Do you think that being unable to let go of mom and dad can

There is nothing wrong with a strong relationship with your parents. However if that relationship is too strong and is somewhat needy that it affects your other relationships then something needs to be done. Alot of the time it is the parents fault - being too cotton wolly. Lets talk Psychology - there are diffrent forms of attachment that Psychologists have found. Ainsworrth did this to detail in America. Children are often "Securely Attached" - these are infants who like close proxemities to the Caregiver (parents) and feels anxiety to starngers. Insecrue Attachent is the complete oppisite. Insecure Avoident is what we are looking at now - an infant who tends to avoid social interactiona and intimacy towards others. You may be thinking how this has got to do with adulthood - there are links between them. Whatever your attachment type is likey to be passed on to your adulthood - it could be transfered to your lover or stay with your parents. I hope I helped.

I also think you should have contact to your parents but not so intensive that they make all your decisions. I like my parents and often have contact to them, but sometimes I think it's a little too much. I am no child anymore and am able to make my own decisions. Earlier, I was still insecure and didn't know exactly what I wanted. But then began my first love relationship that was also the most intensive and most serious one. My girlfriend also always told me not to stick too much with my parents, I should make my own decisions. And then, this was easier from time to time. Unfortunately, we are apart now, but I learned much from that relationship, and I am able to make my decisions better now and not to rely too much on my parents.

Hello, littlefranciscan. I see you are majoring psychology. I have, for all my life, observed people. But I have no great knowledge in the field of psychology, I'm quite superficial on it. First of all, let me point out that here in Brazil it is really common for people to be living with their parents until their 30s, 40s. Basically, somebody will leave their parents' home if he/she gets married. I know this is not very common in Europe. Also in United States, where people turn 16/18 (not quite sure) and start living on their own. Now, I feel that there is no problem in having a great relationship with your parents. I cannot really talk to mine about everything, because all they do is attack my concepts and my dreams like if it was never going to come true. However, I know some mothers can be awesome listeners. If that was the case, no problem. A person would feel free to hang out more with their parents, and that is just because there is a strong bond between them. I can't see any barrier in there, since the parents usually have always been there to support the person. However, what I also can clearly see is that staying with their parents and sticking to them is a signal of commodity. Sometimes, people won't leave their mothers' wing because everything is so easier. You have a house, you have the bills paid, you have more money to yourself if you work, you have no responsibility cleaning the house or doing house chores... Not as much as if you lived by your own. Commodity really is a barrier, and that should be fought. But if the idea is to stick to the parents due to the great guardians they are, there is no problem at all. As you long as you realize that someday you will have to live on your own, and be able to survive without them.

I think one does not really break family bond no matter what age you are in. I think that you will still be able to stand on your own, make your own decisions even when you are with your original family. I know a lot of people who are now living their own lives away from mom and dad, and who are making wrong decisions all the time. Being with family does not make one lose one's sense of judgment.