Do you ever feel like you're living in a soap opera?
By babyangie27
@babyangie27 (5176)
United States
December 11, 2010 12:26pm CST
I know lots of people watch those daytime soaps,I don't but I sure feel like I am living in one.
Some of you know me from a while ago,some don't. But the ones that do know I am the mother of a disabled child,she suffers from seizures. I moved last year because there was reason to beleive my home at the time was contributing to my daughter's seizures.
Well after a year it looked like the suspicions were correct,because her seizures have dropped dramatically.
But her behavior has went out of control. The doctors suspect ADHD or something,which I am trying to find some counseling that might help.
My marriage has fallen apart over the year as well. I think there were problems all along I just never took the time to really look at it and never thought I was worth more than I was getting. My husband moved out a few weeks ago and promised to get some counseling as he can't express himself(my daughter is the same way) so far I haven't seen much change. He doesn't say he misses me and when he comes to visit our daughter we don't really talk about us.
I feel like I am living in some soap and don't know what to expect from one episode to the next. Now within this past week my daughter has had 2 seizures. When it has been months since she had them. His daughter my step daughter for 10 years posts on Facebook that I have never meant anything to her,the list goes on and on.
I have never really been alone. I went from my parents home to living with my husband so I am trying to figure out who I am in all this,and I don't even know where to start. Sorry this is so long but I will write more when I can,I have missed many of you and I do hope I am still remembered.
So do you ever feel like you are living in a soap opera? How do you deal with all the chaos and drama? Can you just push it aside or do you relish in it?
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8 responses
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
11 Dec 10
Sweetheart I am so sorry to read all of this
I was hoping you where doing better but no it looks like your whole world has fallen apart here
Take one step at a time, priority right now is you and your Daughter, Hubby is an Adult and can deal with himself, you can only support him not do it for him, 10 year old Stepdaughter needs a clip round the ear and a good telling of from Dad for being a spoilt brat and hurtful
Ignore those points for now, I know it must hurt you but you need to concentrate on you and little one right now
The Seizures will be down to stress with everything going on
Dad needs to act normal when he comes to see her, not show the Stress between you both
What you are going through right now is very stressful and it will show on little one so that is the cause of her Seizures
Sweetie you have been through so much, when you have 5 minutes to yourself sit down think clearly and make a rough plan on how you want to go on, put your Points to Hubby, also see that Hubby takes little one for a couple of hours so you can get time to yourself to get energy for the next challenge
I did this when I decided I was not taking the abuse any more it was scary at first starting all over but I got there
Sweetie you are in my thoughts and if you need me shout xxxxx
@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
11 Dec 10
Thanks gabs love and I been praying for Gissi,just haven't had a moment to really respond to discussions I get in my email anymore.
My step daughter is 19 going on 20,but I have been with my husband 10 years. Yes it hurts after all she stole my deceased dad's knife and took it to school some years back and I never seen it again,yet she makes it out on Facebook to all of my husband's family how I am this awful person,her dad my husband never steps up for me to anyone in his family,or anyone period. His children have no respect and I have always had to be the bad guy. I think what scares me most is not having any money and no way to get any. I'm trying to get services but so far nothing is going on there...I added a donation button to my blog again in hopes of small help there but I know everyone is hurting right now.
I do hope you are doing ok and I have missed ya. I am on Facebook more than anything else. I will give ya a shout if I need to,been staying to myself alot more lately though. Love and hugs my friend.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
12 Dec 10
OMG, of course I remember you angie! And I have missed you and
thought of you often! I am so very sorry to hear about all this
that you have been going through. I wish you would have written
sooner. You have alot of people here that care about you. I know
that this is alot to have to deal with all at the same time. You
are trying to deal with your daughter's medical issues and your
separation from your husband and that is alot for anyone to have
to deal with all at the same time without anyone else to help
them or to talk to. I hope that at least you can turn to your
parents for some comfort. If you need to talk, please feel free
to pm me anytime. Just remember that you need to stay strong for
the sake of your daughter~
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@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
12 Dec 10
I lost my adoptive Mom in 2003 and my adoptive Dad in 2005. My real mom wants nothing to do with me(long story) and I don't know my birth father at all. I don't really have anyone to talk to and this whole money issue has sent me deeper into my depression. I am glad you remembered me and thanks,I hope you have been doing well.
