Tantrums - how do you stop them?

The best thing that you can do mentally to stop children from throwing temper tantrums is to ignore them. Most of the time when children are throwing a tantrum it is because they are aching for attention of some sort. Therefore, if you are able to ignore a child that is throwing a tantrum, then the behavior is more likely to stop on its own in a shorter period of time. That is what I did with my children and neither of them have tantrums anymore.

Are you kidding me just let them throw the tantrum and work through it or offer to finger paint. So what you are saying is throw your tantrum. Finger painting is a bribe to get them to behave and a reward at the same time. How about letting the child know that his tantrums are unacceptable behavior. How about putting the child in their room until they get themselves under control. First off if you have other children in the house the tantrum is a disruption to them. They may indeed try and mimic the action because there is no consequence. Putting the child in their room and telling them they can come out when they stop tantrumming keeps the main part of the house in order and the one whom is tantrumming is in their room safe and working through their own actions. I have a seven year old autistic daughter who is the tantrum princess (quiet common in autistic children) when she starts I march her right to her room and she knows she can come out when she is done. I leave the store or the public place where I am at if she tantrums. Showing children that their actions are a choice, the choice they make comes with a consequence good or bad. It is hard but in the end you have the control not the kids

Ah, reaching the terrible 2's early! My younger sister (who is now almost 4 and is still working on getting out of that phase hehe) also started early, probably right around 17 months, too. I think everyone has different ways of dealing with it and I'm not sure there's a "right" answer to this. I think it really depends on the child. I haven't had the pleasure of dealing with that yet (my first one's due March 1), so I can't offer you any advice other than what I've learned from others and with my sister. I know that sometimes you have to just let them have a tantrum. I have yet to see a healthy situation arise from someone saying "I don't allow tantrums" because children do it naturally and for some children there's just no stopping them except physically. My mother in law was telling me that her oldest son used to throw awful tantrums and she didn't know what to do because she was afraid he'd hurt himself he was that physical and the doctor told her to just let him throw them if she couldn't get him to calm down. The doctor said he wasn't going to do anything that would hurt himself, he knew his own limitations, and the important thing was to get him to calm down from the tantrum. Once she wasn't afraid he'd hurt himself anymore, my MIL would watch him start flaring into a tantrum and say OK I can't talk to you while you're like this, you need to do what you need to do to calm down, and she'd walk away. Since the whole point of tantrums is to get attention or get his way, he quickly realized it wasn't working and stopped the tantrum. For my sister, I've always thought that talking her through it was better and it usually seems to work for her. I mean, there are times when she just needs to be left alone to do her thing and calm down on her own, but, for the most part, talking her through it resolves the majority of tantrums. I always make sure to let her know that that behavior is not acceptable and that is not how the situation needs to be handled. If there's something she wants, she knows how to ask for it properly, so she needs to calm down and do so. For the most part, it's easy to explain things to her in a way that she understands and accepts, though it might take several tries (I'm not exactly used to talking down a 2 year old!). Then again, like I said, every child is different and it really depends on where your child's at and what works for her. Not every child is going to be the same. I guess the only thing to really keep in mind to reinforce that the behavior is not acceptable, to try to show her alternatives to having a tantrum, and that sometimes the best thing you can do is walk away (not necessarily leaving her unsupervised, just letting her think you've gone away). A lot of times tantrums are for attention and that will teach her that there are more appropriate ways to get your attention. :) I hope any of this helped. Sorry I can't really offer anything more than that! Best of luck and I hope you find something that works for you.

Tantrums mostly result from the fact that a child's abilities are increasing, yet they have so little control over their lives. They are carted around all the time to errands (that must be done of course) that they find boring. They don't usually understand why it seems like they can never do what they want. As someone already mentioned, giving choices to toddlers is very important when it comes to avoiding tantrums. They may not be able to chose to stay home from the grocery store, but they can chose what they will wear (appropriate for weather) and what small toy they can take to amuse themselves while in the cart. Once a tantrum starts, it is important to realize that the child has lost control of him or herself. A parent's job is to teach emotional control. A time-out is not a punishment, it is a tool that you give your child. Adults need time-outs all the time (I know I would have flipped on some unreasonable customers at work a time or two if I didn't take one!) and children need to be taught to recognize when they need some time to cool down. An activity that lets them express their emotions without yelling and hurting others is a good idea. When they are young, punching a pillow instead of a brother or sister is a good idea. When they get older they can maybe draw a picture of what makes them mad, followed by a picture of something that makes them happy instead. I told one boy I babysit that he could go to his room and say all the bad words he wanted as long as it was into his pillow -- because the words are only bad if he is using them to hurt someone's feelings or offend someone.

I give my child choices that i can live with. The choice between types of yogurt, the choice between two pairs of shoes. The choice of what you are going to do first. The only tempertantrum that my daughter keeps having, she is 2, is going to bed. Her bedtime routine has not changed, but she is just so curious she yells from her room "what you do?" We try to stay as quiet as possible. alot of times she climbs out and comes to investigate. We firmly tell her it is her bedtime, which leads to screaming and crying.

For me,I don't my kid to be spoil all his/her life.You tend to give eveything to him/her. It is very hard to stop their tantrums.You have to tell "NO" to them.