Being a new mom can be a mixed bag...
By brigette1
@brigette1 (19)
United States
December 19, 2010 3:25pm CST
Hi everyone! I'm new to MyLot and also a new mother. I'm 22 years old and my boyfriend and I decided it was time to start a family earlier this year. Well, my son is now 6 weeks old and we are so blessed to have such a beautiful little boy. He is the light of our lives. That being said, we are exhausted! His concept of day and night is still in the works so I've pretty much become nocturnal.
I also find myself worrying about everything under the sun. I worry whether I'm feeding him enough, if he's growing properly, if he's happy... I could go on forever.
What I need is some advice from other parents who've been down this road. Please, any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated!
6 responses
@Burgandy0083 (29)
• United States
20 Dec 10
You sound like you are doing everything perfectly :) Now sit back and relax. He will eat enough AND sleep enough. Yes, be vigilant, but not so much to the point you don't enjoy him. In time he will be crawling and there will be a whole new world of things to think about. By then, you will be ready for those things too. Just get the rest you need now. Also give yourself a pat on the back for the wonderful job you ARE doing. Oh, and don't forget to get rest when he is resting. VERY important. You sound like a first time Mom who wants to do an Awesome job. You are off to a fabulous start. Please don't forget to give yourself credit. :) My Best to you. :)
@Burgandy0083 (29)
• United States
26 Dec 10
Oh My Gosh! You sound so much like me! I would call the doctor before I would eat chocolate or do anything. I even stopped my morning coffee. That was really hard, but anything for my baby! You are welcome. It's so fun to see new mom's reacting the same way I did. My oldest is nearly 22 years old now. I read the pregnancy books, then the baby development books. Then had a list of questions for the doctor when he had his check-ups. Babies are so amazing. Everything changes when they arrive for sure, but if you are nervous all the time, he will start to be nervous too. Be vigilant but have fun with him too. Look what you and your husband created out of Love? That is so Awesome! Just Love him like crazy. I know you do that. What more can a baby ask for? I don't think he can ask for anything else. :)
@brigette1 (19)
• United States
23 Dec 10
Your positive words are just what I needed! Thank you so much:).
I read a lot during my pregnancy about nursing, development, etc. I also pretty much lived in a bubble while I was pregnant-avoiding everything they say you should. I guess that's why it's hard for me to see the good I am doing now. I was in total control while I was pregnant, but boy has that has changed!
@crib4mythoughts (115)
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20 Dec 10
I am also a new mom like you. My daughter now is already 9 months old. I can also experienced the same feelings. However, it is also good that you have a supportive husband or partner beside you.
I was stressed out before because my baby was awake at night. I can't even sleep at day time. It is true that you should nap when your child is sleeping. You should take advantage of your child's sleeping time. I suggest you read a lot about parenting. Things to do to make your child fall asleep at night. That is what I did. She started to sleep at night when she was two months old.
Enjoy every moment with your baby. Time flew so fast.
@brigette1 (19)
• United States
23 Dec 10
Wow, 9 months seems so long from now! I can't even imagine what he'll be like when he's that age. I can't sleep during the day either really, which is what makes it really hard. I've read a lot but he's still not old enough to put him on a sleep schedule. Soon hopefully!
Good luck with your daughter and thanks for the advice!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
19 Dec 10
The first thing that I think is important advice to a new mother is that you shouldn't worry too much. The baby will eat what he needs to eat in order to thrive. He is going to sleep a lot and not really do a lot for the next few months. However, this is really the easy part. Yes, you will eventually get some sleep because he will be sleeping at night, but then you have to worry about all of the crumbs in the floor, electric sockets and the corners that you find in a doorway. A mother's worry never does end.
@brigette1 (19)
• United States
23 Dec 10
It's like my mom says, "Little kids, little problems. Big kids, BIG problems"!
@asyria51 (2861)
• United States
19 Dec 10
nap when he naps, and if the house is not in perfect order that is fine. Babies will not starve themselves, nor will they eat too much. If he stops drinking his bottle or nursing, then he is done and getting enough to eat.
@brigette1 (19)
• United States
23 Dec 10
Sorry it's taken me so long to respond, duty calls! Anyway, the thing is, he'll fall asleep or pull away (both apply to nursing and bottle feeding), so I burp him and put him down to sleep. But he's screaming 5 minutes later! I try to offer him more before I burp him, but he'll even purse his lips to reject it. It's so confusing!
@lilianbach83 (7)
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20 Dec 10
Hello Bri,
I feel your concern as a new mummy!! Well my elder sister passed through the same road! Im still no parent but an uncle lol! I will just advice you to talk issues with your own mom! If she isn't aruound you just call her on the phone. Who know she could help you better.
Wish you the best in this parent hood!
