Does True Love Exist in the World?
@summerrainylily (256)
China
December 15, 2010 7:03am CST
Does true love exist in the world? As far as I know, when you ask a guy what kind of girl do you like? He must consider about beauty, sexy. When you ask a girl's standard for boyfriend or husband, she must take wealth into account, whether the man is rich or not.
How awful it is! Can we regard it as LOVE? Does LOVE means money or sexy? Personally, I really love the movie dance with wolves, because people in that days can enjoy true love, which is nothing related with wealth. Why nobody value kind-hearted, pure, honest, talent, brave, responsible, etc, these spirit anymore today when they pick someone to live for whole life?
The society is developing day by day, but it seems true love is gone. Do you think true love is exist or disappeared from our world?
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21 responses
@dollar3235 (2062)
• India
16 Dec 10
There is a condition here, only those who are either very very lucky or very very unlucky will have experience of true love in their life. Others will be debating whether it exists or not.
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Yes, to a large degree it is gone in this country, because we have become too lazy to work for love. It doesn't walk in, sit down and zap, romance is yours forever.
Love is looking at a person inside and out. The beautiful outside often covers a mean, self-loving inside while the plainer person has a heart big enough to always bring one more person into it. Love is knowing that if you married this person and he/she became totally disabled, you would give up your life to take care of your beloved. It doesn't mean roses and candy, but in elder years, it may mean changing larger diapers than your babies ever had. It may mean not scolding your spouse for making yet another mess for you to clean up, because your spouse no longer knows how to keep clean or clean the house. It means making fresh food for special diets, learning to cook without things you love if your spouse is allergic to wheat, milk, and other normal ingredients.
Love is hoping you will grow old together, but not regretting your decision to marry when your spouse can no longer walk or talk.
My husband and I married almost 43 years ago. Today, at the age of 63, he has been totally disabled from a stroke for a year and a half. It has been hard work taking care of him, but my heart still flutters when he smiles and those beautiful blue eyes twinkle. He always made me feel safe when he could walk and do things for himself, but the odd thing is, I still feel safer when he is with me.
Love is available, but it isn't a game; it's a lot of work with rewards you can't imagine until you've lived through trials and tribulations and your marriage comes out stronger than ever before. We are not rich, but trust, honesty, responsibility, being open to helping others, and always working as a team were valuable parts of our marriage - just as valuable as love.
Good luck in finding the beauty we share.
@mysticmaggie (2498)
• United States
20 Dec 10
Thank you, summerrainylily. We were fortunate to find each other,but at the end of our first year, we had to make a decision whether to stay together or separate. I was a jealous, whiny, mean-spirited person who had a lot of growing up to do. I clung to my husband like a burr and he was a free-spirited person who needed breathing room - not to cheat on me - but to enjoy things like building model planes with his buddy or going fishing with another. After I got angry over seeing him pull a girl into the apartment swimming pool, I was furious. I locked him out of our home. When he came back from swimming, he literally broke the door down.
"As long as I help pay the rent on where we live, I will never be locked out of my own home. You have to make a decision right now. Do we stay together and trust each other completely, or do you want a divorce?"
I knew he meant nothing by pulling the girl into the pool. We were all friends in the apartment complex and always joked and kidded each other, but my jealousy got out of hand.
When he handed me the ultimatum, I knew he meant it. But, even more, I knew if I was foolish enough to continue my childish ways, I would lose someone more special than I'd ever met in my life.
From that day on, I strove to be a wife, not a jailer. He worked hard on things that bothered me, too. We knew it was working when we didn't want to go anywhere after work but home to each other, or when walking down the street, we reached for each other's hands at the same moment.
We knew we were on the right track when, as we listened to other couples insult their spouses, we would only say something good about each other. Although we were never the handsomest or prettiest couple, we were the most envied because we had a marriage of true love and respect for each other.
Remember, when you make fun of your other half, what you're really saying is that you must have had incredibly bad taste to choose them. In other words, to insult them is to bring even bigger insult to yourself.
Hugs,
Maggie
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
20 Dec 10
Dear mysticmaggie, I am really lucky to see your opinion about true love. Having read your story, i am definitely sure true love is exist in our world. I can see true love from you and your husband, you set a good example to all the young people. I can understand that true love is plain but sparking from plain. I am really happy to see your story.