@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Aw thanks Opal Sorry for the delay in response. On Tuesday my estranged husband switched vehicles with me since I had a 1996 Thunderbird and we got hit with a nasty winter storm and the temps dipped down to the teens which froze over my roads out here in the boonies,and Thunderbird's suck in winter,so I took his truck so I could take my daughter to school since her bus aide and driver are idiots)long story)....Well he was going too fast exiting an off ramp and hit ice,hit 3 signs and wrecked my car in a ditch,from what I have been told from the damage and the fact I have no money looks like I am without a car....yea when it rains it pours! So I might take you up on that needing to "talk" thing lol
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
13 Dec 10
I am so sorry you are going through this. You do know that stress can cause seizures, Maybe just all the changes are triggering them. It is good to hear from you
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@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
16 Dec 10
She has delt with all of this very well,every winter she has more I think it's trailers in general I'm not really sure anymore.
@megamatt (14291)
• United States
12 Dec 10
A lot of the time, it does feel that way. There are a lot of things in my life where the more I think about it, I would think it would be hokey and completely unrealistic. It is just funny how reality can be the most unrealistic thing in the world to say the very least. Still there is a lot of drama and it can be extremely frustrating. So my life is not unlike a soap opera a lot of the time and thus there are times where it does lead to some frustration.
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@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Yes they say fact is often stranger than fiction. Sometimes is hard to grasp how sometimes it seems like the whole world is coming down on you. I know many have it way harder than me and I try to keep that in mind but sometimes it's still so hard to get over all the stuff going wrong.
@aodoerfer (113)
• United States
12 Dec 10
I felt that way for a long time, but I have worked to cut all of the drama out of my life. I think a lot of people would say that I live a boring life, but I'm definitely happier this way. Evaluate your life and see what people or things are regular sources of stress that are unneccesary so that you can focus on the more important issues. For example, you could just hide your step-daughter on Facebook so that isn't an issue.
@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
16 Dec 10
I already deleted and blocked her,she is 19 and she is an adult,if she feels that way there is nothing I can do to change her mind and I am not going to bend over backwards anymore to do so.
@chelseabelle (197)
• United States
12 Dec 10
I somewhat had some problems in my life a few months ago. I slowly have learned how to deal with them but that doesn't I'm not still hurting. Just try and stay strong and whatever happens remember you have a beautiful little girl with you!
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@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Thanks it is so hard though when everything seems to be falling apart all at once. I just don't know how to deal with it all. it seems like when I figure out something I get hit with something else.
@changjiangzhibin89 (16784)
• China
23 Dec 10
Misfortunes never come singly ,on the one hand I have sympathy with you,on the other hand I admire your strong-willed character.
@bagputza (504)
• Belgium
11 Dec 10
Good evening dear Mylloter friend , Babyangie27 , to answer your question , i cann say that i truthfully believe you when you say that you know persones around you whom feels like they live in a soap opera , i for an example i had not even ever thought about that i might be living a Soap Opera untill i had read the title of your discussion , and i am still verry sure of myself that i really dont live a soap opera life .
My sister when she was younger she used to always watch Soap Opera's , and since when we were kids , we had only one television in our living room and another one in our parents chamber ( but that chamber we were not allowed to enter untill one of the parents was back home from work ) , and coming back at my sister watching the soap opera's , i cann say that sometimes i was also forced to watch with her , but sometimes i used to watch with pleasure , because there was one soap opera that was about teenagers of our generation , anyway , with time , when she became more of an adult , i started to think , that my sister liked soo much those soap operas , that she started living like the life in soap opera was , and when i say that , i mean that she like to make the intrigue , she was dating two boy at a time , intentionally , and she used to take passionely decisiones , that were out of real life zone , but hapilly that period did had an end , even if it wen for two and a half years ,at the current moment , i sit and talk sometimes with her about her past , and i sometimes let slip a sarcasm notice about her soap opera period , and whe both start to have a really good laugh about it , now she is a verry realistic person , she has great ambition , she loves to work and to be an independent women , she strongly loves her boyfriend and she actually thingz about marrying him , a thought that absolutely scarres the hell out of me , because the guy she is seen ( they live togheter for two years now ) ,it is a real lazy person , a person whom lies alot , whom promises alots of thingz and never acomplish the thingz , he is a grando-maniac , and to be honest he is a verry anti-social dude , but my sister really loves him , and i dont think she is taking a look at all he's imperfectiones.
Well , that was about all that i had to share with you and the mylloters around this discussion.
I wish you a verry great evening dear friend.
Florin , Over and Out