Ideas how to improve ourself?

Hello, hello, first thing i would do if i want to fight with some of my old and annoying habits is to look the way everything in me is and to compare it with the way i want everything to be. As example i got this old habit to talk too much. But in my real life i would like to say less words with more meaning, not to explain minutes and minutes for what i'm talking about. I fight with that every day. I have friends like that, who use only few words and sometimes they say much more than more. So i made resolution of what i do and i made resolution of what they do. They think more before saying, i don't think so much and this is why i can't talk so clear, with only few words saying something exact. If it is something more difficult and hard for changing, i would do same resolution of my attitude and would read in internet how to change that. There are always tips and different advices, written from different people, sometimes people who write the articles are people who got experience of what they write for, so it's much easy for everyone of us, to read the change from first hand - person, who did it with himself.

For me the things you have mentioned above is called JEALOUSY. It is because you want to be like others and you are not contented with what you have. But it is normal for a human to be JEALOUS with someone. :) Avoiding such bad character is really hard. But you just need self confidence and trust your own self. For example you saw someone with awesome muscles and start thinking you want to be like that person. Always tell yourself that you do not want to be like him and you are just making yourself better. :)

hello friend, Improving oneself is a matter of discipline. One must know his/her capacity and ability of doing so. Some people tried to improved oneself but failed due to lack of self discipline. I've learned so many things through discipline. If you can discipline yourself from eating too much,surely you will loss weight. If you want to control your temper,discipline yourself to hold your temper. If you know how to control yourself by discipline ,you will always get the control of everything. Presence of mind is one of the best aspect to control yourself. Because when you have presence of mind you can always remind yourself of things that you should avoid. It is not easy to change oneself from what you once used to. It takes a lot of patience. And never give yourself a time limit in pursuing any changes or else you will be focusing on the time frame and once you are satisfied with the outcome you will end up with frustration and might stop believing in yourself. Discipline yourself with presence of mind and lots of patience will result in believing yourself that you can really improve to the level of your desire. Happy Holiday

Hello Visavis, When ever I looked at my former classmates' photos in Face-book, I can't help envy and wished I could have been "liked this and that". But I know It's my fault and I believe i can still turn things around, God has mercy on all around us.. Unfortunately for me, I have develop a bit of a bad character but i don't let any one noticed it much since am sure it's a phase of life that i can still overcome. One thing for sure, I have done things that made me happy but was never in the course of harming others, except that i was too busy with it. There are times that i thought i have become mature, but i didn't. times that i thought am being idiot but exactly what matured people do.. But best thing to do is we improve for the best or benefit of others, with out even bragging about it. sometimes we have to loosen up to regain our self control... Have a Great day.

hello visavis! in order for us to be able to change ourself, kick our bad habits and bad attitudes, we must first have the determination to really change. if you're wishing to change because you want to be like somebody, you wound end up disappointed because you will never be able to change for long, most likely. Change must emanate within us, because we want to be better persons. The next thing to do, is to stop yourself when you're on the verge of giving in to your temperament. You could count from one to twenty before giving in to your emotions and letting your mind think rationally about the situation before erupting into such a frenzy ranting. the only person who can change ourselves is us, and only us. we cannot rely on other people to change us, thus the motivation to change must emanate from within us. we can control ourselves if we just try to do it. You can change your bad habits and attitudes if you really want to and you make all effort towards the achievement of your goal.

I think that you first have to realize from whence (where) you come, a power greater than yourself......Contemplate the following, "Can I treat every person and every situation in a way that I would like to be treated (with another or in that situation)? If you can begin to see yourself at a higher plane and become the person that which you yearn to be, in control, patient, etc......focus on that....Those qualities are who you really are..... Remember, we are all on a journey, and we are all at different spaces and levels on this journey. When you learn to extend patience, kindness, you are operating from who you really are, the highest level of your being....

First, we must stop trying to be like everyone else. We have to learn to accept who we are to LOVE that person. Each person has their own talents, abilities and positive traits. Seek and you will find. I am currently reading a book that is teaching me how to more easily do that. I believe that is the first step to improving ourselves.

If you're a moslem, you can say "Astahgfirullah". It means : "Lord, bring me to peace hearted" or "Forgive my sins". Please receive my apologize if you're not a Moslem. On the other hand, when you feel mad for something, "bistro" to take a deep breath, realize for your existency here and this moment, and think of Dalai Lama/Paus. Your soul is gonna be calmed down and wise.