Best wishes to you, your husband and all your family. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
16 Dec 10
A few days ago, a good friend of mine come visit me, and he divorced about 3 years ago, due to his wife's infidelity. Well, what I can say. I don't believe in true love anymore. I also hurt by the woman that I thought I can spend my rest of my life with. But it was my dream, it is not true. So, true love might not exist here.
@tudorm (85)
• United States
16 Dec 10
Well i have to agree with you on this one,i don't believe that true love exist.My husband cheated on me and we are getting a divorce.I can tell you this we don't hate each other we get along better now than we ever did before.Of course i was mad at him but we have to learn to forgive and now i have to forgive the other women.
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
16 Dec 10
I am sorry to hear these two stories. This is not unusual these days, we have to say. I really can't understand these unfair matters, WHY? I hope the two person can recover soon. Good luck!
@deecee2010 (29)
• Netherlands
16 Dec 10
Yes, true love does exist. But it is dependent on whether you love yourself truly first. You cannot love someone when you are not happy with yourself. The folks you name that say they need beauty and/or money to label it love are folks who dislike these things in themselves. In order to find what they think they want, they chase others in hopes that it will somehow rub off. For them, true love will never exist.
Unless you yourself feel accomplished in your life, you cannot find true love. Someone should not "complete you" as the movie claimed, but should complement you. If you are not complete before you meet someone, a love interest will never complete you after.
For women, it's harder because we are told that marriage and family are so important when we are young. So we sacrifice things such as a higher education, home ownership, and other endeavors to fulfill what society feeds us and then wonder why we feel so empty in our relationships.
If you want true love, make yourself whole first. Anything that you want to do, do it! As you improve yourself, you will improve the quality of your relationships. And if you don't make it at 20, then make it at 30. And if it's not 30, then 40. Don't rush it. And keep in mind that you CANNOT have it all. No one can. But you can come as close as you want.
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
16 Dec 10
Hi deecee2010, thanks. Right, Life is only once, we should pursue our dream, so we will not regret when we are old.
I have read a saying"Live happily when you are alive, becuase you will die for long time" lol. We should chrish our life and everyone in our life!
@dollar3235 (2062)
• India
16 Dec 10
Humanity is based on true love. Love is not always between a man and a woman. Love is a relationship between mankind and all the other things that exist on earth. In any country you will find so many people who love their country and they sacrifice their life for their country. There are so many families where parents prioritize things according to their children and the list of examples of "True" love goes on....
As far as relationship between a man and a woman is concerned, I do not think love counts all those things which you have mentioned, people say all those things until they are unaware of "true" love. When it happens, it makes you crazy sometimes in good and sometimes in bad ways. That is why, it is called that "True" love is blind.
The day true love will disappear, we will not exist on earth.
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
16 Dec 10
Hi dollar3235, I applaud for what you said, it is truth, i will keep it in mind! Thanks. :) Bless you, my friend!
@joystick (1675)
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15 Dec 10
I will say that there are some people that love other people for all the wrong reasons, one of them being money the other for a roof over their head.However there are people that are in true love, like a friend of mine, so there are some people that are in true love that will do anything as well as everything for the person that they are in love with.I do think that some times that there are people that fall in and out of love with a person that they are with.
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
16 Dec 10
Hi joystick, thansk. I know what you said it true, but i think that love a person because of his money is tragic, what about the rich guy goes bankrupt suddently? abandon him at once? Sad world!
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
16 Dec 10
I DO believe that true love exists. However, I don't believe we all get a chance to experience it. If we do, Its a one time shot. We have all, at one time or another, believed ourselves to be "IN LOVE". Whether its the real thing is another question. True love is finding the person that GOD made just for you. True love is fitting together like puzzle pieces.I must admit I've thought I had my true love and was sad to find out that he wasnt. I have been with My honey for 6 years and I will admit I've never felt or experienced certain feelings that him and I share. On the other hand we do have our share of doubts as well. I believe I have yet to find my true love. I hope we all eventually find the love of our lives. Happy Holidays. dl
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
20 Dec 10
Hi dloveli, thanks for response. You are absolutely right. I hope we can have chance to experience true love, to find the right person God made for us. At least, we have rosy prospect in our mind. It is wonderful to have hope in mind. :)
Bless you my dear friend! :)
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
17 Dec 10
There are all kinds of love in the world. The love you are speaking about between male and female is out there to. It is difficult to find compatable parteners but they are there. I feel you have to get to know someone to love them. How can you say you love them and you dont know anything about them? There was one time i fell in love at first sight. That was the day my first grandson was born.
