will it really work out?
By yhanie
@yhanie (188)
Philippines
December 18, 2010 4:36pm CST
my boyfriend and i have been together now for 9 months, or so,, i can count the days and months but i cant cant the fights and arguments we had,, i think since we were on out 5th month things started to go out uneasily,, almost every week or two we had arguments,, but i know some of it was mine, and some was his,,
it just always starts with me being pissed and soon i won't talk or even look at him, i know it's too childish but i can't seem to stop my habit,, he always make the first move to fix things up,but me ego won't let me,,i love him and he loves me so much that even if how many times i hurt his feelings still he comes back to me,,
tell me,will our relationship last for long?
4 responses
@tyjones (15)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
Relationship without arguments will not last for long and Based on your scenario, the answer will be Yes.
Yes - because you still love each other even though you made a lot of arguments and you both keep coming back.
@tyjones (15)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
You should talk to her and ask her these,
Are you tired with me?
Do you still love me?
Please tell what problem you are mad at? (So we can fix this)
or Any questions you think that is relevant to your Relationship status and "You think" will solve your problems.
@yhanie (188)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
i also think about that,, 'cause what i've observed, our relationship keeps going strong after every fight,, he still need me and i still come back to him,, i know there's love in us,, and i know it would be for too long,, i'm just afraid that he will get tired of me, and there will be nothing i could do to have him back,,
@thenextnoel (396)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
Only you can answer that. However, might I recommend that you talk it over every time you have an argument? A good conversation to work out differences is really a wonderful experience. Spiritual, even. I'm sure he'd also appreciate the effort you would put forth in working things out instead of giving him the cold shoulder.
Sorry, if I sound too preachy. I'm sure you'll make it work :)
@yhanie (188)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
well, that's a good advice,, i know i'm wrong, it's just that i don't easily say sorry or forget something he did,, i always think that if i easily forget people's fault against me, they would become abusive and make that same mistake again and again,, that is why when he does something wrong, it would always come to an argument,,
i would really try hard to do what you've said,, to talk to him calmly..Ü
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
19 Dec 10
wow dear, i don't think it will
an argument a week, that's not very healthy
but there's love? do you feel loved? if there's love then you guys are meeting each other and the differences are still bothering you but it will go away
the only question is: is there love in here? if yes, fight
if no, let go already, you deserve to be happy
@yhanie (188)
• Philippines
20 Dec 10
yes,, there's love and i do feel it strongly,, it's just that i easily get upset or disappointed whenever he does something that i don't really like,, he always come to our house if we're in a fight to fix things up,, yes i know he loves me and he knows i love him,, there was a time that he decided to break up with me,but came back for the reason he can't stand the pain,,
thanks for encouraging me to still go on with our relationship!!
