Do festivals bring families together?
By kiran8
@kiran8 (15348)
Mangalore, India
December 16, 2010 12:22pm CST
Now that Christmas and New Year is fast approaching, it also brings with it a time for bonding with close family ! I have noticed that many people prefer to spend festivals with their loved and close family members. This one aspect is common to all Religious festivals and to that extent one should appreciate the role it plays in making people happy ! Many friendships are renewed and misunderstandings are sorted out during this period since it makes everyone feel generous and magnanimous ..
Your views friends and any experience you can share with us
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12 responses
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
18 Dec 10
hi kiran,
festivals certainly bring families together.
my sibling, our youngest is married to a german and she is working abroad. she always tries to find time to visit every year back here in our country. and she always time it with festivities going on. like today, she is here and will spend christmas with us and her family. she probably will leave after new year.
have a nice day.
ann
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
18 Dec 10
Hi tigeraunt, I am sure that you are all happy to have your sister and her family with you. I too look forward to my sister and brother visiting us here and spending time with them during festivities. Hopefully I too will join them for bringing in New Year! Enjoy the festival week and have a blast with your family...In case I dont get a chance to wish you later, let me wish you and your family A MERRY CHRISTMAS..
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
thank you. i wish you and your family the same, Kiran. Merry Christmas!!!
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
17 Dec 10
hi kiran madam,
that is right madam that families are together in festivals and function,because festivals all employees will get holidays,if functions are there they put a leave and come toghether at one convenient place and enjoy the festival or function,but we regularly does not met with others or others with us on festivals,due to business busy,only functions will make us together,have a nice day
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
19 Dec 10
hi kiran madam,
thanks for the response,that is right,but rather then festivals we family members met on specail occassions and functions,my second son is comming from Bangladesh in this week,then my brothers daughters and one of my brother will come and join us,to share his experience in Bangladesh,have a nice day
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
19 Dec 10
Thats really nice Sridhar, By the way where do you all meet ? do you have an ancestral home or at one of your places? you are from AP isnt it, which town in AP?
It is nice to have family gatherings if you have a good rapport between each other otherwise it can be difficult! all the best, hope you are having a good relaxing Sunday
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
21 Dec 10
I have noticed that Christmas brings families together because of the celebration. It is especially a time to see children enjoy opening and playing with their presents. In my home country each home has a Christmas tree that is decorated. The mother and father might put that up on 1st December. They will go out to purchase Christmas presents and pop to the post office to send Christmas cards. They invite family to have Christmas dinner with them on Christmas Day. The couple might have two children: a five year old boy and a 1 year old girl. They might have over the lady's sister and her husband plus the man's parents. Then many family members would come together. In a case when a man lives far away he is likely to visit his mother at Christmas time. Christmas time is a time to feel generous and enjoy seeing family and friends.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
22 Dec 10
Hi maximax, thanks a lot for your views regarding Christmas . I agree that even here in India I see most Christian families getting together, children living abroad or elsewhere flying home to be with their parents and extended family to celebrate the festival . It is a nice warm feeling to forget all past differences , if any and come together and enjoy this time of the year. - Merry Christmas to you and your family
@moneyspinner (613)
• Mumbai, India
17 Dec 10
Yes Many festivals were being introduced with the motive of uniting the family members and general public on a broader scope. Festivals are the only time in today's fast paced world that a person gets to enjoy with his family and people often get together to celebrate such occasions on a larger scale by inviting everyone in the family and having a great time, releasing their stress of daily life, having a fun filled time in those few days. The atmosphere then is very much electrified and happy with a lot of joy within people. The Saints and great people of India had this vision long back when they introduced such festivals by whatever means as mentioned in the sacred texts. One of the motive of those festivals they knew in the modern time would be to unite people as the life then would move very fast with everyone getting very busy not have time for their own self. I strongly agree that many friendships, relations are repaired, misunderstanding sorted out in that joyful atmosphere. People forget all there sorrows for few moments or days and enjoy their heart out. I have had many of such experiences during festivals which made my sour relationships with my enemies sweeter :D.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
17 Dec 10
Hi moneyspinner, you are absolutely right about what you have written !Festival time is a time when we forget all the petty differences and come together to enjoy life.Sometimes I wish that human beings carried this spirit through to their every day living and their relationships. Quality of Life would be so much better and there would be peace and no unnecessary violence and ill feeling ! thanks a lot for your views - have a nice day and a great weekend
@moneyspinner (613)
• Mumbai, India
17 Dec 10
Yeah Even I wish that people carry that attitude in everyday life, So that peace and happiness spreads everywhere. Unfortunately there are also people who get drunk on festive occasions which are publicly celebrated and create a ruckus out of nothing in public places. Things like this should also stop and people should start behaving maturely.
