Friends/Family who happen to be Gay
By ParaTed2k
@ParaTed2k (22940)
Sheboygan, Wisconsin
December 19, 2010 5:35am CST
Don't we all have friendly and/or family members who happen to be Gay?
Whenever I'm in a discussion about issues where Gay people are concerned, people act like only people on their side of the issue have friends or family who are Gay. I have to wonder if they base all their social or political decisions on the people they love.
I would bet most of them have friends or family that don't live the way they do themselves. I also bet most of them have friends or family that do things with which they strongly disagree. But I would bet that doesn't stop them from loving those friends or family.
Yes, I have friends and family members who are Gay. Yes, I love them every bit as much as I love my friends and family who aren't. I also have friends and family who do other things I can't support... but that doesn't stop me from loving them.
I've been called all sorts of names because I don't agree with every word of the Gay rights agenda. Like disagreement somehow equals hate. I guess the issues I do agree with don't matter. If I'm not willing to goose step to every demand, then I'm somehow bigoted.
Well, I'll turn the tables on you bigots. If you can't love someone who you disagree with, not only are you a bigoted fool, but I pity your whole life. If you're so shallow that you can't be friends with someone who thinks differently than yourself, then you are no different than any KKK member.
Don't tell me you are "tolerant" or "enlightened" if your "tolerance" and "enlightenment" give you justification to hate me, especially when that justification is based on your own lies.
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8 responses
@thenextnoel (396)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
The gay community is pretty much accepted here in the Philippines. Plenty of openly gay celebrities, minimal workplace prejudice, and general acceptance overall. It's not really a big deal to anyone whether someone's gay or not, as they have more problems to think about than offer resistance to homosexuality. Tolerance is one of the national qualities I admire here.
@ParaTed2k (22940)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
19 Dec 10
So you can disagree with Gay people there without being accused of hatred?
@thenextnoel (396)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
Well it's a predominantly Christian nation so the church still doesn't agree with being gay. But as far as open hostility in school and the workplace, I've yet to see that. Sure, some homosexuals have a hard time coming out, mostly due to being afraid of the initial public reaction and fear of angering their dad, but after the dust settles, the majority finds themselves pretty much accepted. Some straight people actually PRETEND to gay just to get a few laughs from their friends (the good kind of laughter). As I said, we don't HAVE to like it, but why bother to be hostile.
@matersfish (6306)
• United States
19 Dec 10
I think people are just so used to being PC, because it's the "in" thing to do, that they don't even realize they're patronizing and sometimes even being a bigot when stepping all over common sense and logic in order to defend popular culture's protected classes.
But this is just one of those issues that will never be worked out. De Niro has it best on this - it is what it is.
The most ironic sht in history is that you can't criticize a homosexual person (or insert any "minority") or a situation they're involved in without it instantly becoming about only their sexuality.
There's no "equality" in any of that. It's just BS placating feel-good nonsense that the rest of us either address or we don't.
The silver lining I see in it is that it's great rant fodder. 
@glamgirldoll (313)
• Philippines
19 Dec 10
I dont think theres a difference when someone is gay. I have many gay friends but it doesnt bother me as long as they are happy. Gays too have the right to be happy like everyone of us wants to.
@ParaTed2k (22940)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
19 Dec 10
So you wouldn't accuse someone of hatred, just because they have different opinions as their friends who are gay?
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
19 Dec 10
I don't have anyone in my family or in my circle of friends who is gay or has family members who are gay--as far as I know, that is. But I would love them anyway. It doesn't matter how God made you, what matters is the person you are in your heart.
I used to be very ignorant and thought being gay was a deliberate decision, that it was a sin. Then I got to know a few gay people and realized they weren't the depraved perverts that I thought. I was confused but since I couldn't reconcile the person with the perceived "sin" I figured there was something wrong with my logic.
Then they discovered that gays are born that way, that there is a genetic reason. That makes sense to me. I was ignorant and stupid and needed to grow.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
19 Dec 10
I don't have any family member who is gay but I have many friends who are. I'm not kind of a person who look for friend based on how they look like and if they are a real man or not. I never had problem with it and I'm happy for anyone to be my friend including gays. We all deserved to be loved, just because someone is gay does not means he does not have feeling. Have a nice day
