Everybody has a brain and the function of the brain is to question

Hi Zandi! I think some people are critical no matter what the discussion is. When I am MyLotting, I give honest answers to a discussion and I am who I am, however, if I totally disagree with a particular subject, there are ways where you can be polite and not just down right rude. I think some people that start discussions ask for others opinions, however when we give them they get very defensive. If you ask others for advise or their opinions, you have to remember that is exactly what they are...THEIR opinions. It doesn't mean you have to take their advise. With that being said, their are other people that answer so rudely and that is not necessary. We are all humans, and make mistakes, but to sit on here and slam someone for sharing a story with others is really unexcusable. I enjoy my self on mylot as well as you do, but lately some people on here have to learn to lighten up a bit.

What can I say zandi? I actually love controversial discussions I have to say they are the one I enjoy most! may be that is why I do not post very often[ if that!]I do not enjoy bland discussions! I just love something I can put my teeth in to it! if you know what I mean?

Just because a discussion gets a large number of responses does not mean it is a controversial topic. It could be a really fun topic to respond to. Or it could be a Universal type of discussion that everyone can relate to. I do not understand why someone would be critical of your discussion just because people can answer it and choose to do so.

I would think so . A post is to get different responces and opinions really dont think that is controversial. lots of responces make you feel good and ya know that people are reading them

I don’t believe that a popular discussion is necessarily a controversial one. I posted one about a year that received over one hundred responses and it was about one’s favourite drink or something equally innocuous. I don’t believe that you are the type of person who would purposely set out to be antagonistic. I didn’t read the post you are referring to but I am still certain that your intention was not an argumentative one so the people involved with the touchy responses are best ignored; maybe they were the ones who set out to be quarrelsome!

Hi Zandi. I have seen some discussions here that have gotten pages and pages of responses, but the discussion has been very basic with not a lot of room for back and forth discussing. Asking a question and getting a response is not really a discussion in my opinion, but you see quiet a few discussions here like that with no real opportunity for voicing a real opinion. You are right, our brains need to question our thoughts and the thoughts of others in order to stay healthy. A clever mind can only come about through use and discussing topics that may have different view points is a great way to exercise our minds. I think some people are attracted by controversial subjects, but most I think prefer to avoid them. Sometimes I am willing to participate in them, but other times, I think I could not be bothered so I move on. It really depends on my mood and how much time I have.

zandi congratulations for getting a lot of responses as that meand a lot of us appreciated your discussions and wanted to share our opinions. I never look at any of my discussions that really get a lot of smoking was bad for your health. i mean those against it poured paragraph after paragraph in saying it was bad while all the smokers pounced on me and some really insulted me.also it caused two trolls to take my ten down to a five in 24 hours, I did complain, and they were indeed caught and banned from mylot . I was only put back to a 8 but I worked myself up to a 9 and 92 percent which is okay. I feel I have at last earned that.

Not all discussions with lots of responses are controversial. I've seen many that were fun and/or silly, but not controversial at all.

There is always some jerk around to rain on your parade, don't worry about people like that.They are probably just jealous of u because u got so many responses. I think it's great to get alot & am glad when anybody else does. Have a happy weekend.

Of course I am always happy when one of my discussions grabs the attention of many people, it's great fun to hear from those who are not on my friends list. But mostly I am just glad the I get the number of responses necessary to get paid. I am happy that mylot can work so well for you. It helps me also, in many ways it is my only social contact. Blessings and Happy Holidays

Hello dear Lady... Though my health issues have kept me from being as active here as I would like to be, I still follow your writing daily. WHen I see something I feel truly compelled to respond to, I do so. As I read this this morning, I felt for certain compelled to write. First let me say that "controversial discussions have been the Gateway for some of the most fascinating writing ever done. I myself love a good "debate" and that is what I rather call the proverbial "controversial conversation." They often bring out a two way street meaning that the most intelligent AND the most ignorants often will respond as one. But the question here is... do you receive a huge amount of responces because your write was controversial? Well, there again, as I said, the smart and the not so smart answer the same questions sometimes. The fact that many of your writes draw in huge reponces is not based on them being "controversial." I believe fully that you receive many responces because like me, many readers find your discussions to be very thought provoking and completely worthy of a responce. You write with passion and open discussion that are about the every day person. The you and me and the guy next door. Relevant discussions that allow a vast variety of answers because there is not always one simply answer to be written. You feed the very life line that has made MyLot as strong as it is today. You open peoples minds to thoughts and there-fore, you fill in the spaces as Mylot writers should do. I would think, rather than the fact that your writing was controversial, it is in fact highly interesting and so, it brings in the huge responces that I have become accustomed to seeing attached to your discussions. Any other explanations are formed by writers, jealous of a great writer and to make thenselves look better or feel better, they tear you down. Do Not let them take you down, precious lady. Keep doing what you are doing here because the responces ou receive say it all, very loudly. You start interesting and sometimes even intoxicating discussions and That, dear one, is what you are suppose to do here. Thank you from me for that. Always I am just a screen away. ;) Darrel

I agree that everyone has a brain. We could not live or function without it. Our brain is used to respond to so many different things. I don't believe the brsin is only used for questioning things in our lives.

For em to question because they don't know anything but to listen because they want to know anything.

I have been a member of this site for a few weeks now and i have been trying to get the time as well as the energy to come on here, iof there were only more hours in a day then that would help,lol.I think that there are alot of interesting things that they put up on here and there are always things that we can relate to.I do both start discussions as well as respond and it is great, as there are great people on this site that take the time to resond and keep responding, then it is the case that we all try to keep up,lol.