Incomplete
By gloryacam
@gloryacam (5540)
Philippines
December 20, 2010 9:30pm CST
I have read sometime in the past that sometimes, our bodies (female bodies, particularly) follow a biological clock. My age is perfect for rearing children, and I wonder if that is one reason why sometimes I feel that my life is incomplete (I don't have any kids yet)? I am well-accomplished in my career. Of course, some things have been sacrificed to get to where I am now. Some time in the past, I was having lunch with a client. A few tables away from us was a high school classmate with her entire brood, good-looking husband and three beautiful kids. Me, all hot-shot with her big-time client, in a most poker-face I can muster, and she, with that big, bright smile amidst baby drool, endless kid-chatter and chocolate stains in her blouse. I keep thinking I chose what I wanted to choose. Why is it then that sometimes, especially in times like this, I feel that something is lacking? Inputs, please, from moms, career women, superwomen (moms with careers), dads, and pretty much anyone who has had to make a choice in life. TIA!
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7 responses
@markroderick (888)
• Philippines
18 Jan 11
Being a single woman is really quite enjoying though of course there are times that you want to have a life aside from all the success that you have accomplished in life. Most of us feel this especially if we are getting more matured. Especially if see our old friends having their families already and cute kids tagging along with them. It is normal for us to feel and wishing that hope we can be happier too having a family of our own. Always pray for it and God really knows whats best for you. Just be patient enough. Enjoy life when you are still single.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
18 Jan 11
That's right. I'm actually enjoying being uncommitted now, but sometimes I look at my old friends and their kids, and I feel that I've given that up. Maybe, I might just consider having my own kids. But, until then, I'll paint the town red!
@tkonlinevn (6438)
• Vietnam
18 Jan 11
Hi Gloryacam.
You can choice your life, of course. So, if you feel incomplete, you could full of. Don't have any reasons in order that you won't begin to do that now.
Life is short, so, don't wait for!
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
18 Jan 11
Yup, in life, it's all about our choices. And, yes, life is too short not to enjoy!
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
22 Dec 10
You are so right. We create our lives everyday. Maybe for the holidays, I will take a long, hard look at my life and see where I want to be headed. Thanks!
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Dec 10
I personally made the decision to put the idea of having a career on the backburner after my son was born because I knew that I wanted to be there for my children (I also have a daughter that is four years older than my son). That said, I think that my life wouldn't be complete if I was a career woman and not a mother. Additionally, I also don't think that I would be happy working outside the home while my children are young because there would be so much of their childhood that I would be missing.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
27 Dec 10
Right, there are just some things that are mutually exclusive. And that's what I was thinking when I chose to follow my dreams (professionally). But, like they say, I still have the time to choose to have children, especially now that I've accomplished most of what I've dreamed of in my career. I admire women who chose their kids. For career-oriented people, especially the current times where freedom seems to be the choice of most, giving up a career is hard to do.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
21 Dec 10
I understand from you discussion that you are very careered and do not have any children. If you are not able to have any due to biological reasons and or do not have a mate.
Maybe I can suggest you mentor small children some way as there are so many who certainly would find it quite fun and fulfilling to have a well established person as yourself spend some quality time with them.
Good luck to you and please be well.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
22 Dec 10
Yes, I guess mentoring children for now will do. I used to teach Sunday school (back when I wasn't so busy) and love being with kids. Maybe I need to refocus and see what are the things that really matter. I hope the holidays will give me time to re-think my life. Thanks for the response!
@Ann771 (8)
• Czech Republic
21 Dec 10
Its only you who actually knows why. The answer is in you. Maybe is the time to make a different choice? :)
Just to what you think can make you happy. Me myself, career made me happy, I wanted it, but I never thought about it as separate path of having children. I was just not ready for that. Lately I feel like the time for having babies is coming to me, because I just feel it, and that is what I am going to do :) Just concentrate and wish what you want to have. There is never to early or too late for anything, its always just about you.
I don't think you need to be a superwoman to have both, at the end its not so difficult as people are trying to present it. For me women who have chosen just to take care of children without working are a bit lazy.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
22 Dec 10
Right, it's all up to me. Maybe I need to refocus on my priorities. I'm glad for you because you're now ready to have kids. As to full time moms, I don't think they're lazy. I actually admire them for being able to sacrifice their career for the little ones. It would be one difficult decision for me if I were to make that choice. Thanks for the response.
@zaga_cleuth (1407)
• Philippines
21 Dec 10
A life without God is nothing but an empty hole. Biblically speaking, God is what makes us complete. Sorry if you have different beliefs. But, what i'm saying is, a life without relationship to the creator. Whatever term you use to call Him. We can have everything in this world. We can even say that we own the world but without him we will always feel empty.
Anything you want to ask and to have you ask Him. Even your problem of incompleteness. He is the one who will fill those void in you. I'll pray for you. Smile.
@gloryacam (5540)
• Philippines
22 Dec 10
Right. Probably because lately I've been having an on-off relationship with God. I agree with you, and I guess I should lay these feelings on His feet. Thanks!
