Women Never Win

Hi zands, The reality is that we still live in a patriarchal society and women are still far to be along side of men, specially when things of such nature pops up. If this had happened to me I would not have the heart to embrace her/him though for the humanity sake I would bring her/him up.

what i pity all about is the relationship between the daughter and his father... and for the mother! that was big mistake! all i can say, god bless

I think this woman, whoever she is, is a disgrace to all the rest of us women. Obviously she did not take her marriage seriously, so why did she bother getting married at all? That makes no sense to me. Exactly to drag a poor little child into all of this... now that girl's daddy is not longer her daddy? What happens now? He abandons her? What will that do to her? And all at the fault of her mom!! That is just awful! I can't see a court saying anyone enticed her, doubt he will win that case - because obviously she didn't need much enticing!!!

I am a woman and any child that I loved would be ok with me. The mere fact that this child was not related in some way wouldn't matter at all. Also let it be know that a great many marriages end in the first three years, you often find that with all the stressess that come with marriage just can't help but overwhelm the marriage.

Hi zandi I just ponder and ponder some more before answering to this discussion. I can not ignore the fact [ in the first place] when you state that she got herself impregnated by different source other than the legal owner! actually I disagree with that! marry or not no one actually owns any one, he may be marry to her but he don't own her. No one owns another human been except on slavery.On the other hand if this man can sue another man for enticing his wife! give me a break! no one entice any one unless you want to be enticed! is that right? Ok I Am getting confused again. And not I would never abandon a child whether she/he was mine or not. And hell is full of women? I can see in my mind a long cue of males longing to go to hell.

Women never win, interesting title. We live in a patriarch society. World is inhibited by man. That's a sad story. Me too myself don't agree with that idea. In this case, the kid should choose. If he choose the mother, the father still has to support them. If he choose the father, the father should not separate him with his mother. They should negotiate in this matter. No one-sided decision.

no reasoning why she went out on him stupid on her part. as to the man if he has any love for the child he can still be a daddy but if she is only 3 and the woman remarries she will get a new daddy that might loe her more. that is if the woman decides to remarry and not just claim men as Uncles or daddies.

If I had an emotional and legal attachment to the child, I would try and stay in her life even if she wasn' tmine.

So many men abandon their own children it does not surprise me all at this guy doing this. men didn't use to have the feelings for their children like the mother's do. I'm gonna" brag on my son here but he is such a good dad & i'm so proud that he is. I don't know if not ever having his dad in his life made him that way but it is a great feeling to see him w/my grandson. I don't know how anyone can mistreat any child physically or mentally but know it's done all the time.SHAME ON THAT KIND OF PEOPLE.

It's very pity that nowadays we all going to post marten on our relation. Relation of life is based on emotion. But we now are trying take human relation to the lab. Now it's also a surprise that why the woman gets herself impregnated by different source other than the legal owner? But most effected fellow is daughter. What is her crime that she has to pay for life. Some other does wrong and some other pays for it. It is the injustice of destiny.

Obviously in different countries we have different laws. I also feel sorry for the child. She has grown up always having her parents there and knowing that her dad is her dad, until the dna results came through. She is the one that is suffering more than anyone. But isn't the man also suffering? I mean his now ex wife could not keep her legs shut even while she was a maried woman. How can you say that women are always on the losing end? Maybe the relationship would have ended maybe not, but if she had kept her legs shut to another man rather than her husband then she would not bein this position now and atleast the little girl would know that her dad really is her dad. Look at what this woman has done, she is so far from innocent it is unbelievable. Men do not always have the last laugh at all. Surely this will hurt him as he would have bonded with a child that could have been his. I feel more sorry for the girl, then the man, the woman created these problems and the dna results PROVE that. I am a man and i would not abandon a child i brought up thinking was mine, however maybe the mother would not want me near them, or the real dad, but that would be for the courts to deal with, would be a shame spending years with a child thinking that they are yours and then finding out years later they aren't, you might not be blood but it doesn't stop you from being a father to the child who knows you as that and you have bonded with, i would try all i could to still spend time with the child, she doesn't deserve all the heartache that could come from this, but i would agree that many men would just walk away, i don't know how they could do this, especially after years of bonding.

This title is very interesting. Yes we live in a patriarch society. Man always win in any situation. That's sad story. In this case, the kid himself has to choose. If he choose the mother, the father still has to support their life. If he choose the father, he should not separate the kid with his mom. Still there is a negotiation between them.

Well i can say the opposite :) How a men win when he love his wife so much and she not only have someone else while married and even the "daughter" that they have is not his . Hold on there is a hell for the men not for the woman she knew what she is doing ... so even if its hell for her she bringed it on her self . Well about will i abandon the kid it really depends if its very little i can still leave it to my "wife" and her "boyfriend" and throw them all out of my life . But well if the kid is grown up i think even if its not mine i will be connected with it and i might not want to leave it for any reason cuz it might have already have a place in my hearth and already have in my life .

There were even some countries in this world where the woman is at a disadvantage in setting cases with regards to marriage, or in the society as a whole. Laws should be equal between both gender. I do not understand why men has the upper hand with regards to these. I feel sorry for the woman in the story. And the poor child too. Better laws should be provided to protect the women and the children. And proper implementation of it should happen.

I am not so sure that it is women who never win. In my opinion it depends on the individual situations. There are plenty of men who, if there was such a place as hell, certainly would end up there! In a case such as the one you describe I would imagine that the man involved would not have the heart to abandon the child because, as we all know, it takes a lot more than a DNA match for a father to be a father, if you know what I mean...As far as the woman in this instance, I cannot place judgment because I don’t know all about her story but I pray everything will work out for the benefit of the little girl.