't miss the chat rooms at all. I'd rather be online in the business community because we earn money, and there's much more polite people in this kind of Internet interaction.
@Louc74 (620)
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12 Dec 10
Hi Masihi. Sorry to hear you had to leave a forum because of this. There's actually an online bullying forum, where it seems the main users have just turned into bullies - you would think that people who are attracted to that kind of site would educate themselves so they'd never let it happen!
I admit as well that I've engaged, before I knew better. I think you have to learn the hard way though. Sounds like you're on top of things now though.
thanks for the comment!
@Wefight (328)
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11 Dec 10
Yeh when i use too be at school and in college i got cyberbullied a lot on sites like facebook but i dont anymore thanks to the disadd and report button they really do come in helpful i remember one time i got someone banned because they started being racist too me and calling me names which i didnt like.I did think they were my friend until they done this but my school helped me sort them out without hitting them and they want too be best of buddies with me now but i am still having none of it lol.
@Louc74 (620)
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11 Dec 10
Hiya! That's pretty awful. But from what I've been reading, an awful lot of the bullying going on online is racist. Give somebody a mask, so nobody knows who they are, and watch their real personality surface, eh?
I'm glad you got support to sort it out. A lot of sites say that they have a strong abuse policy, but they tend to not really be interested when it comes to actually doing anything. I don't blame you for not wanting to be friends! You can never trust someone again after something like that!
Thanks for the comment!