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
20 Dec 10
Hi jdyrj777, i am sure you are a proud, happily mother and grandma. Yes, the force of emotional attachment is magic, like my mother always loves me no matter i am succeed of fail in doing something, she always ready to give me a hand if necessary. Ties of blood love must true love, no doubt about it. :)
Merry Christams to you and all your family! :)
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
18 Dec 10
When one is first attracted to another because of their beauty or wealth, it's not love; it's lust. I believe that it is possible that lust would develop into love, but this is not the usual occurrence. As a rule, when beauty fades or wealth disappears, what love there was flies out the window.
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
20 Dec 10
Hi bellis716, thanks for response. Sure, you are right on this point. I agree with you. :)
@Lotswits (176)
• Hong Kong
17 Dec 10
Love must be true, otherwise there is "fake love"?
Regarding love, there's love with certain conditions and without any conditions. As your example said, someone love a man just because of his wealth, or rather on the surface, their appearance, etc. That's their standard, their conditions for love.
Others are rather romantic, they can die for love. I can't give any of such detail because I have no such experience. Sorry. However, when you actually in love, you are excited, you are happy, you are thinking of your loved one (not his money) all the time. You almost see his everything is perfect, his every act is lovely. That may sounds weird, but is that called love with no condition that you can live with him in much poor environment?
I preferred love with certain conditions. If true love is equal to no conditioned love, then it never exists in human society (not this world). I believed that even we can not reach such standard, we can try to get closer and closer. The guy appreciated my effort maybe my loved one.
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
20 Dec 10
Hi Lotswits, Thanks. Right, Love is magic, which can make people cleverer or sillier than usual. hehe, it is amazing.
I think true love is two souls appreciate each other and can share with each other. Of course, As Jane Austen's idea, in real life, material is needed, but view material as the unique condition.
@sweetmary86 (822)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
love only exists in the mind,,its just a state of mind....dont be deceived by your emotions hahaha!!
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
20 Dec 10
hehe, thanks for response. I would rather to choose believe it, although it is really hard to find it. :)
@Sissi321 (130)
• China
16 Dec 10
it exist in the world in my old opinion,but now, i don't think so ...because the people are too reality...if you don't, they will...sometimes,you have to be this...so many many lovers because of the reality seprate from each other...but in my deep heart....i am eager for the true love...
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
16 Dec 10
Hi Sissi321, it is the same as i see. but i also eager for true love. I hope we can get it. :)
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
17 Dec 10
i don't think so. People now are after the physical sense and never after love. People are getting married because of fame, money, or property. Maybe, there are very very few numbers who can testify that it really exist nowadays.
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
20 Dec 10
Thanks for respone zaga_Deuth, right. Just as another mylot friend said, just some really lucky and unlucky person have chance to experience true love, sure it is precious! hehe.
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
16 Dec 10
Hi rhizjen, I hope true love happen to you and all the people who expecting it. :)
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
16 Dec 10
Hi raygicaro, thanks. if so, i will pray and ask God prvide us more true love. :)
@PSTordilla (88)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
From ancient times to the present, from philosophers to psychologists, they have been asking the same thing. There is no clear cut way of determining whether love exist. Equally enough there is also no way to prove that it doesn't exist.
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
16 Dec 10
Hi PSTordilla, thanks. True it is very old topic i think. I guess when human exist this topic exist. lol.
Anyway, i hope the answer is yes.
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
16 Dec 10
True, something unfair in this world, but i think we'd better view it in a positive way, so everything will become better and better. Good luck to you my friend!
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
16 Dec 10
Thanks snm7520, I can see your opinion and agree with you. However, i do hope there is something of spirit in love. I hope the two people two spirits can appreciate and share with each other.
@Caduceus123 (44)
• Philippines
15 Dec 10
true love does not exist. there are times that i would consider a person the most person i love but sooner if other things are compromised (i.e: money) i simply teach my brain to tell my HYPOTHALAMUS to stop that feeling over that person. Simply for me..LOve is all in the mind..it can be forgotten if theres a need to
@summerrainylily (256)
• China
16 Dec 10
Hi Caduceus123, thanks for share. Right, this is what we see everywhere. So many lure in this world. For me, i think if I love a boy, no matter if he is a pauper, I will be a happy pauper with him. I don't know whether my concep with change with time goes on. hehe.
