Your husband has another women?
By marializa
@marializa (9)
Philippines
December 15, 2010 6:01am CST
One of the most common problem now of the wife's are there husband having another girl. This cancer is dealing in our generation today and I think it become more than worst than before. Almost of my friend are having this kind of problem. Why do you think this is happening now? What do you think is the reason? How do you deal with it?
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@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
18 Dec 10
Another one sided topic ... I'm again dissapointed .
There are men that cheat so there are women too , there are people that don't cheat and there are people that cheat .
And no we are not some doggy that walk around searching to scratch something , if you say that then the women can be the other doggy looking around to be scratched .
I'm too young to face such a problem and well if my wife cheats me a can throw her away from my life .
You cant prevent it , if its in the person you are with it will happen so the problem is can you love with it or you cannot , i myself will kick her out from the front door , cuz love is for 2 and dont include third person and i might as well can never look at her the same .
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
18 Dec 10
Well it says clearly your husband has another wife - so it really does sound one sided :) Well that does not matter i think people have the same opinion that its not only men that cheat ;)
About the reason what will make difference even if i know why ? I'm 100% sure its not my fault i did not throw her in the other men bed (maybe there are people that do that but i dont know how come cheating suprise after that)
So i tell her i fell broken , lied , crushed and even destroyed . I lived with her and loved her and she did that to me ... any reason and anything i say will fix it .
About if there is child or more , there are options , yes you can keep on living all together but it will no longer be a family . There is difference between family and Mom dad and me . In what can you grown without a family love , within a family that noone talks anymore , noone do anything beside making money for living . And this is again the fault of the person that cheated ... any reason cant fix what happens after with the "family" .
I think if you know the person beside you and even if you hate some parts in him you will never cheat , cuz consequences are far more catastrophical then you can think of . It can brake your "loved" one life apart , you family , ruin the life of your childeren . I think in family there is no excuse for cheating .
Well its personal opinion i might have repeated something ;)
@nereidiane024 (292)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
hello marializa!
im not married yet, but i have friends who have been there in that kind of situation. i remember a saying that a man, is like a dog, even if he is tied on a tree, if he wants to cheat, he'll do anything to go away and cheat to his woman. yes, man were the one who always known to be polygamous. but have we also think of why they became cheaters to their wife? have we also came to the point, why they had done that? have we not come to realize that maybe we also have faults to let them do that? or they were just born to be polygamous?
when talking about this kind of situation, my bestfriend once told me this. for your husband not to leave you and taste other recipe (pertaining to other woman), you as a wife should also act and be the other woman that he'll looked up to. meaning, if those girls who have the capability to be with your man, why not be with their shoes, act like them too. have to persona, the wife and the mistress. in that way, somehow limit the chance of your husband to look and taste other kind of dish from the menu. he still go back to his favorite, and that favorite should also be you, his wife.
i also think, its also due to the fast changing and innovative creation of technology, its easy for men to meet and be friend to other girls. and since, the population of women are greater than the number of the population of men, that's why there's a scarcity of men. and its a benefit to men to have other woman. its easy for them to communicate, just a text or call, for an hour or even days. ta da! instant you have a new girl, your other girl. who will fantasize your wild imagination. lust over love, body over heart, flesh always flesh. this would be the reason, they just want to taste other. no love at all. lucky you are as the other woman, if he'll love you and be his last wife. but prepare yourself, if he'd gone to cheat once, he can do it all over again.
and if i would be in their situation, i guess, it would really a heartbreaking situation. but i will still listen to his side. try myself to eagerly listen. this time ill be clever. mind over matter. mind over heart. no room for emotions. it will only blur my eyes and not see the real score of his fault. if he already said his reasons behind, if it will fall in a negative answer, then so be it. love yourself. be not afraid of living without him. there always reason behind, and learned from them. focus on what plans lies for you. it will hurt quite sometime, but all of us, has the capability of healing our wounded heart and selves.
if it turned out good, then accept him. and best of all forgive your heart and forgive him. released all the pain. and soon everything will be okay. :)
@nereidiane024 (292)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
honest to goodness, i have a friend who have been in that state and still in that state. she was the second wife. her husband is not yet annuled to his first wife and they had a daughter. but they already had an agreement to separate. now, the first wife has its own family too. my friend and his husband, had their daughter. my friend lives in in laws together with his stepdaughter. she tells me that his husband always cheating in her, but since she doesnt want to have a broken family, she still accepts his husband no matter what, and she believed that they will grow old and be together forever. so i guess, that was its own spirit and belief. that even how many times your husband cheat on you, as long there was a child between you, it would be a hard struggle to separate. my friend was always the one who suffers, but im wishing and hoping for her strength in holding on with their relationship. :)
@marializa (9)
• Philippines
18 Dec 10
Thats a very nice move of your friend. But what if after all your effort to just win back your husband and then you have found again that he cheated not only for the second time but most of the time. Would it be possible that you can have him back?
@ashish1487 (137)
• India
19 Dec 10
now days this is increasing in number because now people belive lee in love and thats why they cannot distinguish between love and attraction. due to this without thinking properly they get married and later on especially man feel that now he is bored of her and now feels that he requires some one else to make his life colorfull. basically i can say that now people have stop believing in love and even forgotten the real meaning of marriage and taking marriage lightly so by this i can say that this is increasing now.
@jzjqdkd (273)
• China
15 Dec 10
of course,if the guy is married and has a wife, he would never ever be supposed to think about being with another one.as the desease problem, it is not the reason for another affair or else,either.where is the holy and sicerity of love they had had before.
@marializa (9)
• Philippines
18 Dec 10
How I wish they all value the holiness and sincerity of love they had. As of now, as I observe 8 out or 10 husband are having an affair with other girl. They dont even realize that they have children and that they would suffer because of all his fault. They even forget to be a father.
@marializa (9)
• Philippines
18 Dec 10
Hi indahth, your actually right they have different reason, Reasons that hard to understand.
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