am i looking at this wrong?

Okay I wanted to sort of laugh with this one Kristinad, but in all honesty I suppose she has never had the experience, so she found the opportunity. I am glad you told her no, and gave her another way of looking at things as, yeah it would be a bit odd for a 55 year old to be the flower girl. Hey long time you have not been on.. Congrats to you and a blessed wedding and happy life to you and your fiance.

lol, different people have different ways to see a thing. maybe to your future mother in-law, it's not something weird to be a flower girl which might have always been her dream, even at the age of 55. but truly speaking, it might appear funny if she comes out with flowers in the place of a flower girl walking towards her own son and daughter-in-law. if you don't like such a scene, just do what you want to do. but please, at the meantime, put a consideration on your mother in law. just make sure the whole family is happy while in the wedding good luck and happy the coming wedding

When my daughter decided to elope...they went and picked up my dad...her grandfather.....well he was their witness...the photographer...ring bearer...and flower girl not to mention the other duties that he had to cover....it was one of the best days of his life. I don't know any other grown woman who would want that job..I'd at least make sure she is included in the activities and not left out! But another job...might be more approrpiate!

well if she never done that before i understand why she wants it, but it will sure be akward...and it's his mother, very hard to say no wow...can't you talk to your boyfriend and to him keep the secret of what you told him but can't you make HIM be the one to make his mother give up? his family --- his problem

It's quite funny that your soon to be mother-in-law asked you to let her be the flower girl on your wedding. I think she really really wants to experience being a flower girl. Well why not? Almost all of the girls experience that. But yeah, it will be weird if that would actually happen. People might wonder why did you allow it. :)

Well hi Kristinad, I think it's kind of funny your feance's mother wants to be your flower girl because in my opinion, and from what I personally know, flower girls are under the age of 10 years old! She must have been truly excited to have offered such a thing... so no... you're not looking at this wrong at all!!

Sorry, but this kind of made me laugh. I was a flower girl at my parents' wedding when I was 4 and I hated it! I wanted to be a ringbearer, but I was the youngest, so my siblings got that position. I thought it was so lame being the flower girl. I couldn't imagine wanting to be a flower girl at 55, though! I'm 20 now and I can't imagine being a flower girl at my age, even. xD Honestly, though, what it comes down to is what you want, not what she wants. Obviously you want to have a good relationship with your mother-in-law, but she needs to understand that this is your wedding, not hers. If she has the chance to do what she's wanted to, that's great. If not, she needs to understand that this is your big day and it should go as you plan it and she should be OK with that. My sister was flower girl at my wedding and we actually had to change things last minute because she decided she didn't want to walk down the aisle in front of all those people! She was only 2 at the time, so it was understandable, but we had to have a bridesmaid walk down with her and she was OK. :) But that's what we had decided and that's what we wanted. I would have said no if my MIL had asked to be flower girl, too.

Well if your traditional I can see where you wouldn't like this. If your not though who cares who tosses the flowers.

It would something new, imagine mothers and aunts as flower girls. The cute little girls would lose their job tho.