wife beating

So sorry to hear that. Are you sure that he is beating you for above two reasons? Or do you think there is any other reasons behind that? It is important that you understand the reason carefully first. He use to do this before or how long he has been doing this? I would suggest you to do following. Know the reason carefully. Ask him the reason. It might be different from what you are thinking. If it is only due to above two reasons then stop arguing with him as much as possible. He might be short tempered. If you need to do, do it calmly. Try to stop talking with other man as long as it is really required till he stops beating you. Tell him that you need to talk with certain people regarding certain things.Some times it can happen due to jealousy and jealousy can be also due to deep love, great attachment. Try to understand and if it is so let him understand the necessity of talking with other mans. Explain him how you feels when he does such thing to you. Discuss with him and try to bring certain feelings in him. Being a human being he will surely have certain compassion and mercy feeling. If he is doing for different reason try to solve it out. Let him understand your pain. Try to talk about how happy other couples are staying. And how happy you and your children be if you can follow the same. Try to talk about your growing children. How happy you are and how happy he should be. Being dad he will really love his children except in few cases.Try to let some body close (relatives talk with him). It can change his mind. You might have probably tried above things, if not try as much as possible not to bring divorce. In first case you will really regret for it. He might be loving you. Your children will find no hopes without dad. If nothing works, then i think every body on this world has right. Fight for right.

Please don't get me wrong, but when I read for the first time that you're a woman of 15 with 5 children, I kinda felt sick. Then in your discussion someone said you're 35 so I checked out your profile to find that it's just a printing mistake. The first thing that you should do is to look for a job secretly. Don't tell your husband anything about it. Once you get the job you go and contact an NGO that fights for woman rights. You may also need to see a lawyer just in case. I don't know if your parents are aware of the situation. If they know about the situation but isn't ready to support you on this, then don't tell them that you're looking for a job. If they don't know about this, then inform them. If they advise you to stay with your husband then don't tell them about the job. Get the job first and then tell them. You will need to be financially independent before you take any serious step.

Hi sajida, I'm so sorry for you. Tenrajj is right, just follow his advice. There's nothing anybody can do for your here but offer advice. I may elaborate on tenrajj, if you cannot bear it anymore and the government doesn't do anything either, go away or send your husband away, whichever is the convenient way: Pack your bags, hide, go back to your parents, go far away. If you can't, put poison on your husband's food, or stab him or shoot him (if all diplomatic things fail). All is fair in love and in war, so they say.

Hello sajida, Felt bad on your situation.Have no idea about India's culture on marriage but beating a woman, a wife or any person is a big NO. With or without reason it is inhuman to beat especially you as a wife. I could see from your profile that you have been married for 20 long years since you said here that you married at the age of 15 and now you are 35 years old. Beating you regularly within that 20 long years? If its in that case, I salute you for having such perseverance enduring all the pains. You are a strong woman i believe and there's always a beginning of all end. This would be it. Try to look for an NGO who could help abused, battered women and am sure they have all the means in helping and perhaps they can give you some access to fine job for you and redeem yourself. Consult a lawyer whose focused is on family laws. I think there are public lawyers in your place. All this things need much guts and courage from you and time of course. But first thing most, if you have a chance to talk heartily with your husband do it now. Take your chance for he had already corrupted your life from the very 15 age of yours. You really tore my heart in here!!

Hi sajida. I am sorry that you have to go thru all this. There is a violent in your family. The worse thing is, your 5 children will learn from your marriage that beating is right. You got to end this for the sake of your children and yourself. Your so called husband should love you and be a good husband to the family. Not violent towards his own family and wife who gave his 5 children. End this. Make sure you have financial support. The rest will go along smoothly. Beware that he will come to you for trouble on and off. After some time, things will be fine.

well if ur husband is sort of gud person u must adjust him on any cause...if he is sort of bad u sud really leave him taking ur kids..one day he will undersatnd u and take u wit him....

Hi Sajida, Welcome to Mylot. You are only 15 and already have 5 children and a husband who beats you? Do you have parents that could help you out? or maybe an aunt or someone? You should not have to stay in an abusive situation. Do you have a way to support yourself if you were to leave?

First you need to find out a safe place to shift with your kids.Is there any friend or someone from you mother side who can give you temporary place to live?Shift from that house if its un bearable. Another option is is there anyone you know to whom your man respect and fear?Like his dad or mom or brother?you van ask him/her for help.Tell them to talk with you husband.

definitely divorce! but if by any chance you love him and you think he loves you and lacks manners and common sense, warn him about the divorce, tell me him about right and wrong and how it might affect your kids in future and if he still doesnt seem to learn divorce is the only way, but all i'm worried about is how its gonna affect your kids in future and uh take care

I am so sorry to hear that you are still going through all this after so many years of marriage. I did go through that once, but my husband has changed for the better and now he is caring. I cannot say this will definitely happen to you too. But I would like you to give it a try. If talking does not work, try warning him that if he does it again, you will go to the police or worse, file a case of domestic violence against him. But make sure that you have your relatives and friends on your side and think carefully about all your options. I guess you are not working and are dependant on him financially. Try getting a job which will give you some money for your expenses. Any job would do. You don't have much choice for your first job. Then when you have worked for some time there, you will be better informed to take up a better paying job. It is actually better if you ignore him and do not argue with him. Keep your interaction with him to the minimum. Men like this do not deserve to be given importance. You have your children to take care of and concentrate on them. Working will give you the confidence you need and you will be able to make better choices, leaving him or staying with him. Your mind will get cleared. It does not matter if you are not much educated or that you have not been working for so many years. You will get some job or the other. Do it without hesitation. You will definitely find a way out.

how much you can take pain i no your feeling but you have think about your children i'm very sorry i'm not able to help you

sorry to hear that sajida