Which type of marriage have lower chance to failure, Love or Arranged ?
By sreerajkm
@sreerajkm (34)
India
8 responses
@rhizjen (140)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
Hi! I think it depends to the couple on how they handle their relationship regardless of how it started. There are some success stories of Arranged Marriage and there are failures in marriage even though both partners love each other.
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@sreerajkm (34)
• India
31 Dec 10
Hi friend, I feel your comment is the apt one for that subject....
anyway congrats........
@sjlskl (3382)
• Singapore
19 Dec 10
Either one will have the fair share of success and failure. Many years ago, marriage is based on arrangement. Divorce was something that were not heard of, unlike now. So instead of viewing the choice of marriage, see the trend and the people's mentality towards marriage now.
@ParaTed2k (22940)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
19 Dec 10
It has little to do with the two people involved in the marriage. Two people who are arranged to marry probably live in a society where that is how it is done. From day 1 they are conditioned to love the person to whom they are assigned to marry. For most of them, the idea of choosing their own mate is as foreign as choosing ones brother or sister.
Most of the people who think most couples in arranged marriages hold any kind of resentment for it are from cultures that allow us to choose for ourselves.
You also have to take into account that most cultures that arrange marriages have strong taboos against divorce. This means that fewer people would even bother considering such a thing.
Divorce is much higher in cultures where spouses choose who to marry. Not because it's a "better" or "worse" way to do it, but because there is usually more freedom to choose divorce. The easier it is to choose divorce, the more likely it will be chosen.
The fact is, any man and woman who are willing to put the needs of the other ahead of themselves can have a happy and wonderful marriage. However, that is just too much to expect of some people.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
19 Dec 10
In a marriage where the couple have lived together, found out they are compatible and then had their wedding I think that would have the most success. That is as long as each person, the wife and the husband, try to get on well. They should be the type of people to have clear discussions and loving cuddles. The couple would have go married because they in love and think they are compatible. In an arranged marriage the couples might be strangers and it would take time for them to get to know each other. It would be sad if they didn't end up falling in love. In that case their marriage might fail. These days as many as 2 in 5 marriages will fail.
@picjim (3002)
• India
19 Dec 10
World over especially in the western nations the boy and girl meet one another,understand or fall in love and get married.In India i feel a majority of the marriages are arranged.The advantage in this type of marriage being that the elders who played a major role in arranging them also counsel the couple in correcting them and help in making the marriage a success.In love marriages it is left to the couple to be understand one another and this isn't very difficult as they have a head start over the couple who opt for arranged marriages as there is deep love.
@dicefame (114)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
Definitely arranged marriage has the bigger chance to failure because marriage is made by Love. Marrying someone you didn't love is like a hell. I don't get the idea why other people doing things like that (Arrange marriage. Just to make sure the future of their child.
@visavis (5934)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
Actually through my observation and experienced marriage with true love are more chances of long and no failure. Why? Because if the couple having LOVE to each other they have respect, understanding, sacrifices, intimacy, forceful, wellingness and kindness. I'm not saying in arranged marriage those I mentioned are not there but very few of those only is respect to parents, tradition, culture and sometimes there is force to do. see you around