You too have a nice day and a great weekend ahead :).
@pokumon (644)
• United States
17 Dec 10
I love Christmas. I spend it with my family. My brother and sister both live far away and I only see them this one time a year so it's great. New Year's I've spent at my brother's party before but my other brother thought I was flirting with these guys who were hitting on me. I had a boyfriend and was just talking to them, but he kept saying to me what would so and so think? My other brother (I have three) kept then gesturing to me to lean in and then laughing in my ear. I got really allergic to something at that party (maybe cat) and ended up in the emergency room the next night. I had an early flight to California but couldn't reschedule without paying 700 dollars so my brothers packed my suitcase and I flew full of IV Benadryl. I prefer spending New Year's with my friends instead of family needless to say.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
18 Dec 10
Hi pokumon, lol, that was not a good experience , but that is family. I guess most families tend to be protective and in doing that also end up being overbearing and to a certain extent irritating ! Thats probably one of the reasons why youngsters prefer the company of their friends when it comes to celebrating festivals and any special occasions - thanks a lot for the input, all the best and MERRY XMAS
@Kalyni2011 (3496)
• India
16 Jan 11
Kiranji
I agree with you, now i am in Hyderabad with my son's family, my hubby Professor is with me too, we have many friends here too. Lat evening we had attended a party on occassion of pongal hosted by Prof Reddy
Hubby told me about you once, he has friends around the globe
Not only religious festivals, social functions bring family together.
nice discussion, thnxs
kalyani
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
16 Jan 11
Hi kalyani, are you prfessor's wife? Nice to have you here amidst us.I hope that you are enjoying your time here on mylot .I agree that what matters is the spirit of the festivities , makes us forget many trivial and petty issues...all the best, enjoy your Sunday
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
17 Dec 10
Yes kiran most of the people like to celebrate their religious festivals with their families,relatives and friends. These festivals have social impact. Some may not like to perform the religious rituals. Still they come to the festivals. Because they get the opportunity to meet with the dear and near persons. These religious festivals can be looked as social get together.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
18 Dec 10
Hi bhanu,I too like the tradition and the rituals more than the religious significance. It brings people together and spreads joy, and thats what is far more important ! I agree that it is more of a social get together - thanks a lot bhanu for your views, have a nice weekend
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
17 Dec 10
What good is a festival if we do not make a fresh start? For good or bad we have our family and friends. What every religion tells us is to make amends and to forgive. Once this is done, the real festivities start.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
18 Dec 10
Yes thats true, we have to make a start somewhere to bury the hatchet and start afresh and festival seems to be the right time to do it ! That is one of best functions of religion as an institution - thanks a lot webearn for your views, have a great weekend
@06MLam (620)
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17 Dec 10
I think this is true for the chinese festival as well because we think that it is very important for us to gather together during the festivals since we do not always see each other at other times of the year. Therefore, it is a pity for me not to be able to go back home during chinese new year as I will be having my lessons in the UK on that day.
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
18 Dec 10
Hi Lam, thanks a lot for your response, sorry to hear that you will not be back home with your family to celebrate Chinese New Year . We used to live in Hong Kong a few years ago and I have some lovely memories of watching the fireworks and lighting of lamps etc; around the city ! - all the best and a great weekend
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
16 Dec 10
Yes all Festivals bring Filipino families together, but the most significant for us is Christmas and New Year. It's the time we go back to our parents bringing along our spouses and children, and our brothers and sisters do the same, so it's one whole bonding of the clan, not to mention our aunties and uncles and cousins, even distant relatives are welcome because Filipinos value the importance of family very much and is best manifested during the Christmas season
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
17 Dec 10
Hi louievill, thank you so much for the response.It is great to see that you still preserve old traditions of family gathering , which is becoming a dying practice in most metros across the world.Even here, in India one can see that such a practice which was in existence when we were younger , when we all got together in our ancestral home to celebrate Diwali and Ugadi together, is slowly being replaced by smaller celebrations within the nuclear family and may be friends . Nowadays many end up by going to a hotel for Dinner - sad but true !
I sincerely hope that filipinos continue with this practice of coming together and bonding . All the best and wish you and your extended family a Merry Xmas and all the joys of the season
@bilalbabarsaleem (73)
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16 Dec 10
thats right all the festivals are great way to meet love ones,and mostly people like this because of this,and people want to celebrate this with the families
@kiran8 (15348)
• Mangalore, India
17 Dec 10
Hi bilal, thanks a lot for your response .Religion was an institution that was formed to unify people and spread peace and love between all sects of people, so it is only natural that religious festivities do bring people together at least for that short period of time - all the best and have a nice day