I like to joke, but some people might misunderstood me

I have a friend whose always saying "Why is it that my talent is so subjective?" He always makes me smile yes. But when he is infront of other people they tend to get angry and mad. Maybe, joke depends on how people respond to it. it is how they grasp the knowledge behind it. And the idea that constitute to the thought of the joke itself. They might have humors. But, not everyone has the same level of mental capacity.

I joke a lot and I often use irony. Sometimes people get angry or offended because they don't understand that it was just a joke. My family and my close friends know me and they know that I am just joking or just teasing them for fun. My father, my brother and I have a special way of talking to eachother. People who don't know us sometimes think that we are angry at eachother or insulting eachother, but it is just our way of joking. If I talk to other people that way they sometimes take it seriously, and get angry at me, so I usually try to cut back on the irony till I know people a little better.

I often experience something like that you experienced. When I want to joke with my husband, but my husband did not want and my husband mad. I became very guilty, saying maybe the timing is not right for a joke, just to amuse myself.

It happend to me a couple of times too, and it sucks, when i see that i try my best to explain, and they still are angry and don`t understand me, it is very annoying. So i stoped joking like that with that paranoic people, that don`t understand jokes, to avoid beeing missundertood.

Hi there kingparker. I have been in such situation before too. There was once i went out with my friends and i throw a joke. Little did I know that it hurted one of them without reason. Well, I did apologize and everything better but it totally ruined our outing on that day. I wouldn't say it is whose fault or it is just a bad luck day but hey, at least, nothing bad happen right? Just chill out and I believe at the end of the day, they will understand that we are just trying to joke around! Just my 2 cents.

Yeahh,, i have similar experience with you. It's hard to predict what is coming next when we are joking to someone or friend. Maybe, we should to know first how well we know our friends. And, for myself, the solution is smiling. When you are doing something wrong, smile can make everything turned out. Try it on. But, don't smile like a forced face :D Feel free to smile. :) And i believe that your friend will relieved.